“Confessions of an asexual cougar businesswoman “repulsed” by sex but dreams of teen romance.”

Hi, I am in the National Press! “Confessions of an asexual cougar businesswoman “repulsed” by sex but dreams of teen romance.” In the Mirror Newspaper; National Press Newspaper. This national press coverage is huge for asexuality and the UK asexual dating scene. Please share with as many people as possible to raise awareness. Special Edition Episode.

View article here http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/confessions-cougar-repulsed-sex-dreams-9456045

Would love to know what you think of this article?

Stay ace

Sandra

Asexual Interview With Mercury Press – Watch This Space!

Asexual Interview With Mercury Press

I just had to send you a quick message – tonight I the most amazing 2 hour and 20 minute interview with a Journalist from Mercury Press in regard to asexuality – it will be an article like no other!! Watch this space and all will be revealed in due course – so excited!!! Thank you to the powers that be, for blessing me with this wonderful opportunity.

I will do whatever it takes to promote asexuality to get it recognised as a sexual orientation across the globe so that no asexuals have to live in fear of ridicule, ever again. This article will focus on a different angle to others. As soon as it is finished and published, I will let you know.

I am still working hard to get the Asexual Perspectives book finished before Christmas. It is tough because I am currently working 7 days in a row in my day job. I will be publishing it in printed format, but it may be a while longer for that due to costs. UPDATE: This book is now published in both Kindle and paperback format here https://amzn.to/2oqHrYi

ASEXUALISE DATING NO SEX DATING FOR ASEXUALS NOT SEXUALS

ASEXUALISE DATING NO SEX DATING FOR ASEXUALS NOT SEXUALS

Overall I would say asexuals are an innocent bunch and believe most people have good intentions – unfortunately it doesn’t work like this. I understand marketing well now since I have completed my online course and I know that you can target being in groups by keywords so the fact it has ‘sexual’ in the title – although it is Asexualise and ‘asexual’ for other groups – sexuals who are not aware of what asexual means, will assume it means sexual.
I also had a friend request from a girl and then she managed to get into an ace dating group – I private messaged her after seeing her post a comment saying I have no idea what you are talking about – I told her if she did not know what we were talking about then maybe she was not in the right group as it was for asexuals not sexuals and when I asked her which she was – she then said the answer is not straight forward and to answer it may require a long conversation and could we video chat as friends by Viber, Skype and FB – so with my ‘sure I want to help people head on’, I immediately started thinking of when I could do this and then after that I reflected, I thought why would a girl who I barely knew and could not even see a profile pic of as it was anonymous (so it could have been anyone of any age) – suggest to ‘video chat’ with me and ‘as friends’ – why would it be anything other than friends and then the penny dropped, this person may want cam sex with me or show me naked stuff I did not want to see, and I messaged back “To be honest I am not sure why you need to chat to me to explain because I am not gay or sexual incase you were wondering and I usually only talk on video chat to people I know well and as I can’t even see a pic of you I think it would be better if you messaged me here. You could also send a voicemail via here.” The reply I got “Ok… Sorry for bothering you.. good luck.. Have a nice day..” So I have unfriended and blocked this person.
I also realised that by changing the group name and having the word NO SEX and for asexuals NOT SEXUALS – I was putting those keywords in my description more and so that was why I was getting all these guys with bare dicks, women with next to nothing on and profiles full of posts with people actually naked and having sex.
So beware that people are not all are innocent like us and sadly not everyone in asexual dating groups – particularly those with a higher number of members – will all be asexual – so check out their profile by clicking through their member pic to get a good indication of if they are sexual rather than asexual. Yes some asexuals like porn – but in my experience they do no usually have pics of naked dicks, or people having sex, or posts about sex for the sake of sex, or maybe friends with their boobs showing on their Facebook profile. Better to be safe than sorry.
So now I have changed the group name to Asexualise Dating For ASEXUALS ONLY. But still kept the header and description saying Asexualise Dating No Sex Dating For Asexuals. It can be tough to be asexual in a highly sexualised world but it is the most beautiful thing ever for me, and I would not change it for the world. I love making new asexual friends, just like you, and I hope one day to be blessed with a beautiful romantic relationship with an asexual guy. I am proud to spread awareness of asexuality around the globe to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right – maybe then we will have less misunderstandings and approaches from sexuals who actually respect our differences and stop trying to thrust sexual stuff down our throats. Don’t get me wrong, there are sexuals who are very respectful and do not post such things at all and it is up to them what they post on their profile anyway, I have highly sexual friends who do not behave in this manner – But the more understanding and education we create, hopefully the more we can get these highly sexual profile people to stop encroaching on our lives.
If you want to join this group. You need to be asexual, single – unless genuinely polyamorous, and looking for a no-sex ever relationship, and you have to answer questions. Not everyone is accepted but if you fulfil these criteria then you are more likely to be accepted: https://www.facebook.com/groups/acexualisedating/
If you are on the more grey asexual or demisexual end of the asexual spectrum, I have another group for you. You also have to be single – unless genuinely polyamorous, and looking for a relationship, and you have to answer questions. Not everyone is accepted but if you fulfil these criteria then you are more likely to be accepted. https://www.facebook.com/groups/greyacexualdatinganddemiacexualdating/
And if you are an asexual just looking for friends, I have a friends group too and you will need to answer questions to get into it https://www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus/

 

 

Donald Trump on women, sex, marriage and feminism – The Washington Post

Does Donald Trump acknowledge and recognise asexuality and what it is?

Acccording to this Washington Post article he does!! See the excerpt from his own book under the subtitle ‘Flirting’!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/book-party/wp/2015/08/05/donald-trump-on-women-sex-marriage-and-feminism/

 

INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY DOCUMENTARY 2016: BRISTOL ZOO

INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY DOCUMENTARY: BRISTOL ZOO. This video has taken me over 6 months to edit and put together. In this documentary, you will be with me every step of the way, from walking to the train station, to getting a tour of Bristol zoo, eating a meal and going to the cinema. Make sure you watch all of the first part where I tell you why it is so good to be single and how amazing you are. If a mooch around the zoo is not so much your thing, the more speedy bits are after 14.00.

LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!

If Sex Without Love Exists, Why Can’t People See That Love Without Sex Also Exists?

LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!

Sex is just one physical expression of love that some people like to do and some do not like to do. Some people experience sexual desire; having a need for sex itself, while others do not feel the need for much physical contact in a relationship – such as some aromantics. As I am a hyper-romantic, I like to express love through lots of passionate kissing, cuddling and holding hands, but also through an intelligent, emotional, romantic, spiritual and creative connection. Love is not sex and sex is not love. Love can exist without sex as they are two separate things than can be intertwined or not.

Spreading Awareness Of Asexuality On A Bigger Scale!

Just to tell you a little bit more about me, besides being a heteroromantic, Grey A, Asexual (Younger) Cougar who does not like sex but just kissing and a hyper-romantic too – I am a business girl and entrepreneur and run the Asexual Business, Gurus and Entrepreneurs Group on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/groups/acebusiness for aces who are into business, including creativity and the arts.

Unlike most aces, I am an extrovert – with some introvert tendencies because I spend a lot of time working online on my businesses on my own in the evenings. And because asexuality became such a huge part of my life since discovering I as am asexual in 2014, with all the asexual groups I am in, the couple of asexual dating sites I am on and the amount of aces I was connected to and the amount of time I was spending online regarding asexuality I had to make a big decision, to either give up all the asexuality stuff because I was meant to be helping redundant workers at that time and doing other stuff, or to go all out spreading awareness of asexuality on a global scale by creating a brand about asexuality called Asexualise and make asexuality part of my World Of Quirky business in effect.

This was super risky to all the other things I do – like the social media training, the mentoring etc, but I decided it was too bigger cause that I could not let it go and so I have had to push through my personal fears in order to be an Ambassador for Asexuality. This means that I have to talk about asexuality to strangers and educate them. It means I have to talk about personal and intimate things in order to help other aces through my YouTube channel which the whole world can see and it also means facing past relationship traumas to learn how to help other aces and this weekend – Sat and Sunday, I will be in London for a major two day seminar,that is back-to-back entrepreneur speakers and 12 hour days, so I will not be on here much because I am also in London on Monday too and going on a sleeper train throughout Friday night.

The event is being headlined by World Leading Coach Tony Robbins who changed my life in the same sort of event in 2012. And I will be spreading awareness of asexuality to other entrepreneurs and business people who I meet at the event and will be in the audience. I have done this before last year with a few people but I never had business cards for it and now I do – 100 cards arrived a short time ago. Yes, I still get a little fearful and it is a bit scary as in talking to strangers about the fact I don’t like sex – and these are entrepreneurs, but I think unless we can reach more of the world thought leaders and influences we are not going to make as much difference and it is going to keep being harder for us to find that special someone. So that is what I am doing.

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Happy Asexual Awareness Week for next week; 23rd-29th of October.

Stay Ace

Sandra xx

 

How To Repel Unwanted Advances!!

There are a number of things you can do to repel unwanted advances, some are obvious and some are more subtle!! Here are a few things you can try to repel unwanted advances!!:

  • In a polite way – tell them to shove their sex up their back side – You are not interested in having sex with anyone no matter how ‘sexy’, ‘hot’ or ‘gorgeous’ they are. Or if you are a demisexual, tell them – ‘You will have to wait! And wait! And wait! – But the best things come to the who wait!”
  • Tell people you are asexual, not a sexual, within the first few minutes of speaking to the person who has shown a remote interest in you. ( I do this, sometimes even before they show an interest in me, because it saves me a lot of hassle and handles objections before they have time to raise them.)
  • Wear a Asexualise Asexual T Shirt like this one!  It gets the message across without saying anything!
  • Say no! I am not interested!
  • Promote Aven so they can understand asexuality better and know there are thousands like us.
  • Talk so much about asexuality that they get bored and give up on persuading you otherwise.
  • Be confident in what you are saying and adamant in what you want.
  • Block, de-friend, and disconnect from them.

How To Spot Asexual Scammers!

Beware asexual scammers

ASEXUAL SCAMMERS!

Unfortunately, not everyone on Asexual Dating sites and within the asexual community are honest!

I know from both personal experience and through those experiences of my ace friends that some guys claiming to be asexual are actually not and they are heterosexual and pretending to be ace! How do I know this? Because some have admitted it to me, others have admitted it to other aces I know and other’s show it by their words or actions – including sending an unwanted picture of their penis! This is disgusting and something I wish to highlight to discourage it. It makes life more difficult for those who are ace and want genuine and honest relationships, be that a romantic relationship, platonic relationship, or friendship.

In this video I explain more about asexual scammers!

FREE KINDLE BOOK FEATURING AN ASEXUAL CHARACTER!

Asexual Character 

For my asexual friends – ‘The Alpha and His Ace’ features an Asexual character and is currently free on Amazon Kindle – but be quick and get this now as I have no idea when this offer started and ends, but it will not be free for more than 5 days and could end today!!
Here is the Amazon.com link: http://amzn.to/2bxKaep
Click this link for the UK site: http://amzn.to/2aSf8hg