Virginity Is Awesome!

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This Virginity is Awesome video is taken from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel and was recorded in 2015 for a Quirky Love video series. I feel that society bashes people for being a virgin and makes people feel they should be ashamed if they haven’t found someone to have sex with and given their virginity away. I am here to tell you the opposite, I think it’s amazing if you are a virgin and I would date a virgin. I think it’t great if you have kept your virginity for yourself and it is something you should be very proud of. In a world that pushes sex upon you, remaining strong and true to who you are, and not letting anyone take that from you, means you are a super strong person. Be proud and don’t let anyone put you down.

Although some asexuals have had sex, many are virgins and inexperienced at sex. As asexuals can love, live, and be happy without sex, there is no “need” for them to have sex if they don’t want to. Even though I have had sex in the past because I thought I had to as part of a relationship, I still believe it’s beautiful when asexuals keep that for themselves and I would definitely say not to let anyone convince you of a need to do that. Stay strong, and keep being you.

Watch my Virginity is Awesome video and let me know what you think.

As always, until next time, stay ace

I love you

Sandra xx

Life without sex – Asexuality explained | Asexuality Documentary Sky News! | Asexuality stereotypes busted!

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You can’t be sexy if you are asexual – Asexuality myth busted!

Sky News – Life without sex asexuality documentary – Asexuality Explained
Asexuality stereotypes busted! Heteronormative myths busted

In this Sky News life without sex asexuality documentary, asexuality is explained and asexual stereotypes are busted! Yasmin’s outer appearance when modelling is that of a very sexy, raunchy girl, who oozes sex appeal to many, yet she confesses she is asexual and aromantic; she lacks both sexual and romantic attraction, and she doesn’t pursue romantic relationships. When asked in this life without sex asexuality documentary how her modelling works with her asexuality when she is modelling in this highly sexualised environment, she says, “I’m not trying to sell myself – I’m selling a product”. She goes onto explain she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike because there is so many stereotypes surrounding asexuality and “lets give the diversity to asexual people to show who they are’.

You can’t be married, in a relationship, or love someone without sex! – Heteronormative myth busted!

In this documentary there is also a homoromantic guy couple (gay asexuals) Thom and Steve Winter-Gray, who have been married for 18 months. They explain that they both lack sexual attraction, but are romantic, they still like to kiss and cuddle, they just don’t have sex, and it’s more than just a bromance or platonic, it’s love, just they don’t experience sexual attraction and sex is not involved. They make an analogy to people loving their mum, dad, aunt, uncle, dogs, cats, and pets, but when asking people if they would have sex with them, people say no I don’t, and they said that is how it works for them.

Everyone loves sex, feels sexual attraction and wants it! – Heteronormative myth busted!

And finally there is a teenager, Emi Salida, who is a sex repulsed asexual. She explains how she is disconnected to sex and imagining certain people she has known before they get into a sexual relationship in a sexual context “it makes my brain kinda crash a little bit”.
Watch this amazing life without sex asexuality documentary, asexuality explained Sky News documentary!

And if you are looking for more real life asexual stories told in their own words, you can buy a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book here

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Until next time, subscribe to this blog and stay ace!
Sandra xx

What is it really like for an asexual who does not have sex? 20 benefits of no sex for an asexual!

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What is it really like for an asexual who does not have sex?

I recently published this video about not missing out because I have had no sex since 2011, and I still say the same thing as I did in the video below, in 2015, that it feels fantastic – to not have sex!

These are some of the other benefits of no sex for me!

  1. No worries about getting pregnant.
  2. I don’t have to take the contraceptive pill that has side effects and can make you feel ill.
  3. No worries about STDs and no need to be tested for that.
  4. Less anxiety, worry, and stress, in general.
  5. No feeling raw and upset after sex.
  6. No getting bored from having sex with a guy who does no foreplay. (Foreplay is fine and can be enjoyable with the right person in a serious committed relationship, sex is boring with most guys, or really not worth it, or I would rather be doing something else.)
  7. Less chance of being with a guy who will pounce on me for sex.
  8. No expectations of sex means I can relax and chill more.
  9. No forcing myself to do something that does not feel good to me and I am not comfortable doing.
  10. A sense of relief that I don’t have to be something I am not.
  11. No having to please a partner in that way if I had one.
  12. No pain from doing that.
  13. I can relax around asexual guys.
  14. I can make lots of asexual friends as I am not focused on getting a sexual boyfriend and having to have sex.
  15. I can avoid getting into relationships with sexual guys that are no good for me.
  16. I have a chance of finding real and true love without sex.
  17. I can kiss without sex, which is far more pleasurable for me.
  18. I have more time to focus on my career and do other activities that are worthwhile and can be life transforming.
  19. It’s liberating to be free from something that goes against ones own soul and natural being/personality.
  20. I feel happier. I feel I am more me, and can live my life my way without being tied to convention.

As you can see from my list of 20 benefits of no sex for an asexual, there are a ton of reasons why I am so happy I don’t have sex. What’s yours?

Until next time, stay ace! Sandra xx

Asexuals Live and Love Without Sex! And that is Liberating!

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Asexuals can live without sex and love without sex, and in a world that is so sex focused, that can be tough. It can also be liberating. I haven’t had sex since 2011 and I am so grateful and thankful for that. I didn’t like doing that, it hurt, and because I don’t need it or want it, I would have preferred to just kiss.

It is freeing to know that there are others out there who are just like me, who can live and love without sex. Check out these articles about asexuals who can live and love without sex.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/nov/29/asexual-preference-sexuality

http://welkermedia.com/daily/david-jay-aven-asexuality+