Asexuality Unveiled – Sandra Bellamy Empowering A Global Asexual Community – Featured on Humans of Fuzia

Asexuality Unveiled – Proud to be featured on Humans of Fuzia, who approached me for an interview, sharing my very personal asexual life story from self-loathing to empowering a global community.

Humans of Fuzia are on a storytelling mission with a particular focus on inspiring and empowering their community of over 5 Million+ Women.


In this article interview, I had to answer questions that were both personal and professional.

Which included:

What was my life like growing up?

What is my initiative and how is it helpful for people? This is about my asexuality mission. 

What was my experience of the Covid-19 pandemic?

What has been the response to my venture?  To the things I do to help asexuals.

How has my life changed? Since I started to help asexuals.

Who is my support system.

And what change I would like to see in the world, this was my answer:

“I would like the world to accept asexuality and that there are some people who genuinely don’t like, want, or need sex. So we can help prevent sexual abuse situations and make dating and relationships a better experience for all.”

Please give this article a read, Asexuality Unveiled: A Journey From Self-Loathing to Empowering a Global Community, here

https://www.humansoffuzia.com/asexuality-unveiled-a-journey-from-self-loathing-to-empowering-a-global-community/

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

Sandra Bellamy Speaks At Oxford University For bLU Talks As The Asexual Entrepreneur – Behind The Scenes Highlights

Sandra Bellamy bLU Talks Speaker

Sandra Bellamy blu Talks Oxford Uni


Loved speaking at Oxford University, as The Asexual Entrepreneur, on October 23rd 2023, for bLU Talks, about How To Reinvent Yourself To Become Your Best Future Self.

Watch the behind-the-scenes bLU Talks UK at Oxford University videos below:

The moment I knew…

Say no… because we’re here to live our life…

The below video is a reel of best bits from my Oxford trip:

Watch the full playlist below, including this ACE asexual introduction:

My talk was based on my chapter in the new bLU Talks book, of Business Life and The Universe, Vol 11, with James Redfield – Bestselling Author of The Celestine Prophecy, and Ken Honda – from MindValley, who is also the Author of Happy Money, as well as Corey Poirier is That Speaker Guy, Multiple-Time TEDx Speaker, bLU Talks Founder, Co-Author of the Wall Street Journal / USA Today Bestseller, Quitless, Featured in and/or seen on: NBC, ABC, Fox, TEDx, Entrepreneur on Fire, Entrepreneur Magazine, Forbes, Second City, The CW and CBS…

Business Life and The Universe, Vol 11, – is available to pre-order, now, here https://www.blu-talks-book.com/

My self-reinvention talk included my personal transformational life journey, especially since I discovered I’m asexual in 2014.

It also explored, how I went from:

Introverted, shy, lonely, suicidal, depressed, with no purpose –
Having social anxiety and feeling lonely, left out in groups…
Scared to go on social media…
Touch averse – especially with strangers… (even a tap on the shoulder I didn’t like)…
Shy to talk about sex…

To being extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative –
Discovering my life purpose… (and living it.)
Being all over social media…
….organising and hosting asexual meetups…
Being able to hug strangers… and kiss (some) guys in nightclubs I’ve only just met.
Being able to talk about sex and masturbation, as easily as drinking water… to help asexuals.

Want to know how I achieved all of these transformations and more?
.. And learn the 9 steps to reinventing yourself, to whatever best future version of yourself you want to become?

Read my chapter in the new bLU Talks book, Vol 11, 
Available to pre-order now at www.blu-talks-book.com

Get the blueprint to changing your self and your life and become who you truly want to be…
Your future asexual self will thank you for it, with much love ❤ 😍 and as always, stay ACE xx

Asexual Perspectives Is Available To Buy On Waterstones | Quirky Books Asexual Perspectives In Waterstones

If you want to know more about asexuality and have a ton of questions that need answering, I wrote a book called ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 ASEXUAL STORIES: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY, which is now available on the Waterstones Website here https://www.waterstones.com/book/asexual-perspectives-47-asexual-stories/sandra-bellamy/9780995599338

It took me a year to write it and I interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe for it. What’s good about this book, is it does not just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through their answers and the personal details they share from their real life stories. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!!

Besides being available on the Waterstones Website here https://www.waterstones.com/book/asexual-perspectives-47-asexual-stories/sandra-bellamy/9780995599338  It’s available on Amazon here also: KINDLE http://amzn.to/2l8kppt  PAPERBACK: http://amzn.to/2td7y8D  (UK) http://amzn.to/2tMXhls  PDF https://sellfy.com/quirkybooks.net 💜

Asexual Author: Asexuality And My Personal Asexual Story On Straight Up Gay Podcast!

