First Ever ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM: 1ST-31ST OF JULY 2017. ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity! Founded by Sandra Bellamy/Asexualise!

Ace Awareness Month
First Ever: ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM JULY 1ST-JULY 31ST 2017! ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity!

In conjunction with the printed version of my Asexual Perspectives book being published in print, to celebrate our diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our individuality within it – A central core message from the book – I have founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month from 1st-31st of July 2017. (Please use #APAM in your Tweets and social media to join in the celebration.) Like www.facebook.com/acexualise and www.facebook.com/acexualisedating and follow me on Twitter, at www.twitter.com/asexualise to join in the celebration. There will be quotes from the book, fun challenges you will want to get involved in, videos, Facebook Lives, posts and more!! Also subscribe to www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to watch a new video every day for 31 days!

I love www.asexuality.org as I have made some great friends on there, I think it is an amazing community and I organise asexual meet-ups in my city of Exeter in the UK too. However, after being told in a forum thread  by a member of the community, that I could not identify as a heteroromantic Grey A – because I did not fit the Grey A definition as they saw it, I felt rejected and singled out by that individual, and other people said in a PM that they had had similar experiences. I thought this can’t be right, we should be celebrating our diversity across the spectrum and our individuality within it, not tearing each other apart – and this is what sparked the idea for my Asexual Perspectives book. I wanted to show just how wonderful our diverse spectrum is and get different points of views from across the spectrum, on love, life and sex, and to also bust through the many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, to give better understanding towards one another. (More recently, I even got told I could not identify as an asexual cougar by someone in my own Asexual Friends www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus because they did not like the word cougar!!) I really hope this Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, and this book, can bring us together more as a community!!

The printed version will be available to buy on Amazon next month 560 pages of acesomeness!! Here is the link to the Kindle version! http://amzn.to/2tPxFAJ

Asexual Perspectives
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.

Asexual Perspectives Print Edition – More Book for Your Buck!

After painstaking months of working with the typesetter on my Asexual Perspectives book from January until around the end of March/beginning of April, and still having typesetting issues that needed to be sorted, and having spent another 3 nights last week, working on all those issues, I am relieved that I could finally print this final 560 page book proof, before I order a copy to check from Amazon, so I can finally hit the publish button to the world. Not long to go now… I cannot wait to hold this book in my hand!!

I must have edited it well over 15 times, considering all the editing I did prior to the typesetting, and it has gone through a final proof read and edit these past two days, and I am doing the typing up of those as we speak. I love writing but all the book formatting stuff is tough!!

Making a full-time living out of writing, is my dream, and my hugest passion is for asexuality, I really want to write more books for asexuals, as this is my huge specialist niche and I truly believe that I am born to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so that no asexual have to live in fear of ridicule ever again. The more people who buy, share, like, and give good reviews for this Asexual Perspectives book, the more that will help with this. I really need more amazing reviews, so when you get a copy, please could you leave one? It will really help me out!! Thank you!!

With 560 pages of insights into asexuality and how asexuals survive in a sexualised world; how they manage their relationships, and busting through many asexual myths and stereotypes about love, live and sex; including arousal and masturbation, it will be an intriguing read and answer many questions you may have about asexuality that are constantly on your mind, causing you confusion and frustration! It is told in the voices of 46 different asexuals around the globe, using their own language, dialects, slang and mannerisms! As well as my own. It took me almost a year to interview for it; write/edit it, so you are getting more book for your buck!! It is not only educational, but humorous too!!

Until next time, check out the Kindle Version and stay ace! xx


UPDATE: Asexual Perspectives Print Edition is out now and you can buy it here https://amzn.to/2Pl6aJd

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book and Author Sandra Bellamy

What Are Aromantic Struggles?

I know how hard it can be to be a romantic asexual, but aromantics, also struggle too! For example, I know how hard it can be for them to form close relationships, for fear of it being misinterpreted as wanting more. And also, how hard it can be to distinguish if another aromantic just cares for them as a friend, or more!!

Some people think that aromantics just want platonic friendships, and not a relationship. But whilst this may be true for some aromantics, it simply is not true for others! And especially if they are somewhere on the grey-romantic spectrum.

Find out more about aromantic struggles and relationships by watching the videos above.

If you are aromantic, what do you struggle with the most? Friendships? Or a potential relationship?

Would you rather have Furry Kids?

This is one of my furry kid Guinea Pigs called Angel. In this video she makes her YouTube debut on my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel. Angel wishes you lots of love this February. I also love to create poems and so there is one within this video called “Once There Was A Little Furry Kid” – let me know what you think?

I have noticed that a lot of asexuals love the company of furry kids and some would rather have the company of a pet than a human and certainly rather have the company of a pet, than live with a sexual person who has incompatible needs. What do you think about this idea? Can you relate?

Hope you love to Angel as much as I do. Stay ace xx

LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!

If Sex Without Love Exists, Why Can’t People See That Love Without Sex Also Exists?

LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!

Sex is just one physical expression of love that some people like to do and some do not like to do. Some people experience sexual desire; having a need for sex itself, while others do not feel the need for much physical contact in a relationship – such as some aromantics. As I am a hyper-romantic, I like to express love through lots of passionate kissing, cuddling and holding hands, but also through an intelligent, emotional, romantic, spiritual and creative connection. Love is not sex and sex is not love. Love can exist without sex as they are two separate things than can be intertwined or not.

Spreading Awareness Of Asexuality On A Bigger Scale!

Just to tell you a little bit more about me, besides being a heteroromantic, Grey A, Asexual (Younger) Cougar who does not like sex but just kissing and a hyper-romantic too – I am a business girl and entrepreneur and run the Asexual Business, Gurus and Entrepreneurs Group on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/groups/acebusiness for aces who are into business, including creativity and the arts.

Unlike most aces, I am an extrovert – with some introvert tendencies because I spend a lot of time working online on my businesses on my own in the evenings. And because asexuality became such a huge part of my life since discovering I as am asexual in 2014, with all the asexual groups I am in, the couple of asexual dating sites I am on and the amount of aces I was connected to and the amount of time I was spending online regarding asexuality I had to make a big decision, to either give up all the asexuality stuff because I was meant to be helping redundant workers at that time and doing other stuff, or to go all out spreading awareness of asexuality on a global scale by creating a brand about asexuality called Asexualise and make asexuality part of my World Of Quirky business in effect.

This was super risky to all the other things I do – like the social media training, the mentoring etc, but I decided it was too bigger cause that I could not let it go and so I have had to push through my personal fears in order to be an Ambassador for Asexuality. This means that I have to talk about asexuality to strangers and educate them. It means I have to talk about personal and intimate things in order to help other aces through my YouTube channel which the whole world can see and it also means facing past relationship traumas to learn how to help other aces and this weekend – Sat and Sunday, I will be in London for a major two day seminar,that is back-to-back entrepreneur speakers and 12 hour days, so I will not be on here much because I am also in London on Monday too and going on a sleeper train throughout Friday night.

The event is being headlined by World Leading Coach Tony Robbins who changed my life in the same sort of event in 2012. And I will be spreading awareness of asexuality to other entrepreneurs and business people who I meet at the event and will be in the audience. I have done this before last year with a few people but I never had business cards for it and now I do – 100 cards arrived a short time ago. Yes, I still get a little fearful and it is a bit scary as in talking to strangers about the fact I don’t like sex – and these are entrepreneurs, but I think unless we can reach more of the world thought leaders and influences we are not going to make as much difference and it is going to keep being harder for us to find that special someone. So that is what I am doing.

Happy Asexual Awareness Week for next week; 23rd-29th of October.

Stay Ace

Sandra xx

 

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