Coming Out As Asexual Archives

Happy new year to you!

To get the new year off to a great start, for the first time ever, I interviewed someone on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel about their asexuality and asexual journey…

…but this was not just any random person I chose, this was someone I previously interviewed for my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories – Love Life and Sex ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book, which was published in 2017, and became a bestseller on Amazon and still helps asexuals to this day.

In this heartfelt episode, Minkey / 5mart2n takes us on a reflective journey through his decade-long exploration of asexuality. From the moment he discovered his orientation in January 2015, at just 21 years old, Minkey / 5mart2n shares the ups and downs of identifying as asexual and aromantic, while remaining open to heteroromantic feelings. It’s a raw conversation about self-discovery, societal expectations, and the importance of embracing one’s true self.

Watch this episode here or click through the video below! And get a copy of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book here https://amzn.to/3WpxET0 or from your local Amazon, or any good book store and check out 5mart2n’s full story in chapter 44, which starts on page 405 of the printed edition of the book!

Main Themes: Self-Improvement Over Romance:

Minkey / 5mart2n emphasises that his focus has been more on personal growth than on traditional romantic relationships. He dives into how his intense interests, particularly in gaming and video editing, have fuelled his creativity.

Coming Out and Community Support:

He shares a story about coming out to a cousin through his YouTube channel and highlights the challenges of promoting asexuality in a world that often prioritises sexual narratives.

Navigating Societal Pressures:

Minkey / 5mart2n reflects on his past fears about not being taken seriously and discusses the societal pressures that make it challenging to disclose one’s asexuality, particularly in heteronormative environments. He expresses a desire for greater visibility and acceptance of asexual identities.

Challenging Traditional Expectations:

The conversation takes a critical look at societal expectations around marriage and parenthood. Minkey / 5mart2n shares his firm stance against having children and critiques the institution of marriage, discussing how these traditional norms can be painful and limiting.

Communication and Relationship Dynamics:

He advocates for open communication between sexual and asexual individuals, emphasising the need for mutual understanding in navigating emotional connections versus sexual activity. Minkey / 5mart2n also touches on his introverted nature and the anxieties that accompany social interactions.

Join me and Minkey / 5mart2n for this enlightening episode that celebrates asexuality and the importance of authenticity in our relationships!

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Today marks the start of Asexual Awareness Week from Oct 21st-27th 2018. Otherwise know as #aceweek.

This is the week that many people around the world go that extra mile to raise awareness of Asexuality and it is a huge opportunity for those who have not yet come out as asexual but been thinking about it for some time, to do just that, and come out. This could be to family, to friends, or to a loved one, or all 3.

If you are thinking about coming out but not sure how to go about it, one of the other speakers at the UK Asexuality Conference said they found it best to explain how they feel in regard to having sex, rather than at first say they are asexual, which can be harder to understand.

Before I knew I am asexual, I used to say to heterosexual guys I dated, that I didn’t like sex. I didn’t even know asexuality existed back then, but I knew I didn’t like sex. I think this is an easier concept to grasp because people can relate to the fact that not everyone likes doing everything, in this case sex, whereas a lack of sexual attraction is more harder to understand; unless you are asexual, it is something that is never usually talked about – not unless you are fortunate enough to have bumped into someone who is asexual in your life, or seen an article, documentary, or radio show about it, or you just happen to come across it online.

If you haven’t yet read my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book, I first discovered I am asexual in 2014, when I went to see a counsellor because I couldn’t date heterosexuals any more for fear of them wanting sex at the end of the date; it made me so very anxious that I almost wet myself. But, I said I still like kissing. She said she was very worried about me because I would have to have sex in order to keep a good guy. I was absolutely devastated as it was the worst thing she could have said to me, as I just couldn’t do it anymore.

Watch this short video above which explains that moment with the counsellor! https://youtu.be/2QDL9kHa-vQ

So after the counsellor said that to me, I got home and went online, I Googled “I love kissing but not sex” and that was when I discovered www.asexuality.org and asexuality, and after 3 weeks of research I finally understood not only that I am asexual, but what part of the asexual spectrum I was. It was a wonderful feeling of joy and relief to finally know there were others like me, who could live and love without sex.

What are you up to for Asexual Awareness Week?

In the last 3 weeks I have been preparing for Asexual Awareness Week by designing and producing lots of new Asexualise Asexual T-Shirts and merchandise for asexuals. Down below is a screenshot of some of those designs. Please click the following link for the full range of merchandise in my shop https://www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise/shop.

Asexualise Awareness Week