How To Live Your Best life!! Disneyland Paris 25th Anniversary Shopping Spree Haul! 21st Mindset Birthday Celebration!

Disneyland Paris 25th Anniversary Birthday Special
Disneyland Paris 25th Anniversary for 21st Mindset Birthday celebration.

Some people will tell you what to do, they will tell you how to live your life and they will make you feel small, if you don’t comply. But you are not a robot, and you are not them. Live your life the way you want and live your dreams!!

My birth certificate age is not a true reflection of who I am. I like to live like a quirky teenage girl and love thinking, being and acting, like a now ’21 year old’. Last week I was at Disneyland Paris for my 21st Mindset Birthday. I wore a large 21st Birthday badge on my actual day of birth (24th of April), whilst going on the rides at both Disneyland and Walt Disney studio parks, that are at the same resort, and I only had two people question it. I spent 4 nights and 5 days at the resort, (2 nights in London), and I loved every minute of it. I was at total peace and at one with my soul there. I am an energetic, bubbly and lively girl, and a minority extrovert within the asexual community. So to be out and about with people around me, and experience the energy from the music, lights, and action of the rides, felt incredible!

21st Birthday Badge, for 21st Mindset Birthday Celebration.
21st Birthday Badge, for my 21st Mindset Birthday.

In order to live your best life you should:

  • Embrace your inner child and soul. Nourish it with things that make you feel great, that challenge you, and that allow you to express your true self – regardless of what anyone else will say, think, or do! #embraceyourquirky
  • Follow your own heart, dreams, passions and desires, and do not let what others think, stop you.
  • Do not let what others say, influence what you say.
  • Know your own mind and do not change it to suit your environment.
  • Get out of your comfort zone. Yes, you really need to try new stuff, or how else do you expect to change any of your circumstances if you are not happy with them. (But that will be hard, I hear you say!! Yes, you are right!! So you had better start now!!) As children, we are lead to believe that things should be easy going and that you just fit into a normal existence and pattern of life, if you interrupt this pattern, then think what you could achieve? Instead of your ordinary, you can achieve your extraordinary!
  • Live your own life, on your own terms.
  • Be attracted to who you want, regardless of age, status, nationality, ethnicity or other. And don’t let anyone stop you from being with the one that you love and want to be with. So if you love someone, who other’s may not choose for you, remember, it is you who defines your life, not them, not ever – unless you allow them to!! Don’t be loser, be a winner, and get the real and true love that you want. You only have one life, so do not spend a moment, hiding in the shadows and fear of what others want for you. No matter what emotional pressure they put on you!! Be you, and go and get the person, lifestyle, business, friends, that you really want. And when you get good stuff some your way, appreciate it every day.
Toy Story bedroom at Disneyland Paris
Toy Story bedroom at Disneyland Paris
EuroDisney Castle!
Disneyland Paris Castle!

Check out my video – Disneyland Paris 25th Anniversary Shopping Spree Haul!!

Until next time, stay ace!!

HOW TO GET YOUR ASEXUAL QUESTIONS ANSWERED AT THE FLICK OF A PAGE!

Asexual Perspectives
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.

I get many asexuals asking me in private messages about various aspects of asexuality and there seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding what makes a person asexual. It would seem that the more questions I get asked, the more I keep referring to my book, and it would seem that maybe people just don’t realise how much valuable information and advice there is within my Asexual Perspectives book, or that pretty much most questions can be answered by reading this book!

Asexual Perspectives is no ordinary Asexual book. It is made up of real asexuals, who tell their very own thoughts and intimate personal details to help you. It is written in their language, in their dialect, and it explains what asexuals really think about sexual attraction and what it means to them. It explains what they believe is the difference between sexual attraction and sexual desire, and the difference between sexual attraction and arousal. It explains how aromantics feel that friendship is not valued enough, and how hard it can be when all of your friends are pairing off and having a family. It explains asexuals views on masturbation, BDSM, kinks and porn, and whether they take part or not. This is a book that already assumes you are asexual, or have a good idea of what asexuality is. It gets down to the nitty gritty of what causes the confusion about being asexual, about other asexuals on the spectrum and is educational, informative and even entertaining in parts!! It deals with serious ace issues, in a way that is relatable, with doses of humour here and there.

