Huge Recognition For Asexuality – Asexual Sandra Bellamy Awards Finalist For Speaker of the Year and Disability and Inclusion

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Hi my ACE friend 💜

Something amazing has happened. which is huge recognition for asexuality. 💜

Someone nominated me for both Speaker of the Year and Diversity and Inclusion Awards with Women’s Business Awards and I am through to the finals – and go to the global awards ceremony in London next week – which is HUGE for asexuality! More education and more publicity = more awareness.

I was featured in an article on Exeter Today news website, and made headline news when the story about me being an awards finalist was first published on their site – I love that they immediately put in the subheading – “Exeter’s Sandra Bellamy recognised for her work in diversity and inclusion and public speaking, championing asexual awareness and community connection across the city.” – That makes “asexual” really stand out.

Here is the article https://www.exetertoday.co.uk/news/local-news/1920420/exeter-author-and-youtuber-named-double-finalist-in-global-awards.html and below is a short video from when the story made headline news.💜
https://youtu.be/2ep6fEeTmLc

I feel so blessed, honoured and proud, that one or two people went out of their way to nominate me for these 2 awards, which seems especially fitting, as it’s been a decade now since I’ve been putting out content and been helping asexuals on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel and I’ve hit over 1.6 million views this year and counting.💜

It took me over 9 years to achieve 1 million views on the 23rd of December 2024 and now I’ve gained over half a million extra views in less than a year.

Over the years I have diversified my content to now include a range of asexual education, information, lifestyle and entertainment – sharing my own asexual life journey, in order to help others in theirs, and to empower and enhance the lives of asexuals, to raise asexual awareness among the masses, and to make it more accepted and easier to relate to and understand.

I know many of you here have supported me on my channel over the years, and I really appreciate the kind comments, the likes, the shares, the subs and the views – I feel very fortunate and I could not have done this without you.💜

Watch the video below to see my personal story in case you want to know more about how it all began, or click here to watch it https://youtu.be/OQ6pZDwW-Yc

I’ve also been interviewed on Phonic FM – my local community radio station in Exeter, UK, on the – We Don’t Know Show with Will Pollard, 3 times now, talking about asexuality and twice about being an awards finalist. The video below is the result of one of those interviews – it includes a clip from when I spoke at the UK Asexuality Conference, watch it now – or click here https://youtu.be/VQvHYnny0Po

When I first started my Asexualise My Asexual Life Channel 10 years ago, I never dreamed my incredible journey would have brought me here, but here I am, standing proudly as the face and voice of a minority sexual orientation, that is asexuality. My main aim has been and always will be, to empower and enhance the lives of asexuals and educated others, so that my lifetime mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again, can be fulfilled.

If I win Speaker of the Year and Diversity and Inclusion Awards, with Women’s Business Awards https://womensbusiness.club/awards not only do I think they will be representative of what I do really well, but the awards won’t just be for me, they will be for asexuals and anyone who’s ever had their voice drowned out…. Who’s ever had their voice stifled… and not been allowed to be themselves… Who’s ever had their voice silenced! Whether people have been bullied… Or been shamed for having mental health conditions or disabilities… Who’s been made to feel less than they are… I hear you, I see you, and I feel you 🤗.

As a curvy disabled asexual (I have unseen disabilities), I also actively promote body positivity and show both the ups and downs of disabled life, so people know they are not alone and that we do not have to live up to the expectations and stereotypes of other people, or let our limits limit us in a way that others would define.

We are here, we have a voice, and I’m proud to speak up for those who feel they cannot speak up for themselves – giving a voice to the voiceless and making asexual voices count and be heard.
Judging on who will be the actual winner of these 2 categories, along with voting, ends today – 30th November 2025, at midnight GMT.
If you would like to support me, I would love to have your vote, it’s free to do.
If you would like me to win Speaker of the Year and Diversity and Inclusion Awards, which I am a finalist for, you can vote for me here https://womensbusiness.club/u/SandraBellamy

Instructions Click through my Women’s Business Club profile, here:

https://womensbusiness.club/u/SandraBellamy 

You can read more about the work I do and see more posts with interviews I have had about me being asexual in the posts section of my profile – just scroll down to see them there.

