1) Asexuals usually hold friendships in high regard, so you will feel valued if they are your friend.
2) Asexuals will focus on getting to know the inner you, so you will feel you are important to them.
3) Asexuals see the world in a way that other’s don’t, and that is a special gift.
4) Asexuals often like to keep busy with various activities and hobbies, which makes conversation with them, interesting and stimulating.
5) If an asexual invites you out for coffee to get to know you, they literally mean what they say, and they are not trying to get into your underwear!!
6) Asexuals will not be trying to constantly impress you based on their looks, so you want sex with them; as they ususually don’t want sex and don’t ‘need’ it.
7) Asexuals are often different and quirky, and therefore make interesting characters.
8) Asexuals know what it feels like to be in a minority, so are often empathetic to others who feel alone or singled out.
9) Many asexuals are kind; caring and friendly, and value those who share those traits.
10) Many asexuals are strong and tough, because they have often come up against resistance to being different.
What other things make asexuals beautiful? Share in the comments below and stay ace xx.
1) Asexuals won’t ‘need’ you to ever have sex with them. You do not have to worry about performing in the bedroom – you can be tired and actually have an early night’s sleep.
2) Asexuals are usually much more understanding of your emotional needs. Because asexuals often love through a strong and deep emotional connection, if the trust is built up, they are more likely to be able to give you that deep emotional connection that often sex led relationships lack. Besides people having affairs for sex, they often have affairs because after the initial fizz has worn away, there is a lack of emotional intimacy. Partners start to see flaws; they cut down on their conversations and being open and honest about things with each other. They lose that emotional connection that both need in order to survive a long-term relationship. Asexuals pose less of a risk in this way.
3) Asexuals will take their time in getting to know you as a person and your personality. Looks can change, and if you base a relationship on that and not on mutual respect and helping each other become the best version of you that there can be, it will be a painful and heart-wrenching experience, which ultimately won’t last.
4) Because sex is not a focus of the relationship, asexual relationships will often be based on shared interests, hobbies, and things in common. Which is a strong foundation for a longer-lasting relationship.
5) Asexuals will not have a sexual affair, or go off with someone else, because of a lack of sex.
6) Asexuals often make the best of friends because they value friendship highly. And this is great, because a good, solid, and trustworthy friendship, is a solid foundation for a long-term and long-lasting relationship.
7) Because asexuals are no focused on sex, they often pursue a lot of creative interests, have multiple hobbies and intellectual simulations. Many have a playful nature. This means that there is often always something to talk about and life is never boring.
8) As asexuals do not base their worth on how sexy they can be, or how sexy you are, this means you can relax and show the true you more.
9) Asexual relationships are often less superficial, because much of the ground work will have been done as to compatiblity before you became an item, and you are more likely to have more indepth conversations with them about all matter of things because sex is not a focus in their mind.
10) Asexuals are often different from the norm and this can be exciting and stimulating. Their take on the world is unique and although we share the commonality of the lack of sexual attraction, we are all very different in our personality, our wants, needs, likes and dislikes. Which makes a finding a compatible asexual, very rare and special. If you are lucky enough to find one, hang onto them forever. Because they are the precious gem you have been waiting for – all of your life!
Disneyland Paris 25th Anniversary for 21st Mindset Birthday celebration.
Some people will tell you what to do, they will tell you how to live your life and they will make you feel small, if you don’t comply. But you are not a robot, and you are not them. Live your life the way you want and live your dreams!!
My birth certificate age is not a true reflection of who I am. I like to live like a quirky teenage girl and love thinking, being and acting, like a now ’21 year old’. Last week I was at Disneyland Paris for my 21st Mindset Birthday. I wore a large 21st Birthday badge on my actual day of birth (24th of April), whilst going on the rides at both Disneyland and Walt Disney studio parks, that are at the same resort, and I only had two people question it. I spent 4 nights and 5 days at the resort, (2 nights in London), and I loved every minute of it. I was at total peace and at one with my soul there. I am an energetic, bubbly and lively girl, and a minority extrovert within the asexual community. So to be out and about with people around me, and experience the energy from the music, lights, and action of the rides, felt incredible!
21st Birthday Badge, for my 21st Mindset Birthday.
In order to live your best life you should:
Embrace your inner child and soul. Nourish it with things that make you feel great, that challenge you, and that allow you to express your true self – regardless of what anyone else will say, think, or do! #embraceyourquirky
Follow your own heart, dreams, passions and desires, and do not let what others think, stop you.
Do not let what others say, influence what you say.
Know your own mind and do not change it to suit your environment.
Get out of your comfort zone. Yes, you really need to try new stuff, or how else do you expect to change any of your circumstances if you are not happy with them. (But that will be hard, I hear you say!! Yes, you are right!! So you had better start now!!) As children, we are lead to believe that things should be easy going and that you just fit into a normal existence and pattern of life, if you interrupt this pattern, then think what you could achieve? Instead of your ordinary, you can achieve your extraordinary!
Live your own life, on your own terms.
Be attracted to who you want, regardless of age, status, nationality, ethnicity or other. And don’t let anyone stop you from being with the one that you love and want to be with. So if you love someone, who other’s may not choose for you, remember, it is you who defines your life, not them, not ever – unless you allow them to!! Don’t be loser, be a winner, and get the real and true love that you want. You only have one life, so do not spend a moment, hiding in the shadows and fear of what others want for you. No matter what emotional pressure they put on you!! Be you, and go and get the person, lifestyle, business, friends, that you really want. And when you get good stuff some your way, appreciate it every day.
