These are what my mum gave me the money for and are completely allergy free for me. No added sugar, no wheat, no gluten, no yeast, no dairy, no MSG – all good! That’s why they are called the “Good Egg”.
I have noticed that a lot of asexuals feel alone and are lonely. I do understand this, especially as I am an extrovert asexual and like to get out and about and be around people about every 3 days.
I don’t usually feel lonely these days, but it can be isolating if I have not got out of my flat in a while! I like going out with friends and I am a social creature by nature, but I also have some introvert tendencies, in the sense that I enjoy my own company, like to switch off from the outside world now and then to explore and progress my creative pursuits and passions, and I also do a lot of solo work at home, building websites, writing blog posts, etc! Having said that, in-between doing my work, sometimes I will send an email reply to someone or reach out to someone via email, and I will often watch videos about my passions, which means I am still connected to people outside my home!
There are some huge benefits to being alone – I like to call it “being on my own and enjoying my own company”. The video above, has 10 reasons why it is good to be alone! Please watch it and let me know if you agree?
Until next time, stay ACE.
Sandra xx
I recently published this video about not missing out because I have had no sex since 2011, and I still say the same thing as I did in the video below, in 2015, that it feels fantastic – to not have sex!
These are some of the other benefits of no sex for me!
As you can see from my list of 20 benefits of no sex for an asexual, there are a ton of reasons why I am so happy I don’t have sex. What’s yours?
Until next time, stay ace! Sandra xx
If you are still learning about asexuality or wanting to understand your orientation better, I wrote a non-fiction book to show you the difference across the asexual spectrum. This book is not full of text book definitions, but a different take on asexuality, of real life asexuals, revealing some very intimate aspects of their life to help you! http://amzn.to/2FT0nJO
•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.
•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.
•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!
•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.
•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.
•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.
•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.
•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.
•Uncover the positives about being asexual.
•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.
Here is what some people are saying about the book:
“Thank You for writing this book! It is so important to bring awareness about asexuality. Thank you for interviewing so many people and helping the world understand more what asexual people stuggle with and what our lives can be like.”
“Excellent introduction to asexuality, and a great help to asexuals as well as people looking to understand asexuality!”
“I have not finished this book yet, but so far, I have found it so interesting and I can’t put the book down. As an Asexual, it’s so nice to not only see a well written book written about this orientation, but reading real life stories of people like me makes me feel good, because I know I am not alone and there are people who experience the same things I do. No one is the same, but we can all relate one way or another. I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who is interested in this topic, overall, it’s a good read! Thank you so much for writing this and a big thank you to everyone who shared their story! Truly inspirational!”
“I found this to be an easy read. Very informative with aspects of all different spectrums of the Asexual community. Being new to this community by just months and still trying to understand where I fit I was able to read different interviews and pick up things I had in common with those people. Helping me realize the more intricate parts of being an asexual woman. It helped me let go of many things that have hounded me for a very long time. I’m “mature” and there was no such thing when I grew up as “Asexual”. Thank you Sandra for putting your heart into this work. I will go back and refer to parts of this book on my own journey.”
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So why do some asexuals have sex? There are a variety of reasons why some asexuals may have sex. Some asexuals may have sex to please their partner or they may have sex because they like it as an activity to do, like a board game! Some asexuals may have had sex in the past but not any more, and some asexuals have never had sex and never will!
Asexuality is not defined by whether you have had sex or not, it is defined by whether you experience sexual attraction or not, so whether you get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse or not! I have had sex in the past, but would rather I did not. I thought I had to have sex as part of a relationship, despite never thinking I want to have sex with any guy, including past loves. When I found out I am asexual in 2014 and I discovered others who were too, it felt amazing, that for the first time in my life, I had hope that I could find asexual love, without sex! I have never associated sex with love and never will!
If you have any questions, please post them in the comments below!
Until next time, stay Ace.
Sandra xx
One of the questions I get asked quite a lot in PM, is “can I still be asexual if I masturbate?” The answer is yes. Some asexuals take part in solo masturbation, some mutually masturbate each other when in a relationship, and some want to masturbate their partner but not have it reciprocated, whilst others don’t want to masturbate their partner, but like to receive that! Of course there are asexuals who don’t like any form of masturbation! We are all different and that is ace!
Watch the video to discover more about Asexual Masturbation, Solo Masturbation, Mutual Masturbation, Reciprocated Masturbation, and Unreciprocated Masturbation.
Until next time, stay ace, Sandra xx
You should know that you are beautiful just as you are.
There is no need for you to:
I thought you mind need a gentle reminder! Keep loving you for who you are! You are beautiful, and never forget that!
Until next time, stay ace, Sandra xx
These are just 5 benefits of single life and being single, I can think of many more!! What others would you like me to add? Please comment below!
International Celebrate Being Single Day is a day I founded On February 14th, in 2015, so that no single person has to feel alone ever again on Valentine’s Day, instead, they can celebrate it as they special day! So how are you celebrating today?
Today I am out on a self-date to celebrate being single on #ICBSDAY! #ICBSD (International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!), I am going to the cinema and for a meal! And I will be even more loved up with myself than usual, as a hyper-romantic, heteroromantic, asexual!
If you are looking for a fab self-love present, I recently designed this beautiful Asexual Pride Hearts Short Sleeve T-Shirt, it also comes as an Asexual Pride Hearts Long Sleeve T-Shirt and as an Asexual Pride Hearts Sweatshirt.
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Whatever you are up to today, make sure it’s ace!
Sandra xx
Here are some quotes I put together about why it’s good to be single! I particular like the last one “I’m single because I was born that way”. I think there is a lot of societal pressure to be in a couple when it simply is not necessary to live a happy and fulfilling life, in fact, so far, my happiest times are when I am enjoying being single with no one to worry about but myself!
It’s not long to go now, I am feeling uber excited to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day, #ICBSD, on Feb 14th. I founded International Celebrate Being Single Day in 2015, so that no single person has to ever feel alone on Valentine’s Day, instead they can CELEBRATE it as their special day too by self-dating, or meeting up with friends. Every year since 2015 I have had a self-date on that day and I love being single and celebrating my special day.
So what plans have you got for that day?
Whatever you decide to do, always stay ace
Sandra xx
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