Then click on the “Vote” button, follow the instructions on the form and scroll down the long list of names (in alphabetical order) and select my name and the award you would like me to win:

Sandra Bellamy – Diversity and Inclusion Award, United Kingdom
Sandra Bellamy – Speaker of The Year Award, United Kingdom

If you want to vote for me to win both, please fill in the vote form twice. This is allowed. Thank you so much, I really appreciate your support with this xx
The winners will be announced next week in London at the Women’s Business Award ceremony and it would mean the world to me to have your vote.

Women’s Business Club is the organiser and host for this event. There are about 25 award categories in total – you can view them on their page here https://womensbusiness.club/awards by scrolling down that page.

Although I will be there in person in London, on 3rd of December, which is when the ceremony takes place, you can watch it live for free on the Women’s Business Club channel, by clicking through the video below. The awards ceremony is from 8pm-9pm GMT approximately and there is a talk by the organiser from 7.30pm-8pm~GMT beforehand https://youtu.be/gAkkKZyupkc

You can also go to the post here on my channel for the instructions to vote for me, if you find it easier to click through http://youtube.com/post/UgkxHNqctvU4CgW9deCs3LMLPI9tnFUqu9j8?si=fugshNzZhxDpCWVA

Below is a short video about that – or you can click here to view it https://youtu.be/oLZgTZLf0Po

Thank you for reading and for your support, it means the world to me.

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Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work go here https://amzn.to/441v49r

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Celebrating Life At Christmas And 1 Million Views On Asexualise My Asexual Life Channel

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Merry Christmas 

Whatever you are doing, however you are celebrating, if you do celebrate this festive season, I hope you’re happy and enjoying life.

I know for some asexuals, Christmas is a time of love, laughter, joy and happiness, and I personally love Christmas, but for others it can feel like a lonely experience, and I talked about some asexuals not liking Christmas because they see family members and friends having the type of things that they feel they can’t have as an asexual – which is tough- in a recent live stream I did here https://www.youtube.com/live/wHDB0SvOVzg?si=TfR0TvocuKfxnCYn

I am celebrating Christmas with my parents, since I came to stay with them on Christmas Eve.

This year, not only am I celebrating Christmas, I’m also celebrating life itself – which is the greatest gift ever and an appreciation for things I am grateful for in my life, despite this having been a tough year for me health wise. Hence why it’s been a long time since I wrote a blog post here.

I’m celebrating:

* My dad being alive and with me and my mum for Christmas, after being rushed into hospital in January and as a consequence is on permanent oxygen 24/7 with a diagnosis of COPD.

* Being alive myself. After I had an “immediately dangerous” gas leak last week and had to call the gas emergency services to come to my home to measure the severity of the gas leak and make my home safe.

* I’m thankful that although I broke 2 bones in my back this year, I could still walk and with 8 months of hard work doing painful physio exercises, I’m a lot stronger and got more movement back in my spine – my physio said it can take up to 2 years to get full movement back in my spine.

* Although I currently have a suspected broken toe and I’m waiting for an Xray, I’m grateful that although the new shoe cabinet drawer came off its runners and injured my foot – this being one of the injuries that it caused, it appears only one toe is actually broken – although my big toe was badly bruised and swollen, etc.

So yes, it’s been a tough year, but I try to look at the positive..

* I’m also grateful I’ve got a new home, even though there has always been problems so far, since moving in, on the 5th of November. With a leak that night from the bath, no boiling hot water for 1 month and 11 days and things that were broken and needed repairing or replacing. At least I have a home, with nice neighbours and I’m not facing potential homelessness anymore, as my last landlord was selling that flat.

There is a song called,” Grateful” which I listen to a lot – here https://youtu.be/sO2o98Zpzg8?si=e2M7NLa-98jRTmA5 

I realised in life I can look at everything that is going wrong. or I can choose to be grateful for things I do have, and for things not being worse. This song reminds me of that. 

