The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – Asexual Best Selling Author Sandra Bellamy Interviewed On Sense Of Soul Podcast

I was absolutely delighted to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding asexuality @senseofsoulpodcast

I was interviewed as best selling author of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book –  on Shanna Vavra’s Sense Of Soul Podcast – About The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751 

GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO

You can also listen to my interview – The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual, on Shanna Vavra’s YouTube here https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=kqRloHwpkKfPSQ1U

And on my own YouTube Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=dtzYkn_TKjfteLxf

In this interview me and Shanna:

* Discuss my personal journey from thinking I was heterosexual for years and having sex, to discovering I’m asexual and I’ve now been sex free for years.

* Clarify what it means to be asexual, different types of asexuals – including grey asexual and pure asexual, and different types of relationships people might have if they’re asexual.

* Explore topics covered in my up and coming book: Asexual Guide To Sex book and why I chose to write this book.

* Why it’s so important to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe.

* Bust through myths of asexuality.

* And so much more….

Listen and download the episode here: on ITunes here https://lnkd.in/eRTtJ_iK

GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO

Watch an interview highlight here:

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Asexuality – Asexualise My Asexual Life Re-defining SEX – Asexual Perspective – So You Think You Know Sex?

So you think you know the definition of SEX? Think again… In this new series of re-defining SEX, Kirsty, who is a lesbian, is interviewing a wide range of people about what they think about sex and how they define it. And it’s not what you think! I was absolutely thrilled she asked me to take part in this series and asked me how I defined sex as an asexual. I can’t wait for my Asexuality interview to be premiered on her channel, this Sunday, 13th of September, 2020, at 9am (GMT+1). So set your alarm now, and be sure to show up!

Highlights include:

02:05– Looking at some of the main sub categories within the Asexuality spectrum

3:55– Sandra’s Asexual Coming Out Story

5:37– What is the sex experience like for someone who is asexual?

6:33– What does a healthy, happy relationship look like to you?

7:25– What is the difference between arousal and sexual attraction?

10:45– Changing the current definition of sex

13:00– Looking at Sandra’s book

The premiere is about 15 minutes long, but the podcast version on the Redefining Sex podcast on Spotify will be the full interview and is about 40 minutes long.

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

SEX IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK! ASEXUAL AWARENESS WEEK Live Stream Interview With My Asexual Best Friend, Tonight at 7pm , UK Time! Asexuality Discovery And Gender Identity!

This week is Asexual Awareness Week in case you didn’t already know, and on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel I have been doing a series of videos about asexuality to raise awareness and understanding of this sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. Tonight, at 7pm UK time GMT, I have a live interview with my Asexual best friend who identifies as Non-binary. So I will be talking to them about how they first discovered they are asexual and about gender identity, particularly what is means to be non-binary! Make sure you subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video on my Asexualise channel. I try to live stream every day usually after 11pm at night and you can catch up with it afterwards if you miss an episode. Tonight’s episode is at the much earlier time of 7pm. Even if you are not asexual, supporters and those taking a genuine interest in what asexuality is, are always welcome to join in the live chat.

If you are questioning as to whether you may be asexual or you want to know more about asexuality, please watch this video about signs you may be asexual!

If you have any questions about asexuality after watching these videos, please comment below!

I am with my Asexual best friend from today for 5 days in total and doing lots of fun stuff, including going to the Disney on Ice show on Saturday and it’s their birthday on Monday, so we are having a pre-birthday asexual group meetup on Sunday and going to Plymouth Aquarium on Monday, to see the new Terminator movie and eating in Nandos. In effect it’s 5 days of birthday fun for them and me, because I feel like it’s my birthday too! They are one of the bestest friends I have ever had in my life! So pleased I met them, they make the world a more special and precious place, just by being in it!

If you want to read more about asexuality, you can get a copy of my first book for asexuals, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY, here https://amzn.to/31OkTlA

Until next time, always stay ACE!

Lots of love

Sandra xx

Virginity Is Awesome!

This Virginity is Awesome video is taken from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel and was recorded in 2015 for a Quirky Love video series. I feel that society bashes people for being a virgin and makes people feel they should be ashamed if they haven’t found someone to have sex with and given their virginity away. I am here to tell you the opposite, I think it’s amazing if you are a virgin and I would date a virgin. I think it’t great if you have kept your virginity for yourself and it is something you should be very proud of. In a world that pushes sex upon you, remaining strong and true to who you are, and not letting anyone take that from you, means you are a super strong person. Be proud and don’t let anyone put you down.

Although some asexuals have had sex, many are virgins and inexperienced at sex. As asexuals can love, live, and be happy without sex, there is no “need” for them to have sex if they don’t want to. Even though I have had sex in the past because I thought I had to as part of a relationship, I still believe it’s beautiful when asexuals keep that for themselves and I would definitely say not to let anyone convince you of a need to do that. Stay strong, and keep being you.

Watch my Virginity is Awesome video and let me know what you think.

