ASEXUALISE DATING NO SEX DATING FOR ASEXUALS NOT SEXUALS
Overall I would say asexuals are an innocent bunch and believe most people have good intentions – unfortunately it doesn’t work like this. I understand marketing well now since I have completed my online course and I know that you can target being in groups by keywords so the fact it has ‘sexual’ in the title – although it is Asexualise and ‘asexual’ for other groups – sexuals who are not aware of what asexual means, will assume it means sexual.
I also had a friend request from a girl and then she managed to get into an ace dating group – I private messaged her after seeing her post a comment saying I have no idea what you are talking about – I told her if she did not know what we were talking about then maybe she was not in the right group as it was for asexuals not sexuals and when I asked her which she was – she then said the answer is not straight forward and to answer it may require a long conversation and could we video chat as friends by Viber, Skype and FB – so with my ‘sure I want to help people head on’, I immediately started thinking of when I could do this and then after that I reflected, I thought why would a girl who I barely knew and could not even see a profile pic of as it was anonymous (so it could have been anyone of any age) – suggest to ‘video chat’ with me and ‘as friends’ – why would it be anything other than friends and then the penny dropped, this person may want cam sex with me or show me naked stuff I did not want to see, and I messaged back “To be honest I am not sure why you need to chat to me to explain because I am not gay or sexual incase you were wondering and I usually only talk on video chat to people I know well and as I can’t even see a pic of you I think it would be better if you messaged me here. You could also send a voicemail via here.” The reply I got “Ok… Sorry for bothering you.. good luck.. Have a nice day..” So I have unfriended and blocked this person.
I also realised that by changing the group name and having the word NO SEX and for asexuals NOT SEXUALS – I was putting those keywords in my description more and so that was why I was getting all these guys with bare dicks, women with next to nothing on and profiles full of posts with people actually naked and having sex.
So beware that people are not all are innocent like us and sadly not everyone in asexual dating groups – particularly those with a higher number of members – will all be asexual – so check out their profile by clicking through their member pic to get a good indication of if they are sexual rather than asexual. Yes some asexuals like porn – but in my experience they do no usually have pics of naked dicks, or people having sex, or posts about sex for the sake of sex, or maybe friends with their boobs showing on their Facebook profile. Better to be safe than sorry.
So now I have changed the group name to Asexualise Dating For ASEXUALS ONLY. But still kept the header and description saying Asexualise Dating No Sex Dating For Asexuals. It can be tough to be asexual in a highly sexualised world but it is the most beautiful thing ever for me, and I would not change it for the world. I love making new asexual friends, just like you, and I hope one day to be blessed with a beautiful romantic relationship with an asexual guy. I am proud to spread awareness of asexuality around the globe to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right – maybe then we will have less misunderstandings and approaches from sexuals who actually respect our differences and stop trying to thrust sexual stuff down our throats. Don’t get me wrong, there are sexuals who are very respectful and do not post such things at all and it is up to them what they post on their profile anyway, I have highly sexual friends who do not behave in this manner – But the more understanding and education we create, hopefully the more we can get these highly sexual profile people to stop encroaching on our lives.
If you want to join this group. You need to be asexual, single – unless genuinely polyamorous, and looking for a no-sex ever relationship, and you have to answer questions. Not everyone is accepted but if you fulfil these criteria then you are more likely to be accepted: https://www.facebook.com/groups/acexualisedating/
If you are on the more grey asexual or demisexual end of the asexual spectrum, I have another group for you. You also have to be single – unless genuinely polyamorous, and looking for a relationship, and you have to answer questions. Not everyone is accepted but if you fulfil these criteria then you are more likely to be accepted. https://www.facebook.com/groups/greyacexualdatinganddemiacexualdating/
And if you are an asexual just looking for friends, I have a friends group too and you will need to answer questions to get into it https://www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus/