FREE TICKET TO VIRTUAL BE AND BECOME SUMMIT – FEATURING ASEXUALITY – DON’T MISS THIS!

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Sandra Bellamy Speaker At the Be And Become Summit

LESS THAN 10 DAYS TO GO UNTIL THE BE AND BECOME SUMMIT –

DON’T MISS THIS!


Have you got your FREE ticket yet?

Don’t miss out!

With less than 10 days to go until the Be and Become Summit, I don’t want you to miss out on this ACEsome opportunity to hear me speak about asexuality and how to reinvent yourself to become your best future self.

I know some of you wanted to see me speak at Oxford University for bLU Talks about asexuality and how it completely transformed my life and self, but you couldn’t make it because it was an in person meetup event in the UK.

Many of you wished to see that talk but online – well I’m so happy to say, that I’m speaking online at the Be and Become Summit on 14th of December at 6.20PM ET – 11.20PM GMT – so it’s less than 10 days to go now! 

And my talk at the Be and Become Summit, is based on the talk I did at Oxford University.

Some of the types of feedback I got about this talk were:

“Now I understand what asexuality is, whereas I was confused before., but it all became clear”

“I enjoyed your talk.”

“I thought your talk was good and interesting, even though it’s not something I would usually be looking to learn about.”- They also agreed I made it relatable to the audience, most of whom were not asexual – one woman thought she might be asexual after hearing my talk, and getting clarity.

I would love to have more ACE friends and representation in the audience, so please grab yourself a free ticket here, and let’s ACE IT together

https://mailchi.mp/bbconsulting.biz/sandrabellamythe-be-and-become-summit

I’m the first Keynote Speaker, on the first day, Thursday 14th December, of this 2 day event – the Be and Become Virtual Summit, #beandbecomesummit 

So you don’t have to wait a long time to hear me talk and you can come and go as you please.

For clarification, the event in on the 14th and 15th of December, and each day it officially starts at 6pm ET (EASTERN TIME) which is 11 AM GMT UK TIME. My talk on the 14th of December, is at 6.20pm ET (EASTERN TIME) and as I’m in the UK it will be 11.20pm GMT UK TIME, when I’m speaking for 20 minutes, straight after the host has introduced the summit and why she decided to create it.

I’m talking about how to reinvent yourself to become your best future, sharing how asexuality transformed my life in multiple ways, for the better, forever.

The summit, will primarily focus on mental health difficulties and how these affect your life (and business if you have one).  

So it will have a mixture of business people as well as asexuals in the virtual audience.

It’s about how to transform your pain into your personal power, to overcome adversities, in spite of any mental health challenges you might be experiencing, and a number of different speakers besides me, will also be sharing their own personal story of how they went from pain to purpose.

I will be sharing how I went from being a depressed mess with no purpose, to everything I do now to help asexuals, be a bestselling author and publisher, and live my best asexual life.

I will be explaining the multiple self-reinventions i’ve made. especially since discovering i’m asexual in 2014.

I hope you can join me on this summit, which is virtual and free – so there is no travelling involved.  

I would love to have your support, so we can ACE IT together!
Please get your FREE Virtual ticket here https://mailchi.mp/bbconsulting.biz/sandrabellamythe-be-and-become-summit

You don’t have to have a business to join, so if you work for an employer, or you don’t currently work, that’s okay, in the Business Name box of the registration form, just write follower of Sandra Bellamy and interested in the content – or something similar.
You don’t have to be on camera or speak yourself – you can just listen in.

It would mean to world to me to have your support at the summit.

This FREE ticket offer is open to anyone, regardless of where you live.

This event is ACE for spreading awareness and understanding of asexuality to a global audience! The more awareness we have, the more asexuals will discover each other, and the more inclusive our world will be – how ACE is that?

My mission is to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again – and the more asexual awareness I can raise, the better.

Never give up on your ACE Dreams!

