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The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – Asexual Best Selling Author Sandra Bellamy Interviewed On Sense Of Soul Podcast
I was absolutely delighted to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding asexuality @senseofsoulpodcast
I was interviewed as best selling author of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book – on Shanna Vavra’s Sense Of Soul Podcast – About The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751
GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO
You can also listen to my interview – The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual, on Shanna Vavra’s YouTube here https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=kqRloHwpkKfPSQ1U
And on my own YouTube Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=dtzYkn_TKjfteLxf
In this interview me and Shanna:
* Discuss my personal journey from thinking I was heterosexual for years and having sex, to discovering I’m asexual and I’ve now been sex free for years.
* Clarify what it means to be asexual, different types of asexuals – including grey asexual and pure asexual, and different types of relationships people might have if they’re asexual.
* Explore topics covered in my up and coming book: Asexual Guide To Sex book and why I chose to write this book.
* Why it’s so important to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe.
* Bust through myths of asexuality.
* And so much more….
Listen and download the episode here: on ITunes here https://lnkd.in/eRTtJ_iK
GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO
Watch an interview highlight here:
#asexual #asexualise #asexualisemyasexuallife #ace #asexualadvice #asexualhelp #asexualinterview #asexuality #sexeducation #sexED #sexuality #sexualityeducation #sex
The Life of an Asexual Person – James Miller Lifeology Radio Interviews Sandra Bellamy About What It Means To Be Asexual
Have you seen my interview? The Life of an Asexual Person | Sandra Bellamy – on James Miller Lifeology Radio show here https://www.jamesmillerlifeology.com/the-life-of-an-asexual-person/
Check it out on YouTube – The Life of an Asexual Person is here https://youtu.be/c0WUtPnEoU0?si=_D1hprEl6X_8ZS1i @JamesMillerLifeology or watch the video below.
On Tuesday 12th Sept 2023, I’ve just been featured in an interview about asexuality with James Miller – Lifeology Radio. This is a dream come true for me, to reach such a huge global audience, in regard to asexuality.
In this interview James and Sandra:
* Clarifies what it means to be asexual – Pure asexual vs grey asexual. * Busts through myths about asexuality. * Discusses dating as an asexual person. * Discusses the discrimination asexuals face as a minority sexual orientation. * And so much more….
James Miller, is the CEO of James Miller | LIFEOLOGY®, LLC and The Executive Producer and Host of LIFEOLOGY® Radio Nationally Broadcast and Syndicated Radio Show www.JamesMillerLifeology.com
Which is broadcast on/across:
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- 18 AM/FM terrestrial radio stations: Tuesday at 1:30 pm, Friday at 9:30 am, and Saturday at 12:30 pm
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- Tampa, FL: AM – 1630, FM – 92.1
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- Macon, GA: AM – 810, FM – 87.9
- Lancaster, PA: AM – 1640, FM – 102.1
- Boulder, CO: FM – 96.3
- Milwaukee, WI: FM – 90.3
- Pittsburgh, PA: FM – 94.7
- Long Beach, CA: FM – 101.5
- New Port Richey, FL: FM – 88.3
- The Villages, FL: FM – 97.7
- Colorado Springs, CO: FM – 87.9
- Jacksonville, FL: FM – 90.3
- Rocky Hill, NC: FM – 89.5
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THIS IS HUGE FOR ASEXUALITY
Asexuality Reaches A Global Audience Of Over 3 Million Listeners
So far James estimates that the day my interview episode aired, it had an average of 3 million people who heard it on the radio, 200k streaming listeners and podcast/video about 20k – Final numbers will be available at the end of the month. This really helps me to fulfil my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.
Check it out James’s channel here https://youtu.be/c0WUtPnEoU0?si=Polr7serOdG3GsqN and be sure to give it a thumbs up if you like it.