Toy Story bedroom at Disneyland ParisDisneyland Paris Castle!
Check out my video – Disneyland Paris 25th Anniversary Shopping Spree Haul!!
Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy? This is a great question. There are many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, and just because someone is asexual, does not meant to say that someone cannot find you sexy. Sexy is a matter of perception by the person experiencing that feeling.
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I know how hard it can be to be a romantic asexual, but aromantics, also struggle too! For example, I know how hard it can be for them to form close relationships, for fear of it being misinterpreted as wanting more. And also, how hard it can be to distinguish if another aromantic just cares for them as a friend, or more!!
Some people think that aromantics just want platonic friendships, and not a relationship. But whilst this may be true for some aromantics, it simply is not true for others! And especially if they are somewhere on the grey-romantic spectrum.
Find out more about aromantic struggles and relationships by watching the videos above.
If you are aromantic, what do you struggle with the most? Friendships? Or a potential relationship?
Asexuals can live without sex and love without sex, and in a world that is so sex focused, that can be tough. It can also be liberating. I haven’t had sex since 2011 and I am so grateful and thankful for that. I didn’t like doing that, it hurt, and because I don’t need it or want it, I would have preferred to just kiss.
It is freeing to know that there are others out there who are just like me, who can live and love without sex. Check out these articles about asexuals who can live and love without sex.
I just had to put this video together for you. I still love passion but without the sex. How can you have passion but without sex? And what if you are aromatic, how does that work? I hope you enjoy this how to have passion without sex video and let me know what you think!!
I am in Bristol later today to celebrate being single – going to the zoo and for a meal and to the cinema – which is what I did last year as shown in this video.
International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th.
International Celebrate Being Single Day is just around the corner (Feb 14th), and having founded this special day for singles to celebrate being single, you may be asking yourself, just what is so great about being single.
Since being predominantly single from November 5th, 2011, I began to challenge my mind about the way it thinks about being in a relationship and being single. I was in relationships with guys who were no good for me since 15 years of age – until 2011 – about 19 years of my life! With the largest period of being single in that time, just 6 months! 2 relationships I had were long term (not good for me) and lasted years. I wasn’t a happy person back then and had low self-esteem. I did not like being on my own because I felt alone and very lonely, I liked to be needed, wanted and loved, and felt I wanted someone there for me 24/7 as life would be boring on my own. I am also a very romantic person.
It is fine to want to be needed, wanted and loved – but what I have discovered is that you need to get these 3 things from yourself first and foremost; to be at one with your own soul – then you will you be happy and fulfilled as a single person and less likely to get into a relationship that is no good for you because you will not ‘need’ to be in a relationship. In fact, you may fill your own life with so much joy and happiness that being in a relationship no longer appeals to you. Either way, you will have unleashed your power of one and be on your way to being a super successful single sensation.
7 STEPS HOW TO BECOME HAPPY BEING SINGLE
Step 1. You need to take stock of your life and realise that you have a problem being single and find out why that is.
Step 2. You need to be willing to have an open mind and accept you need to change in this respect.
Step 3. If you have been in relationships for most of your life, you need to give yourself some time to yourself and vow to do all you can to stay single for a set period of time – mine was a year; so I could have time to stop ‘needing’ someone. If on the other hand you have been single all your life and would like to be in a relationship but don’t know how to go about it, then you have some work to do on yourself to ensure you can be single and be happy – as well as work to do on your dating and relationship skills. You can still enjoy dating as a single person and it is good to see what is on offer from a variety of sources, rather than thinking one person is the only choice you have!
Step 4.You need to explore and find things to build your confidence and self-esteem, as well as discover ways to help you to be happy being single. This could include learning from books, articles, training courses, magazines, blogs, videos, audio books and podcasts, or through coaching and/or being mentored.
Step 5. You need to decide what ways you learn best – visual, auditory (listen), verbal, written, – so you can pick which learning method is best for you and implement it. If you don’t know which suits you best, try each out until you find which works best for you. Being happy to be single is a skill you need to master and maintain and you need to recognise this and accept it.
Step 6. Take massive action. You need to implement what you have learned, if you are not prepared to do this then you will stay stuck being single and unhappy – everyone has a choice regardless of their circumstances. If you have no money there is free to watch YouTube videos, blog posts and online articles to read. There is no excuse for not changing your life!
Step 7. Evaluate and monitor your progress via each learning method. If something doesn’t work, then try something else until you can honestly say you are happy being single.
For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my www.Twitter.com/quirkycoaching profile and thought, just what is #powerofone. Power Of One is a powerful online training and coaching programme that I am creating, to show you, just how to be single and be happy being single.
How are you celebrating being single on Feb 14th – International Celebrate Being Single Day?
Please add #ICBSD to any posts and media you post online to show how proud you are to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day!!
What struggles do you have being single and what help would you like to overcome them?
This is one of my furry kid Guinea Pigs called Angel. In this video she makes her YouTube debut on my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel. Angel wishes you lots of love this February. I also love to create poems and so there is one within this video called “Once There Was A Little Furry Kid” – let me know what you think?
I have noticed that a lot of asexuals love the company of furry kids and some would rather have the company of a pet than a human and certainly rather have the company of a pet, than live with a sexual person who has incompatible needs. What do you think about this idea? Can you relate?
Hope you love to Angel as much as I do. Stay ace xx
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