I’m also very thankful and grateful for all the wonderful Christmas presents I received and I did a live video about this here https://www.youtube.com/live/wr4G89PRo-U?si=fyLd3sYXOTXwQkfW

Christmas is different for many people who are asexual and in order to spread awareness of asexuality and dive deep into why this is, I recorded this live video  here https://www.youtube.com/live/MsuV8niWwac?si=NbfQN3pv1OdxQaYA 

Can you relate?

* I’m also celebrating over 1 million organic views on my Asexualise My Asexualise Life channel and I could not have done that without every single one of you who has viewed my channel, subscribed, shared, liked or commented on it. So thank you so much. If you’re not yet subscribed – please consider doing so and hit the bell icon so you never miss an episode, here .

I recorded a special live video celebration the day, we, as a community, went over 1 Million views – 21st of December and bought myself a memorable gift for this – watch this episode here https://www.youtube.com/live/VrUxAmKlii8?si=RTZoGfd3XYe5CR7j

Whatever and however you are celebrating, I want to celebrate you and the wonderful gift of life you are to this world – never forget how ace you are. Sending much love to you right now and always xx and thank you for being part of my ace community, I appreciate that so much and you.

If you feel like sharing what you’ve been up to this Christmas, comment below, or on one of my YouTube posts, or email me asexualise@gmail.com or put it in chat on this site!

Stay ace.

Sandra xx

 

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

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So, my friend Sandra, as well as writing Asexual Perspectives and other books, also has a YouTube channel, where she discusses, among other things, asexuality, relationships, self development and personal improvement. She often has livestreams on the channel. These can vary in duration from around 20-25 minutes up to a couple of hours, dependent on […]

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

125,000 Views On Asexualise My Asexual Life YouTube Channel – I Couldn’t Have Reached This Many Asexuals Without You

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125,000 views on asexual channel

On 3rd of July, I reached 125,000 views on my Asexualise My Asexual Life YouTube channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife I couldn’t have reached this many asexuals and educated many allosexuals about asexuality, without your help. Thanks so much, I really appreciate it.

I am truly grateful for every subscribe, every like, every comment, every share, and every recommendation of my channel. It means such a lot.

As you know, from 1st of July 2018, this channel evolved into a daily chat show for asexuals. And I am blown away by the amount of asexuals who openly come in live chat and share their own personal stories to help others in our community there.

As I am sure you are aware, my mission is to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation throughout the globe, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. With your help, I am getting closer to this goal.

If for some reason you haven’t yet subscribed, please join our ACE community there now www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife  Besides being an asexuality education channel, I like to think of this channel as personal development for your asexual soul. And please tell all your asexual friends, so they may also benefit from the connection that comes from our community there, and I can get closer to that asexuality mission being realised.

Join me on my channel, for the final couple of days of Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, which I founded in 2017, when I published the printed version of my Asexual Perspectives book. Celebrating our diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our differences within it. If you have never read Asexual Perspectives, you can get a copy here https://amzn.to/2X3QYGH

Once again, thank you so much for your support, it means so very much.

Love Sandra xx
Stay ACE

P.S. One thing that really helped to get more views on this channel this year, was a FREE piece of software called Tube Buddy. If you have your own YouTube channel and want to grow it, I would highly recommend this free tool. There is a paid plan if you want more advanced features. I find the FREE plan is just fine for me for this channel. I have however, bought a Pro plan for a new channel I plan to have later this year, which is not an asexual one. I will still of course, be keeping this channel. You can view what Tube Buddy has to offer here https://www.tubebuddy.com/SpreadTheTubeLove

World’s First Asexuality Chat Show! Asexuality Late Night Chat Show For Asexuals! Want To Get Involved? Here’s How!

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I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual. Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!)

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind. Specialising in, Asexuality/Surviving and thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world, Dating/Relationships, Spirituality/Mindset, Personal Growth/Self-Love. These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and allies, who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife, and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

How To Have Passion Without Sex!

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I just had to put this video together for you. I still love passion but without the sex. How can you have passion but without sex? And what if you are aromatic, how does that work? I hope you enjoy this how to have passion without sex video and let me know what you think!!