Sandra xx

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories Is A Best Seller – Best Selling Asexual Book By Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy

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Asexual Perspectives Best Seller book

On 08/08/2023 a long-awaited dream came true for me – I became a best selling author of – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book – which was first published in Kindle format in January 2017, and the paperback version was published later in July 2017. Get your copy here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq

It’s been my dream since starting my www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog in 2010, way before I started helping asexuals in 2015, to have my own book publishing imprint called Quirky Books and to be a best selling author – I’m pleased to say I’ve now achieved both. But the fact I’ve done it while helping asexuals, puts the icing firmly on the cake and makes it the cherry on the top. Combining my two greatest life passions, writing non-fiction books that change live from pain to gain and helping asexuals – feels incredibly amazing and euphoric.

I honestly believe I was put on this earth this time around (I think I’ve been here before in a past life) to help asexuals. I believe God/Universe put me here to help asexuals with love, life, confidence, dating and relationships, so you can truly ACE your life, and to fulfil my life mission – of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. Whilever I’m alive I will try my utmost to achieve this, and my books will live on long after I’ve gone – as my lasting legacy to still help save and change lives for future generations to come.

On 08/08/2023 – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book hit the Best Seller list in Human Sexuality – #51. This was an incredible achievement, not just for me personally in terms of achieving my dream, but because it was in a highly competitive category to be a best seller in, as most books in it, are traditional-style sex books, so it’s a huge achievement for an asexual book, and therefore asexuality – which is a sexual orientation based on the lack of sexual attraction – in case you’re not asexual, never heard of asexuality before, or confused.

It took me 7 years to become a registered publisher in the UK under Quirky Books. Which I achieved in 2017, and it was a dream come true for me.

And now it’s taken 6 years for Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, under that imprint, to become a best seller – as I published that in 2017 and now it’s 2023. So 6 years later I got my dream.

Yesterday I was updating my social media – and I shared this achievement on my LinkedIn profile…

And my friend saw it and posted this lovely post and kind words on LinkedIn about my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book – they recommended it as a #MustRead

It’s lovely when someone understands the true purpose and meaning behind your literacy work. Get your copy here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq

See the post here

So however long it takes…

However many sleepless nights…

Late nights…

However many years…

YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS.

I’m so thankful to have achieved all these dreams both for me and asexuals / asexuality.

What’s next for me and asexuality???

On 23rd October 2023, I’m going to be speaking live at Oxford University for bLU Talks and I’ve already been given a lot of prep I need to do for that. I’m co-authoring a bLU Talks books, the Foreword of which is by Ken Honda from Mind Valley, and I just revised the edits of my chapter a couple of days ago for that. Both of these are inclusive of asexuality. I will be using the chapter I wrote for that book, as my foundation for my Oxford talk, that is called 9 Steps To Reinvent Yourself To Become Your Future Self. It describes how I went from being a deeply lonely, shy, and introverted girl as a child, who was scared to be on social media in 2011 and was shy to talk about sex prior to finding out I’m asexual in 2014 – to what I do now, which is helping asexuals through my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel since 2015, being publicly open about being asexual and about my asexual life – all over social media, and able to talk about sex and masturbation as easily as drinking water. I describe the transformational journey I went on, to become the extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative person I am today. Without which, I would not be able to give a voice to asexuals and help them. Although my talk is going to be based on my chapter concept in the bLU Talks book – it doesn’t have to be and I can talk about whatever I want – so long as it helps the bLU Talks audience, that is mostly made up of entrepreneurs, creatives, and spiritual people. In case you were wondering, bLU stands for business, life and universe, so the talk needs to be relevant to any of those topics areas and suitable for their audience. They spell bLU with a lower case b for their branding – in case you thought it should be capitalised.

I also have a virtual stage talk I will be doing for bLU Talks in the future and I’ve completed the first stage of an initial application to a TedX UK event next year, to do a talk about asexuality – the organiser will have a Zoom call with me in January / February 2024, to explain how the process works from that initial application.