I interviewed Asexuals from across the spectrum and living in various places around the globe. From teenagers to the more mature aces, the age range is as diverse as the book. I read the reviews of other Asexual books on Amazon, before I started writing this one. The criticism was, there was not enough real life asexual stories – asexuals telling their own experiences, thoughts and feelings, about ace matters, and how it personally affects them. I was prompted to write this book because I was told I could not identify as a heteroromantic, Grey A, on AVEN, because I was not the text book Grey A definition, because I did not experience sexual attraction! I am not the only one who has been told they cannot identify like they do!! So in my book I address this and redefine Grey A as I see it. This book has asexuals offering advice to other asexuals, it explains other’s mistakes, to help you not to make the same ones. It really is an ace book!!

For those of you who need lots of asexual questions answered – the answers are in this book!! This book took me almost a whole year to write, it is a big book, that pacts an ace punch, I hope you will learn as much about asexuality across the spectrum, as I did writing it!

You can get Asexual Perspectives here: http://amzn.to/2qVfCeS

Until next time, stay ace!

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Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy?

Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy? This is a great question. There are many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, and just because someone is asexual, does not meant to say that someone cannot find you sexy. Sexy is a matter of perception by the person experiencing that feeling.

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What Are Aromantic Struggles?

I know how hard it can be to be a romantic asexual, but aromantics, also struggle too! For example, I know how hard it can be for them to form close relationships, for fear of it being misinterpreted as wanting more. And also, how hard it can be to distinguish if another aromantic just cares for them as a friend, or more!!

Some people think that aromantics just want platonic friendships, and not a relationship. But whilst this may be true for some aromantics, it simply is not true for others! And especially if they are somewhere on the grey-romantic spectrum.

Find out more about aromantic struggles and relationships by watching the videos above.

If you are aromantic, what do you struggle with the most? Friendships? Or a potential relationship?

Asexuals Live and Love Without Sex! And that is Liberating!

Asexuals can live without sex and love without sex, and in a world that is so sex focused, that can be tough. It can also be liberating. I haven’t had sex since 2011 and I am so grateful and thankful for that. I didn’t like doing that, it hurt, and because I don’t need it or want it, I would have preferred to just kiss.

It is freeing to know that there are others out there who are just like me, who can live and love without sex. Check out these articles about asexuals who can live and love without sex.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/nov/29/asexual-preference-sexuality

http://welkermedia.com/daily/david-jay-aven-asexuality+

5 STAR BOOK REVIEW FOR ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES ON AMAZON: 47 ASEXUAL STORIES: LOVE, LIFE and SEX ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY

Asexual Perspectives Book
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.
I’ve had an amazing 5 Star book review for Asexual Perspectives on Amazon.
Top Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars – before there was the relative wealth of information and acknowledgement that there is today – I think this book is a great idea
By David1879 on 10 Mar. 2017
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I’m writing this as someone who realised and rationalised his own asexuality a while back, before there was the relative wealth of information and acknowledgement that there is today – I think this book is a great idea and could be beneficial for many reasons. A few of the contributors have found ways to explain in such relatable terms, something that may be a struggle to put across to somebody who may be unfamiliar of asexuality. Any young people who may feel unsure of themselves or those just beginning to explore the possibility that they may be asexual should find something that rings true to them in this book. I’m sure it will be a helpful tool to them, showing them that many others have had this experience. Or allowing them to find a way to tell a friend or family member with clarity that ‘I am ace, and what that means is…’.
And for older aces, or even those just curious about asexuality- taken as a collection of experiences, it’s interesting to discover the common ground and massive variations across all the entries. For some it’s an intrinsic part of their personality and for others it’s a mundane fact they barely give a thought to.
If it had been around when I was younger it would have provided a certain amount of relief to come across this book and I hope it will do that for others now it’s here.
I have also changed my book cover wording to now read  Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. ( I added the stories part.)
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How To Have Passion Without Sex!

