Amplify Your Message bLU Talks – Asexuality Guest Sandra Bellamy – AKA Asexualise / The Asexual Entrepreneur

Listen to my talk about asexuality on bLU Talks by clicking through the link below, My talk starts at 2:14:32.

On Friday 23rd June 2023, I had the pleasure of being a guest on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message, talking about asexuality, what it is, and dispelling the myth that asexuality is a choice – it’s not.

I share my own asexual life journey and about my specific asexuality mission; I explain how some asexuals actually feel left out of the LGBT+ community because others there who aren’t asexual, still experience sexual attraction, whereas asexuality is base on a lack of sexual attraction, and so it’s important to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right globally too.

I explain how asexuality has literally transformed my life for the better, forever. 

This video is on the bLU Talks channel. Please give it a watch here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?feature=share and let me know what you think. My talk starts at 2:14:32.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

What Does It Mean To Be Asexual – What Is Asexuality And The Asexual Spectrum

Have you’ve ever wondered what does it mean to be asexual? How do I know if I’m asexual? How can I tell if I’m asexual? What is asexuality? And what is the asexual spectrum?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place.

Please watch this video below, which I created especially for you to explain more in-depth about what does it mean to be asexual.

This video also explains the asexual spectrum in a way which you should find easy to understand and be able to relate to in some way, including the Aro Ace spectrum within it.

To give you a starting point of what is means to be asexual and aromantic, you can read these Asexual Flag quotes below, but please watch the video above, for a more in-depth picture of what it truly means to be asexual and part of the asexual spectrum.

 

 

 

Watch the video below for the full explanation of what does it mean to be asexual and what is the asexual spectrum.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

Welcome To Asexualise.com Live and Launched Reloaded

Welcome to Asexualise.com. It’s ace to have you here and I hope you can grab yourself a cup of your favourite drink and a slice of your favourite cake, and get settled in to making this your new asexual home.

A lot has happened since I first published this blog post on April 12th 2016. Over 2 years ago! And today is 26th of August 2018.

Sandra Bellamy     

I was a speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference last month.

I have my own Asexualise clothing brand on Amazon here and my own Redbubble shop here.

And now I have a shop on here in which I have gathered the best asexual products on Amazon for you in one place. Mostly they are from Amazon USA as currently they have more asexual products, so if they don’t ship to you, you can buy a range of products from my Redbubble shop.

Last month I also launched https://www.asexualiseacademy.com which is the world’s first online training centre and school for asexuals and asexuality. And I have a free 9 part video training series on there in asexuality basics for beginners! Which explains what asexuality is and what the asexual spectrum and aromatic spectrum is! So go there now and sign up and you will be taken to the Course Library page where you enter your details again to get the course for free.

I created this site especially for you, to empower and enhance your asexual life. Jammed packed with asexual products, social media resources, blog, and more; with more to come, I hope you will enjoy your stay. Enjoy the shop and resources here. If there is anything I can help you with, or any suggestions you have, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. Twitter http://www.twitter.com/acexualise or on my http://www.facebook.com/acexualise page or via the chat box on this site.


I aim to write more non-fiction books for asexuals in the future as well as in other niches. Writing is my hugest passion in life, although I have many others – including being quirky! And I love being asexual, it’s the best thing ever for me. I also plan to create paid for online training and coaching courses in the future; if you want more in-depth help with asexuality, such as increasing confidence and self-esteem, you will want to check those out when they appear on here. There will also be related courses too, such as “Power of One” How to supercharge your single life to feel happy and fulfilled forever. All of these are still yet to come, but they will be on my new www.asexualiseacademy.com

Remember you are ACE!

Sandra xx

Grey-Romantic Vs Demi-Romantic! What is the difference between Grey-Romantic and Demi-Romantic?

Demiromantic and Grey romantic

What is the difference between Grey-Romantic and Demi-Romantic? Is a question that seems to come up regularly in asexual groups and asexual forums. So I decided to create a video about it and I hope it helps you. If you have any questions about Grey-Romantic and Demi-Romantic, please leave it in the comments below! Thanks for watching.

Until next time, stay ace!

Sandra xx

P.S. I found this neat Demiromantic flag merchandise on Amazon! https://amzn.to/2lEzPjv

 

What Is The Story Behind The Ace Cake Asexual Joke?

Are you feeling Asexy?

I recently saw a video that gave a different definition of asexy to my own. I define asexy as something that would usually be seen as sexy, but minus the sexual attraction – so if I was attracted to the guy, I might find him hot looking aesthetically or he might have a magnetic charm, but unlike sexuals, as an asexual, I would not want sex with him because I would not get the urge for that.

While I was searching the internet for how others define asexy, I came across a ‘playboy’ article in which David Jay – founder of www.asexuality.org answered the story behind why asexuals joke about cake. He was interviewed by Debra W. Soh, who is a sex writer and sexual neuroscientist at York University in Toronto. She has written for Harper’s, The Wall Street Journal, Scientific American, The Los Angeles Times, The Globe and Mail and many others. Follow her on Twitter: @debra_soh.