My Personal Asexual Story On Straight Up Gay Podcast

Listen to my interview about Asexuality and my personal Asexual story on the Straight Up Gay Podcast – and no, I am not gay, I am a heteroromatic asexual – attracted to guys (hetero), I don’t want sex, love kissing and romance, but asexuality is tagged onto the LGBT+ QIA Acronym. Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual. Although Asexuality is about who you are not sexually attracted to – no one, whereas the other identities are based on who you are sexually attracted to. Which is why I find it a bit strange we are part of the same community, as we have different thinking. I understand that we are all in the minority, but our orientations are based around different types of attraction. What do you think about this?

Here is the link to iTunes
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-straight-up-gay-podcast/id1191090742?mt=2&i=1000391267315

If you haven’t grabbed yourself a copy of my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book on Amazon, it is an insightful read, so be sure to check it out and shop now!! http://amzn.to/2gKnsDs

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

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ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES PAPERBACK UNBOXING VIDEO FROM A FAN #APAM

Asexual Perspectives Book

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES PAPERBACK UNBOXING VIDEO FROM A FAN #APAM

In the video, is probably my biggest YouTube fan, and he is unboxing a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book, watch this video as he comes alive with the joy of receiving it!

Finally, the print paperback version of my 560 page Asexual Perspectives book is now available to buy on Amazon here http://amzn.to/2u1wp0O. Or UK site http://amzn.to/2tw739A

The Kindle version of my Asexual Perspectives book, you can get here http://amzn.to/2szjNJQ Or UK site is http://amzn.to/2u6vps7. Please leave a review on Amazon to help other asexuals and to raise more awareness of asexuality.

To celebrate this book going into print, our diversity across the spectrum, and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, #APAM. Like www.facebook.com/acexualise to join in the celebration fun and subscribe on www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to see a different video every day, for 31 days of #APAM, related to a topic from the book that matters to you and join in the conversation!!

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE! Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like!

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE

My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexuality Diversity book is now live and published on Amazon Kindle.

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and shop now, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like

This is the second part of my two-part Asexual Perspectives behind the scenes of my book video series. – What a writer’s life is really like!!

As you can see from this pile of manuscript, lots of sweat and tears went into this book!

I hope you enjoy reading the book and if you purchase a copy, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi please leave and honest review!!

Stay ace

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK: What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK

What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE. What is the hardest part of writing a book? Special Edition Video Series. In this video series I give you a behind the scenes look at what it is really like to be a writer and author. Part Two, in the next blog post, shows more of the making of the book and my daily routine.

UPDATE: This book is out now in both digital Kindle format as well as paperback here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Happy New Year 2017! Happy Acemas T Shirt

New Year Celebration at my parent’s – wearing my ‘Frozen’ crown!
My furry kid daughter Angel with her ‘Baby’s First Christmas’ card.
My furry kid daughter Chestnut with her Daughter Christmas card.
At my parent’s home over Christmas. My mechanical musical Christmas Trees and Santas are on top of this piece of furniture.
The little Fiber Optic Christmas Tree at my parent’s
The Christmas Tree in my hallway in my home.
Happy New Year – the crown I am wearing is from the ‘Frozen’ movie.

Happy New Year 2017. I hope your Christmas was amazing and your new year is even better and ace.

I spent over 6 hours yesterday at my parent’s home, editing the final bits of my Asexual Perspectives book. The book is essentially written in full. I am just tidying up some bits before publishing. I still need to do the table of contents and reajust the formatting for Kindle, create a cover and then it’s all systems go! I hope to get it published by this Sunday 8th of January. The printed version, will come later by popular demand.

Until next time, have an acesome start to the year and always stay ace!

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Or go to my Redbubble shop here https://www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise/works/24369955-happy-acemas-asexual-asexualise-t-shirt-funny-ace-t-shirt-christmas-shirt-for-asexuals-christmas-gifts?asc=u&p=t-shirt

“Confessions of an asexual cougar businesswoman “repulsed” by sex but dreams of teen romance.”

Hi, I am in the National Press! “Confessions of an asexual cougar businesswoman “repulsed” by sex but dreams of teen romance.” In the Mirror Newspaper; National Press Newspaper. This national press coverage is huge for asexuality and the UK asexual dating scene. Please share with as many people as possible to raise awareness. Special Edition Episode.

View article here http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/confessions-cougar-repulsed-sex-dreams-9456045

Would love to know what you think of this article?

Stay ace

Sandra