I just had to put this video together for you. I still love passion but without the sex. How can you have passion but without sex? And what if you are aromatic, how does that work? I hope you enjoy this how to have passion without sex video and let me know what you think!!

What Is Clothes Attraction?

What Is Clothes Attraction? You have probably heard of most types of attractions, but have you ever heard of clothes attraction? Clothes attraction is when you get attracted to a person because of particular clothes they wear or you find them more attractive because of specific clothes they wear. I like the street look on a guy and the leather jacket biker look – like the character Danny Zuko in Grease – I find both looks very asexy. What about you? What are your thoughts on this? Watch the video to find out more!

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WHY I WROTE ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES, LOVE, LIFE AND SEX, ACElebration OF ASEXUAL DIVERSITY BOOK!

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book and Author Sandra Bellamy

If you did not already know. I have written and published a book for Asexuals called Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. I interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe for it about what they really think of love, life and sex, in order to create more understanding across the spectrum, and especially after I was told in a forum on Aven that I could not identify as I describe myself because I did not fit into the definition of Grey A as they saw it. Other asexuals approached me and said they too felt left out and that they were told they could not be who they are. As a minority group, I felt so appalled that some asexuals treat other asexuals in this manner and felt compelled to write a book that showed although we share a lack of asexual attraction, just how much we vary in our experiences, our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. I want our diversity to be embraced, not torn apart.

Asexual Perspectives came out on Kindle last month and the printed version will be available soon. It took me almost a year to write it and I hope it helps a lot of asexuals to understand that there are others just like us out there and that we can be ourselves and love without sex, live without sex and be happy without sex. I also wanted to find out just what sexual attraction means to different aces on the spectrum and why they feel that asexuality is not accepted as a form of sexual orientation in its own right by society and what they think can be done about this.

This is the link to it on http://amzn.to/2l8PaGu You can get it on Amazon stores across the globe, so you can just click the option in the top right of your screen to view it on your country’s site. It is free to read on Kindle Unlimited at the moment and you can read my own personal story just from the look inside preview. You can also read most of another personal story from a person in this group…

This is the description:

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book.
Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

10 Reasons Why It’s Important To Self-Date! #ICBSD

Me (Sandra Bellamy) Going For A Self-date To Bristol for #ICBSD International Celebrate Being Single Day.
Butterfly from Bristol Zoo
Butterfly In The Butterfly Tent At Bristol Zoo.
Font in Bristol Zoo
Can You Spot The Goby?
Baby Tortoise
Baby Tortoise At Bristol Zoo.
Blue Frog
Blue Frog In Bristol Zoo.

Self-dating is a must for all single people, and here are 10 Reasons Why It’s Important To Self-Date!

  1. It reconnects you with your soul!
  2. You can get to know yourself even better.
  3. It builds strength of character.
  4. It boosts your confidence.
  5. It improves your self-esteem.
  6. It’s an act of self-love and compassion.
  7. You can do what you want and see what you want and go where you want, without anyone saying anything negative, so you can fully enjoy the moment.
  8. You can eat as much as you want without feeling bad or guilty. And you can buy yourself gifts to make you happy.
  9. It emphasizes that you don’t need anyone else and empowers you to be more happy as a single person.
  10. You know yourself better than anyone and you can create a feeling of joy, happiness and magic, all by yourself. That is super-empowering!

As you can see from these photos, I had an awesome self-date in Bristol for International Celebrating Being Single Day, #ICBSD. I went to Bristol Zoo, ate 3 meals out, and saw the movies ‘Sing’ and ‘Batman Lego Movie’. Both films were ace!