So I still have lots to achieve… and tons more to do.

Plus, I’m still finishing the final edits of my Asexual Guide To Sex book – a book I’ve been working on for over 4 years now.

AND…. All of this goes towards achieving my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

I’ve also been given 2 High Five rewards #youtubehighfive by YouTube for my original channel https://www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV which only has 172 subs as that was my first channel which also goes with my Quirky Books blog and my book publishing imprint, although it’s no longer my main channel, as my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel is, so I haven’t paid much attention to it until I got my first reward – it feels amazing that my hard work is finally being recognised by YouTube, and I’ve been interviewed on top rated podcasts talking about asexuality – more on that in later articles when those interviews go live.

I got 2 cinema codes from YouTube for FREE VUE cinema tickets. One I used to see Gran Turismo – amazing movie, which I did a movie review of on my Asexualise channel – see the video below, and the second one I will be redeeming before 2nd Of September.

Feels good to have been making so much progress this year, especially for asexuals and asexuality – as well as my Quirky Books / writing.

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

P.S. If you’ve not already done so, get your own copy of BEST SELLER asexual book – Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life, and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity here https://amzn.to/44j4rdq

And you can still grab a copy of my autobiographical superhero-style Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook for half price (50% OFF) on Kindle OR £3.00 OFF the paperback here https://amzn.to/3YMKHhj until midnight UK time, on 31st August 2023. So grab a copy of that at the same time, if you want to reduce pain in 25 aspects of your life, have more energy and be happier – most of the methods I teach in this book for managing fibromyalgia (anxiety and depression) can help you even if you don’t have fibro, as they are transferable skills.

Whether you decide to buy the books or not, thanks for your continued support – I appreciate it so much xx

Amplify Your Message bLU Talks – Asexuality Guest Sandra Bellamy – AKA Asexualise / The Asexual Entrepreneur

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Listen to my talk about asexuality on bLU Talks by clicking through the link below, My talk starts at 2:14:32.

On Friday 23rd June 2023, I had the pleasure of being a guest on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message, talking about asexuality, what it is, and dispelling the myth that asexuality is a choice – it’s not.

I share my own asexual life journey and about my specific asexuality mission; I explain how some asexuals actually feel left out of the LGBT+ community because others there who aren’t asexual, still experience sexual attraction, whereas asexuality is base on a lack of sexual attraction, and so it’s important to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right globally too.

I explain how asexuality has literally transformed my life for the better, forever. 

This video is on the bLU Talks channel. Please give it a watch here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?feature=share and let me know what you think. My talk starts at 2:14:32.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

10 Essential Tips for Maintaining Well-being as an Asexual Individual

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Being asexual is a unique and valid sexual orientation but it can come with a lot of difficulties and challenges as you buck the norm of societal thinking and expectations. So it’s important to prioritise your well-being throughout your asexual journey, in order to feel good about yourself, your life, and your sexual orientation of asexuality.

In this blog article, I want to share and explore with you, 10 essential tips that can help you stay healthy, happy, and fulfilled, as an asexual individual. Whether you’ve recently discovered your asexuality or have been identifying as asexual for a while, these tips will provide guidance and support for maintaining your well-being. Sandra Bellamy - Self-care, 21st Mindset Birthday trip to Eurodisney

  1. Self-Acceptance:

Embrace your asexuality as a valid part of who you are. Recognise that your feelings and experiences are real and valid, and give yourself permission to fully accept and embrace your identity.

  1. Seek Community:

Connect with the asexual community, either online or in person, to find a supportive network of individuals who share similar experiences. Engaging with others who understand and validate your asexuality can provide a sense of belonging and support.

  1. Educate Yourself:

Take the time to educate yourself about asexuality and its various nuances. Learning about different asexual identities, experiences, and resources, can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and empower you to navigate discussions about asexuality with confidence. You can take my FREE Asexuality Basics For Beginners Course here https://asexualise-academy-courses.thinkific.com/courses/asexuality-basics-for-beginners-introduction-to-asexuality

  1. Communicate Your Needs:

Open and honest communication is key in any relationship. Express your boundaries, desires, and needs to your friends, family, and potential partners. It’s important for them to understand and respect your asexuality to maintain healthy relationships with you.

  1. Self-Care:

Prioritise self-care activities that promote your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfilment. This might include hobbies, self-dating, mindfulness practices, exercise, or spending time with loved ones and friends. Asexual Sandra Disney Princess Look

  1. Seek Support:

If you’re facing challenges related to your asexuality, consider seeking professional support. A therapist or counsellor who is knowledgeable about asexuality can provide guidance, help you navigate personal struggles, and offer valuable insights. I offer coaching, and advice and support sessions, but I’m not a licensed therapist or counsellor. If you want my help, hit me up in the chat bubble.

  1. Set Boundaries:

Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for your well-being. Be clear about what you’re comfortable with and communicate your boundaries to others. Remember that it’s okay to say no and prioritise your own needs and comfort. This means it’s okay to say no to having any type of sex or being touched in any way you’re not comfortable with.

  1. Celebrate Your Identity:

Take pride in your asexual identity and celebrate it in ways that resonate with you. Participate in asexual visibility events, connect with online communities, or express yourself through art, writing, or other creative outlets. 

Asexual Sandra at Universal Studios Disneyland Paris

  1. Find Allies:

While it’s important to connect with the asexual community, it’s equally valuable to have supportive allies in your life. Allies are individuals who may not be asexual but understand, respect, and support your identity. Cultivate relationships with those who are accepting and willing to learn.

  1. Educate Others:

If you feel comfortable and empowered, advocate for asexuality and help raise awareness. Educate others about asexuality, challenge misconceptions, and promote understanding and acceptance. By sharing your experiences, you can contribute to a more inclusive society.

Staying well as an asexual individual involves self-acceptance, seeking community, educating yourself and others, setting boundaries, and prioritising your self-care. Remember, you deserve to live a fulfilling and authentic asexual life. By implementing these essential tips, you can enhance your well-being and embrace your asexual identity with confidence and pride.

Embrace your journey and know that you are not alone – a supportive community awaits you.

If you’re not a member of my YouTube community, click the video below now, and subscribe and hit the bell icon to join an empowered community of asexuals and allies, who support one another, and help you to keep feeling ACE! Plus, you get an opportunity to ask me any questions you like about asexuality, in live stream chat or comments. Join me and other like-minded individuals here https://www.youtube.com/live/orc-8mI0p-Q?feature=share 


As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

What Does It Mean To Be Asexual – What Is Asexuality And The Asexual Spectrum

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Have you’ve ever wondered what does it mean to be asexual? How do I know if I’m asexual? How can I tell if I’m asexual? What is asexuality? And what is the asexual spectrum?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place.

Please watch this video below, which I created especially for you to explain more in-depth about what does it mean to be asexual.

This video also explains the asexual spectrum in a way which you should find easy to understand and be able to relate to in some way, including the Aro Ace spectrum within it.

To give you a starting point of what is means to be asexual and aromantic, you can read these Asexual Flag quotes below, but please watch the video above, for a more in-depth picture of what it truly means to be asexual and part of the asexual spectrum.

 

 

 

Watch the video below for the full explanation of what does it mean to be asexual and what is the asexual spectrum.

As always, stay ACE.

Sandra xx

I Love Kissing But Not Sex – How Asexuality Transformed My Life – With Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy

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I was interviewed by Catana @TransformationalArtWithCatana  about how Asexuality completely transformed my life! “I love kissing but not sex.”

It all started in 2014, when I went to see a counsellor, because I was worried that I wanted a relationship and liked kissing and romance, but I didn’t like sex, and she told me, “I’m worried about you, because if you want a good guy, you will need to have sex to keep him.”

I was absolutely horrified!

This was the worst thing I could have been told…

I thought to myself, how can any guy be good for me, if they want me to do something to me, that I don’t want to do?
To me, that’s like giving a guy a license to rape me – and that’s not happening.

It meant she was telling me I can’t get love without sex, and that my only value and worth of being in a relationship with a “good” guy, is based on if I have sex with him or not!

Not only is this sending a very dangerous message to me and anyone who is counselled by her…
… it’s the equivalent of saying that anyone who doesn’t have sex, cannot get a “good” guy, so they can’t have a “good” relationship, and aren’t worthy of love.

So what happens to all the people who are not asexual, but who can’t have sex because their disability or special needs, makes it impossible to do that and too painful???

What happens to all the impotent people in the world who can’t have sex???

Do these people also, not deserved to be loved without sex?

Do the they just end up with “bad” guys, because having sex, somehow changes a bad guy into a good guy???

I don’t think so. If they are a bad guy, having sex with them is not going to make them good.

What a load of bullshit.

And if people measure how much they are loved in a relationship by the amount of sex they are or are not having, they are valuing their own worth on how much contact they have with another person’s genitals, which they can’t control, – so there’s no wonder there are high divorced rates, broken relationships, and people feeling unloved and worthless.

So I went back home and Googled “I love kissing but not sex” and this is what happened next…

Listen closely to this until the end, and I am sure you will see how being asexual can be the best thing you ever discover about yourself, and create so many amazing life transformations, to truly enhance and empower your asexual life xx

Becoming An Asexual Entrepreneur On Dreams ARE Real Podcast Interview

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As asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.

Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.

People tend to discard what they don’t understand.

They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.

And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology.

But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice. 😍

Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously. 😍

Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal.

It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever. 😍

Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not.

There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay. 😍

The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be.

I am here to show you, you can.

That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.

That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.

Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-182-becoming-an-asexual-entrepreneur-with/id1480067188?i=1000558237426

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4espw93YE4SfcTYMuZjRQQ?si=893897d6b8484f03&nd=1

Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review)

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I thought that I would do a review of a book written by Sandra Bellamy regarding asexuality. She has written a few books (I’ll likely review others) and is currently writing another as I write this, which should hopefully be available soon. The book I shall discuss today is “Asexual Perspectives, 47 Asexual Stories” with […]

Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review)

Happy International Asexuality Day April 6th 2022 – What Is Asexuality?

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Happy International Asexuality Day

In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on the lack of sexual attraction. This means we don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse.

Sexual attraction = being sexually attracted towards a specific person/people.
Sexual desire = desiring the sex itself.
Arousal = a feeling in your genitalia.

Asexuality is also a spectrum, ranging from those who experience zero sexual attraction, known as a “pure” asexual, to those do experience sexual attraction, only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experience it, but not enough to want to act on it – known as a “grey” asexual.

Some asexuals are sex repulsed and will never have sex and hate it, others are sex neutral and don’t care whether they have sex or not. Others are sex positive and will/do have sex.

Some asexuals hate porn and will never watch it.
Other asexuals do watch porn.

Some asexuals masturbate.
Others asexuals feel sick at the idea of masturbation and it makes them want to throw up – just like some sex repulsed asexuals want to throw up when they hear the word sex.

Some asexuals are into BDSM – even without sex.
Other asexuals can’t stand BDSM and they want to run mile even hearing those words.

Some asexuals experience arousal – others don’t.

Every asexual is valid.

Happy ACE Day.

Sandra xx

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

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So, my friend Sandra, as well as writing Asexual Perspectives and other books, also has a YouTube channel, where she discusses, among other things, asexuality, relationships, self development and personal improvement. She often has livestreams on the channel. These can vary in duration from around 20-25 minutes up to a couple of hours, dependent on […]

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)