As always, until next time, stay ace

I love you

Sandra xx

Sex, Sexuality and being Asexual

No matter what sexuality you are, embrace it and each others. Accept people for who they are, including their sexuality, and love them as if you would love yourself. This is the powerful message I share in this video, and this was on my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel, even before I started my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel, later that same year, in 2015.

I have both asexual and highly sexual heterosexual friends. I respect people for who they are, and despite not wanting sex again in my life for myself, I see nothing wrong with sexuals enjoying sex if it’s consensual and no one is getting hurt in the process. However, I do feel that asexual love is a far more pure love in the sense that genitals are not needed to be involved. Do you agree?

It you want to receive life hacks on how to live your best life, be your best self, and live your purpose, hit the subscribe button on my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel now! And if you are not already subscribed to my Asexualise channel, please do so now, here www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife Don’t forget to hit that bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video. I do a daily live stream show where you can ask me anything you like about asexuality, in the live chat.

Until next time, stay ace

Sandra xx

What Is The Difference Between Having Sex And Making Love?

What is the difference between having sex and making love?

So you may be wondering as an asexual why I am talking about the difference between having sex and making love, well you will need to watch the video to find out, but all I can say is it seems many heterosexuals don’t understand the difference even. It took me ages to get it, and then the penny dropped!

If you are ever attempting to have a relationship with a sexual and you think you will even a tiny bit contemplate having sex at some point, this video is an absolute must watch for getting at least some satisfaction out of the experience – even if it’s not totally in the conventional sense!

Hope you find this video helpful, useful, and insightful? If you do, please subscribe to my channel, hit the thumbs up on this video, and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I post a new video or go live! And be sure to share this video with a friend or anyone who may benefit from it!

Until next time, stay ace

Sandra xx

Why Do Some Asexuals Have Sex?

So why do some asexuals have sex? There are a variety of reasons why some asexuals may have sex. Some asexuals may have sex to please their partner or they may have sex because they like it as an activity to do, like a board game! Some asexuals may have had sex in the past but not any more, and some asexuals have never had sex and never will!

Asexuality is not defined by whether you have had sex or not, it is defined by whether you experience sexual attraction or not, so whether you get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse or not! I have had sex in the past, but would rather I did not. I thought I had to have sex as part of a relationship, despite never thinking I want to have sex with any guy, including past loves. When I found out I am asexual in 2014 and I discovered others who were too, it felt amazing, that for the first time in my life, I had hope that I could find asexual love, without sex! I have never associated sex with love and never will!

If you have any questions, please post them in the comments below!

Until next time, stay Ace.

Sandra xx

 

WHY I WROTE ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES, LOVE, LIFE AND SEX, ACElebration OF ASEXUAL DIVERSITY BOOK!

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book and Author Sandra Bellamy

If you did not already know. I have written and published a book for Asexuals called Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. I interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe for it about what they really think of love, life and sex, in order to create more understanding across the spectrum, and especially after I was told in a forum on Aven that I could not identify as I describe myself because I did not fit into the definition of Grey A as they saw it. Other asexuals approached me and said they too felt left out and that they were told they could not be who they are. As a minority group, I felt so appalled that some asexuals treat other asexuals in this manner and felt compelled to write a book that showed although we share a lack of asexual attraction, just how much we vary in our experiences, our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. I want our diversity to be embraced, not torn apart.

Asexual Perspectives came out on Kindle last month and the printed version will be available soon. It took me almost a year to write it and I hope it helps a lot of asexuals to understand that there are others just like us out there and that we can be ourselves and love without sex, live without sex and be happy without sex. I also wanted to find out just what sexual attraction means to different aces on the spectrum and why they feel that asexuality is not accepted as a form of sexual orientation in its own right by society and what they think can be done about this.

This is the link to it on http://amzn.to/2l8PaGu You can get it on Amazon stores across the globe, so you can just click the option in the top right of your screen to view it on your country’s site. It is free to read on Kindle Unlimited at the moment and you can read my own personal story just from the look inside preview. You can also read most of another personal story from a person in this group…

This is the description:

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book.
Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK: What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK

What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE. What is the hardest part of writing a book? Special Edition Video Series. In this video series I give you a behind the scenes look at what it is really like to be a writer and author. Part Two, in the next blog post, shows more of the making of the book and my daily routine.

UPDATE: This book is out now in both digital Kindle format as well as paperback here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!

If Sex Without Love Exists, Why Can’t People See That Love Without Sex Also Exists?

LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS SEX!

Sex is just one physical expression of love that some people like to do and some do not like to do. Some people experience sexual desire; having a need for sex itself, while others do not feel the need for much physical contact in a relationship – such as some aromantics. As I am a hyper-romantic, I like to express love through lots of passionate kissing, cuddling and holding hands, but also through an intelligent, emotional, romantic, spiritual and creative connection. Love is not sex and sex is not love. Love can exist without sex as they are two separate things than can be intertwined or not.