“Ace”ing Asexual Diversity, Self-love, Intimacy, Touch Sensitivity, Body Confidence, Non-conformity

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Ace Diversity event

Thanks to all of you who joined the live and intimate diverse discussion during our “Ace”ing Diversity event on Instagram today https://www.instagram.com/asexualiseofficial/ and https://www.instagram.com/rang.org2020/

In the main host Ritash’s own words they felt – (Re)energised & inspired by this fantabulous & intimate conversation with Sandra & Hayathi on “Ace”ing Diversity.

I felt very honoured to be introduced as a “celebrity” – see this clip in the video below, or click here https://youtu.be/2iUE4Dm-Ghk 

It was one of the most raw, real, authentic, interview discussions I’ve ever had.

“Ace”ing Asexual Diversity, Self-love, Intimacy, Touch Sensitivity, Body Confidence, Non-conformity, covered a wide range of topics:

I was asked about my bestselling Asexual Perspectives book and why I wrote it. – If you haven’t yet got a copy, you can get yours here https://amzn.to/48bZR2C 

We talked about Self-love – Including what that looks like and what actions you can take to self-love / self-love more.

Self-worth, body confidence, self-trust, self-respect, being your own cheerleader and best friend and so much more was discussed under “self-love”.

We talked about self-dating and the fact that on Feb 14th 2015 I founded International Celebrate Being Single Day.

We discussed why it’s good to be happy being single, while also being open to a relationship if wanted, and other types of connections.

We talked about being touch sensitive / averse.

We dived into sensual attraction vs sexual attraction.

We discussed arousal and sexual behaviour without sexual attraction. 

And so much more in-between, if you missed this insightful discussion check out the replay on instagram, now, https://www.instagram.com/reel/C3LKNujPr9K/?igsh=MWthaDRzMG5td2M1aQ

Or on my own YouTube channel here https://youtu.be/qPYKoDnxWAw

Or by hitting play on the video below.

This was filmed live on Instagram using our mobiles.

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL AUTHOR, SPEAKER, COACH, SANDRA BELLAMY ACE-ING DIVERSITY DISCUSSION LIVE INSTAGRAM 10TH FEB

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Asexual diversity discussion

TODAY is the day – I’m thrilled to be speaking and co-hosting “Ace”ing Diversity, asexuality and queer diversity discussion, on Instagram, Sat 10th Feb, 3pm GMT / 8.30 PM IST.

Follow me at https://www.instagram.com/asexualiseofficial/ 

With @rang.org2020 @nestamvizag @brown.queer.pride @ritashachanta – please follow us on Instagram and join in the discussion in the comments today at the handle @rang.org2020 💜
If you follow me https://www.instagram.com/asexualiseofficial you should get notified of when I go live, so you can join in the conversation via my profile.

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Would be ACE to see you there,
Sandra xx

If you missed the live discussion on Instagram it can be seen here https://www.instagram.com/reel/C3LKNujPr9K/?igsh=MWthaDRzMG5td2M1aQ

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE! Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like!

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ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE

My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexuality Diversity book is now live and published on Amazon Kindle.

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and shop now, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like

This is the second part of my two-part Asexual Perspectives behind the scenes of my book video series. – What a writer’s life is really like!!

As you can see from this pile of manuscript, lots of sweat and tears went into this book!

I hope you enjoy reading the book and if you purchase a copy, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi please leave and honest review!!

Stay ace

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK: What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE.

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ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK

What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE. What is the hardest part of writing a book? Special Edition Video Series. In this video series I give you a behind the scenes look at what it is really like to be a writer and author. Part Two, in the next blog post, shows more of the making of the book and my daily routine.

UPDATE: This book is out now in both digital Kindle format as well as paperback here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi