How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup

So one thing I get asked and come across a fair bit in conversations, is how to arrange an Asexual Meetup, and as I have experience of this, here we go, how to arrange an asexual meetup:

Go to www.asexuality.org (AVEN). You will need to register to see all the forums. There is a forum thread under ‘Community’ called Meetup Mart. Within these geographical areas you should find threads for smaller areas across your country and throughout the world. If there is not one in your local area, create a new forum thread topic asking something like, ‘where are all the aces in ……..’ then add your area. See what response you get. Then you can begin a conversation, start building a rapport and ask if others want to meet up and if so, when, where etc.

• Remember, it only takes two people to make a meetup, you don’t have to wait until you have x number of people, just go for it.
• Make sure you have at least one other definite person who will show up, as you don’t want to be left there hanging, waiting for people to show and no one does, especially if you are travelling to a place outside your town or city to meet up.
• Sometimes you may have to travel to meet others half way, or nearer to where they live.
• For safety reasons, always meet in a public place and somewhere that is easily accessible to leave of your own accord should it not turn out to be to your liking.
• If you are meeting just one other person always Skype them first, or at a minimum talk to them on the phone.

In general, the asexual community is awesome, but it’s not without its imperfections as nothing is perfect and some people on Aven are ‘straight’ sexual, often as ‘allies’, but not guaranteed, so check the profiles of the people you are meeting up with – this also gives you a talking point with them. Even is not an asexual dating site, but on asexual dating sites, you get a few that are not actually asexual. I am not saying this to scare you, but so you are aware of it.

The best thing of all is to have fun and not to get too worried about it. You can stay for as little or as long as you want and there will often be people who are just as nervous as you are, but the benefits of connecting with like-minded people who understand you, are huge. I highly recommend giving an existing meetup a try or creating one for yourself.

There are a lot of asexual introverts, and that can mean that no one takes action to arrange a meetup, don’t let that be you and miss out. I arrange small meetups in the Exeter Area of the UK and almost always I average about 6/7 people at each meet, whereas previously it used to be 4. It does not matter if you have lots of people at your meet, or only one, what matters is you are connecting with another person/people who share asexuality in common and that is a  great thing.

How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup UK Asexuality Conference Talk With Sandra Bellamy

If you want a more in-depth account of HOW to arrange an asexual meetup, watch my How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup talk, for absolute beginners, from the UK Asexuality Conference on 8th of July 2018. Get your pen and paper ready as you may want to take notes!

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