Or check it out on my own cannel here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=Xu_IzG4nc_wpWgBs
Or listen to it on James’s ITunes channel here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/james-miller-lifeology-radio/id1190946242?i=1000627920736 James introduces my episode: Sandra Bellamy, an asexual expert teaches you what it means to be an asexual person. www.asexualise.com #SandraBellamy #Asexual #sexuality #LGBTQIA
You can also see my reaction video here https://www.youtube.com/live/0GP791VeTeA?si=smftPk6kZ_ly9w5m or by watching the video below:
As always, stay ace, and let me know what you think? Sandra xx
Amplifying What It Means To Be Asexual In This Highly Sexualised World Whilst Co-presenting For bLU Talks
On June 23rd 2023, I was a guest interviewee on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show talking about asexuality. If you missed that interview watch it from 2:14:32 here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?si=aqHbpiCeL0h0jgDx
On the 10th of August 2023, I was in the opposite position, as a co-presenter with Laura Lake on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show.
I got to speak a bit about asexuality when Laura introduced me as a co-host at the start of our live streamed interviews.
Watch the video below to hear what I had to say to amplify what it means to be asexual in this highly sexualised world.
bLU Talks stands for business, life, and universe – So this means I’m reaching a more global creative/business audience when talking about asexuality on this show. This helps towards my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again
I also mention asexuality a little during some of the interview conversations we had that day.
As always, stay ACE
Sandra xx
Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories Is A Best Seller – Best Selling Asexual Book By Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy
On 08/08/2023 a long-awaited dream came true for me – I became a best selling author of – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book – which was first published in Kindle format in January 2017, and the paperback version was published later in July 2017. Get your copy here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq
It’s been my dream since starting my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog in 2010, way before I started helping asexuals in 2015, to have my own book publishing imprint called Quirky Books and to be a best selling author – I’m pleased to say I’ve now achieved both. But the fact I’ve done it while helping asexuals, puts the icing firmly on the cake and makes it the cherry on the top. Combining my two greatest life passions, writing non-fiction books that change live from pain to gain and helping asexuals – feels incredibly amazing and euphoric.
I honestly believe I was put on this earth this time around (I think I’ve been here before in a past life) to help asexuals. I believe God/Universe put me here to help asexuals with love, life, confidence, dating and relationships, so you can truly ACE your life, and to fulfil my life mission – of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. Whilever I’m alive I will try my utmost to achieve this, and my books will live on long after I’ve gone – as my lasting legacy to still help save and change lives for future generations to come.
On 08/08/2023 – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book hit the Best Seller list in Human Sexuality – #51. This was an incredible achievement, not just for me personally in terms of achieving my dream, but because it was in a highly competitive category to be a best seller in, as most books in it, are traditional-style sex books, so it’s a huge achievement for an asexual book, and therefore asexuality – which is a sexual orientation based on the lack of sexual attraction – in case you’re not asexual, never heard of asexuality before, or confused.
It took me 7 years to become a registered publisher in the UK under Quirky Books. Which I achieved in 2017, and it was a dream come true for me.
And now it’s taken 6 years for Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, under that imprint, to become a best seller – as I published that in 2017 and now it’s 2023. So 6 years later I got my dream.
Yesterday I was updating my social media – and I shared this achievement on my LinkedIn profile…
And my friend saw it and posted this lovely post and kind words on LinkedIn about my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book – they recommended it as a #MustRead
It’s lovely when someone understands the true purpose and meaning behind your literacy work. Get your copy here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq
So however long it takes…
However many sleepless nights…
Late nights…
However many years…
YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS.
I’m so thankful to have achieved all these dreams both for me and asexuals / asexuality.
What’s next for me and asexuality???
On 23rd October 2023, I’m going to be speaking live at Oxford University for bLU Talks and I’ve already been given a lot of prep I need to do for that. I’m co-authoring a bLU Talks books, the Foreword of which is by Ken Honda from Mind Valley, and I just revised the edits of my chapter a couple of days ago for that. Both of these are inclusive of asexuality. I will be using the chapter I wrote for that book, as my foundation for my Oxford talk, that is called 9 Steps To Reinvent Yourself To Become Your Future Self. It describes how I went from being a deeply lonely, shy, and introverted girl as a child, who was scared to be on social media in 2011 and was shy to talk about sex prior to finding out I’m asexual in 2014 – to what I do now, which is helping asexuals through my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel since 2015, being publicly open about being asexual and about my asexual life – all over social media, and able to talk about sex and masturbation as easily as drinking water. I describe the transformational journey I went on, to become the extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative person I am today. Without which, I would not be able to give a voice to asexuals and help them. Although my talk is going to be based on my chapter concept in the bLU Talks book – it doesn’t have to be and I can talk about whatever I want – so long as it helps the bLU Talks audience, that is mostly made up of entrepreneurs, creatives, and spiritual people. In case you were wondering, bLU stands for business, life and universe, so the talk needs to be relevant to any of those topics areas and suitable for their audience. They spell bLU with a lower case b for their branding – in case you thought it should be capitalised.
I also have a virtual stage talk I will be doing for bLU Talks in the future and I’ve completed the first stage of an initial application to a TedX UK event next year, to do a talk about asexuality – the organiser will have a Zoom call with me in January / February 2024, to explain how the process works from that initial application.
So I still have lots to achieve… and tons more to do.
Plus, I’m still finishing the final edits of my Asexual Guide To Sex book – a book I’ve been working on for over 4 years now.
AND…. All of this goes towards achieving my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.
I’ve also been given 2 High Five rewards #youtubehighfive by YouTube for my original channel https://www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV which only has 172 subs as that was my first channel which also goes with my Quirky Books blog and my book publishing imprint, although it’s no longer my main channel, as my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel is, so I haven’t paid much attention to it until I got my first reward – it feels amazing that my hard work is finally being recognised by YouTube, and I’ve been interviewed on top rated podcasts talking about asexuality – more on that in later articles when those interviews go live.
I got 2 cinema codes from YouTube for FREE VUE cinema tickets. One I used to see Gran Turismo – amazing movie, which I did a movie review of on my Asexualise channel – see the video below, and the second one I will be redeeming before 2nd Of September.
Feels good to have been making so much progress this year, especially for asexuals and asexuality – as well as my Quirky Books / writing.
As always, stay ACE
Sandra xx
P.S. If you’ve not already done so, get your own copy of BEST SELLER asexual book – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq
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Whether you decide to buy the books or not, thanks for your continued support – I appreciate it so much xx
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To celebrate ACE Fibro Girl Awareness Month this month I’m now offering a WHOPPING 50% off the Kindle version and £3.00 off the paperback version of my autobiographical superhero-style Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook: How To Manage Fibromyalgia, Have Less Pain, More Energy, Feel Happier, Like A Superhero Rockstar – here https://amzn.to/44lovfd
This book is inclusive of asexuality and please note ACE Fibro Girl on the front cover (ACE = Asexual).
For a limited time only – (ends August 31st).
It’s a great book to help you combat depression and manage anxiety better – even if you don’t have fibro.
It explains how to reduce pain in 25 aspects of your life, most of which are applicable, even if you don’t have fibromyalgia.
It’s a non-fiction personal development self-help development book in disguise, that I know can help you to live your best life… with less pain, more energy and happiness.
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This book exposes you to the real truth about why you are suffering with fibromyalgia and what keeps your pain locked inside you. It gives you the formula to unlock it, release it, and free yourself forever from your pain as much as possible, so you can truly thrive and flourish in spite of your fibro.
In a nutshell, you will discover the secret formula for long lasting mental health and happiness, and how to be your own superhero to save yourself from pain! This is THE ONE fibromyalgia book you’ll never want to be without.
So if you value your quality of life, if you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, with living in agony, pain and misery, with little energy and hope for the future, and it’s making you feel depressed, if you have decided you can no longer go on like this and you need practical, helpful advice, you can put into action instantly to start making dramatic changes rapidly, to feel better, forever, this book IS DEFINITELY FOR YOU! Don’t waste another moment of your precious life suffering, when you don’t have to, buy now https://amzn.to/44lovfd
As always, stay ACE
Sandra xx
Asexual Perspectives Book – Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month – Discover What is TRULY Means To Be Asexual
Asexual Perspectives Book –
Unlock The Myths Of Asexuality, And Bust Through Asexual Stereotypes – Discover What is TRULY Means To Be Asexual
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Amplify Your Message bLU Talks – Asexuality Guest Sandra Bellamy – AKA Asexualise / The Asexual Entrepreneur
Listen to my talk about asexuality on bLU Talks by clicking through the link below, My talk starts at 2:14:32.
On Friday 23rd June 2023, I had the pleasure of being a guest on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message, talking about asexuality, what it is, and dispelling the myth that asexuality is a choice – it’s not.
I share my own asexual life journey and about my specific asexuality mission; I explain how some asexuals actually feel left out of the LGBT+ community because others there who aren’t asexual, still experience sexual attraction, whereas asexuality is base on a lack of sexual attraction, and so it’s important to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right globally too.
I explain how asexuality has literally transformed my life for the better, forever.
This video is on the bLU Talks channel. Please give it a watch here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?feature=share and let me know what you think. My talk starts at 2:14:32.
As always, stay ACE.
Sandra xx
New Asexualise Dating YouTube Channel – NO BS Dating And Relationship Advice
You wanted NO BS dating and relationship advice inclusive of asexuality – well here it it – Asexualise Dating now has an official channel all of it’s own. So you can go straight to the heart of the matter and get all the dating and relationships advice you need in one place. Subscribe here now https://www.youtube.com/@asexualisedating and hit the bell icon so you never miss a video.
If you’re subscribed to my main channel https://www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife you will know I do a mixture of asexual information, education, entertainment and lifestyle videos. This channel includes a regular chat show where you can ask me any questions you like, live in chat. And I help asexuals with love, life, confidence, dating, relationships, self-love and self-care. As I cater for asexuals across the asexual spectrum, some asexuals who never want to date or have a relationship – feel they don’t need this kind of advice (although they can still find it interesting and some of the things I talk about are relevant to any kind of relationship – such as friendships, so it’s still extremely helpful and valuable advice). Whereas other asexuals want more of these types of videos.
Some of my most watched videos on my main channel are my dating and relationships advice ones. And I did a survey to find out how many people would be interested in a new channel dedicated to just dating and relationships and an overwhelming majority said yes they would, so here it is.
Watch the intro video above and the videos below, and don’t forget to subscribe. Please note, I have purposefully included my aim with this Asexualise Dating channel to incorporate sexuals as well as asexuals – this includes heterosexuals. The reason for this is to fulfil my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as an official sexual orientation in it’s own right throughout the globe, so that no asexual lives in fear of ridicule ever again. I believe the only way of fully achieving this is to get the acceptance of the majority world population sexual orientation – that is heterosexuals, to make real and lasting impactful change on a world-wide scale.
There is lots of work being done, not just by me, but by many other asexual activists to unite asexuals with each other and to provide a relatable sense of community, but we don’t need to convince each other that asexuality is real and exists, we know it does. Where we need to make a change is within the heterosexual community and general population at large – which is where I come in…
I have been in heterosexual relationships for over half of my life, and I had my first asexual relationship at just 6 years old. I was passionately kissing my boyfriend at that age!!!! And he wanted to do sexual exploration and I felt really uncomfortable and invaded as I knew it was wrong. At 17 years I saw the college counsellor and told her about this and she didn’t understand why I was so upset about it and she dismissed and invalidated my feelings by saying it was just “doctors and nurses” and normal, but I knew it wasn’t. I thought I was heterosexual for years, but it’s clear looking back at that moment, that I was born asexual but didn’t realise it. That didn’t stop me having other heterosexual relationships in my teens and for years to come and I’m an asexual who has had sex in the past, because that’s what I thought I had to do as part of a “normal” relationship, I didn’t realise I had a choice not to do that and that there were others in the world like me, until I discovered I’m asexual in 2014. As I write this, I’ve currently been sex free for coming up to 12 years – thank God, that makes me so happy.
However, I still haven’t found my asexual soulmate who I believe is Indian – I’ve been on the dating scene now since 2014 – that’s 9 years and I’ve learnt a lot in that time, both about the people on dating sites and dating apps, how to actually get dates and how to avoid getting into a relationship with an abuser or narcissist. I’ve learnt about love languages, attachment styles, how childhood trauma can affect relationships, about consciousness and ego and about what’s game playing and what isn’t, and now I can use all of this experience to help asexuals and help sexuals to be better too. So I can bring both asexuals and sexuals together, to foster understanding and help asexuals come out as their beautiful selves by enabling sexuals to accept asexuality is very real and that we offer valuable and unique insights into dating and relationships, which are worth knowing about.
Please watch these videos below, like, share, and be sure to subscribe here https://www.youtube.com/@asexualisedating