Story Behind The Ace Cake Asexual Joke Revealed

Here is her question and his answer:

“Can you explain the story behind how a slice of cake became a symbol of asexuality and what it means to the Ace community?”

“The moment when new people show up to the community has always been a little sacred for us; it’s when people realize that they’re not alone. Cake started as a symbol of welcome: Someone would join the community and post their story, and people would come in and post a little image of cake. Since then, it’s expanded, and has become a little like the rainbow, though these days the Ace flag gets used much more.”

And here is a link to the full article https://www.playboy.com/articles/david-jay-asexy It is on the playboy site – a magazine aimed at sexuals.

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Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month Playlist #APAM

In case you missed any of my Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month videos in July – here is the playlist for the whole 31 videos in the series. You will not be disappointed, they are really insightful and helpful in understanding how others feel about asexuality and being able to relate your own experiences to them.

And it all started because I felt singled out in the asexual community, but now I feel very much central to asexuality and to my mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation throughout the globe, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

Until next time, stay ace

Sandra xx

Feeling Singled Out In The Asexual Community? We Should Celebrate Our Diversity! #APAM

Did you miss this?? #APAM Video One in my Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month series – A new video out every day for 31 days!!

Don’t miss any more, SUBSCRIBE http://www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife 

Asexual Perspectives – Feeling Singled Out in the Asexual Community? We Should Celebrate Our Diversity!! #APAM When I was told by a member of Aven that I could not identify as a Heteroromantic Grey A, because I did not fit the ‘Grey A’ definition, I felt singled out. I had others private message me, that they were also told they could not identify themselves as they liked too. And that is what prompted me to write my Asexual Perspectives book, I thought we should be celebrating our diversity across the spectrum, not tearing each other apart. So in order to understand the huge spectrum of asexuals and the nature of asexuality more, and to bust through myths and stereotypes about asexuality, I thought we really need a book with a diverse range of asexuals all across the spectrum, to gain better understanding of the spectrum as a whole and celebrate our diversity!

SHOP FOR MY ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK HERE http://amzn.to/2l8kppt

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Official channel Asexualise Your Asexual Life: Empower And Enhance Your Asexual Life. Giving Asexuals a voice in the world. It is my mission to give asexuals a voice in the world; to empower other asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their asexuality; and to give insight into my colourful asexual life, to enable others to better understand their own and to know they are not alone. I want to educate others about asexuality, so that in the future, all asexuals can live in society happily.

I am Sandra Bellamy. I identify as a Heteroromantic, Grey A, Asexual (younger) Cougar, who personally does not like sex, marriage or kids. I run the Asexual Business, Gurus and Entrepreneurs group and Facebook, that is an open group exclusively for asexuals – putting business and asexuality firmly on the map together. I have a strong business side to my nature and a quirky teenager/ kid side.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES Book Proof Arrives! #APAM

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Asexual Perspectives book

It took me a year to interview for Asexual Perspectives book and write it, in the Kindle version, and a further 6 months to get it into print. I was super excited to receive my proof copies of Asexual Perspectives book this week!!

In time for #APAM, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH which started on 1st July and goes on until 31st of July. Don’t forget for this special month there will be a new video every day for 31 days. Subscribe to Asexualise My Asexual Life at www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife and like www.facebook.com/acexualise  to join in the fun.

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First Ever ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM: 1ST-31ST OF JULY 2017. ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity! Founded by Sandra Bellamy/Asexualise!

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First Ever: ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM JULY 1ST-JULY 31ST 2017! ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity!

In conjunction with the printed version of my Asexual Perspectives book being published in print, to celebrate our diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our individuality within it – A central core message from the book – I have founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month from 1st-31st of July 2017. (Please use #APAM in your Tweets and social media to join in the celebration.) Like www.facebook.com/acexualise and www.facebook.com/acexualisedating and follow me on Twitter, at www.twitter.com/asexualise to join in the celebration. There will be quotes from the book, fun challenges you will want to get involved in, videos, Facebook Lives, posts and more!! Also subscribe to www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to watch a new video every day for 31 days!

I love www.asexuality.org as I have made some great friends on there, I think it is an amazing community and I organise asexual meet-ups in my city of Exeter in the UK too. However, after being told in a forum thread  by a member of the community, that I could not identify as a heteroromantic Grey A – because I did not fit the Grey A definition as they saw it, I felt rejected and singled out by that individual, and other people said in a PM that they had had similar experiences. I thought this can’t be right, we should be celebrating our diversity across the spectrum and our individuality within it, not tearing each other apart – and this is what sparked the idea for my Asexual Perspectives book. I wanted to show just how wonderful our diverse spectrum is and get different points of views from across the spectrum, on love, life and sex, and to also bust through the many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, to give better understanding towards one another. (More recently, I even got told I could not identify as an asexual cougar by someone in my own Asexual Friends www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus because they did not like the word cougar!!) I really hope this Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, and this book, can bring us together more as a community!!

The printed version will be available to buy on Amazon next month 560 pages of acesomeness!! Here is the link to the Kindle version! http://amzn.to/2tPxFAJ

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Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.