New Asexual Sex Stories Book – Opportunity To Take Part!!

Happy Pride Month,

It’s almost two years since my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity bookwent into print and could be obtained globally through Amazon’s very own distribution network, under my own imprint of Quirky Books. Yes, I am a register publisher user that name. That book will always be dear to my heart as not only is it my first book published for asexuals, I learnt such a lot from interviewing all the 46 Asexuals in it. Far more than I would have ever learnt just from reading text book definitions about asexuality. And as always, July will be #APAM, Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, where each day for 31 days, I have a video with excerpts from the book to celebrate our diversity across the spectrum on my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife.

I have decided to write my second asexual book, and am looking for asexuals who want to take part in this book and be interviewed for it, only this one is a bit different. This one is called ASEXUAL SEX STORIES: THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE FUGLY. REAL LIFE ASEXUAL SEX STORIES. So as you might have guessed the people who I am looking for to be interviewed, are asexuals who have had sex before, to share their experiences with others. to help other asexuals who are not sure whether or not they want to try sex and are looking for the good, bad, and damn right fugly things about having sex, so they can make an informed choice and decision about whether they want to try it or not. It will also prove a very insightful read for anyone who is asexual who doesn’t want to experience sex themselves, but has always been curious as to what it feels like for an asexual to have sex.

This book will also be a great read for anyone who is not asexual, but who wants to get a deeper understanding of what sex really feels like for an asexual and to gain greater insight into how an asexual thinks and feels about sex, from a very personal experience point of view.

If you are an asexual who has had sex at some point or know of an asexual friend who has and may like to take part in this book, please can you get them to contact me asexualise@gmail.com with the subject line of “I want to be interviewed for your Asexual Sex Stories book!’ 

You will be sent a questionnaire that you need to fill in fully, in order to be considered for this book. Answers need to be in to me by 30th of June 2019, to be considered for publication. All answers will be gone through thoroughly next month, July 2019, and you may be contacted for further information or questions about your answers in that month.

As well as sharing the good, the bad and the ugly of their experience of having sex, interviewee’s will also be asked questions to advise other asexuals who are thinking about having sex for the first time ever and not sure about whether they should do it or not. This book will be available to buy on Amazon, and globally in print under my own imprint of Quirky Books. As with the last book, it will also be in the British Library and others too.

This book came about because I have an aromatic asexual friend who was asking me what do if they were to try sex and because I saw many asexuals in groups saying that when they have had sex before, they did not know what to do with their arms etc, so I thought there is a need for this book. It also gives asexuals a voice to tell others what it really feels like to be asexual and have sex, rather than sexuals just giving their opinion all the time.

If you are looking for asexual merch to celebrate this pride month, please visit my Asexualise shop www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise/shop

Until next time, stay ace

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES PAPERBACK UNBOXING VIDEO FROM A FAN #APAM

Asexual Perspectives Book

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES PAPERBACK UNBOXING VIDEO FROM A FAN #APAM

In the video, is probably my biggest YouTube fan, and he is unboxing a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book, watch this video as he comes alive with the joy of receiving it!

Finally, the print paperback version of my 560 page Asexual Perspectives book is now available to buy on Amazon here http://amzn.to/2u1wp0O. Or UK site http://amzn.to/2tw739A

The Kindle version of my Asexual Perspectives book, you can get here http://amzn.to/2szjNJQ Or UK site is http://amzn.to/2u6vps7. Please leave a review on Amazon to help other asexuals and to raise more awareness of asexuality.

To celebrate this book going into print, our diversity across the spectrum, and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, #APAM. Like www.facebook.com/acexualise to join in the celebration fun and subscribe on www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to see a different video every day, for 31 days of #APAM, related to a topic from the book that matters to you and join in the conversation!!

WHY I WROTE ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES, LOVE, LIFE AND SEX, ACElebration OF ASEXUAL DIVERSITY BOOK!

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book and Author Sandra Bellamy

If you did not already know. I have written and published a book for Asexuals called Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. I interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe for it about what they really think of love, life and sex, in order to create more understanding across the spectrum, and especially after I was told in a forum on Aven that I could not identify as I describe myself because I did not fit into the definition of Grey A as they saw it. Other asexuals approached me and said they too felt left out and that they were told they could not be who they are. As a minority group, I felt so appalled that some asexuals treat other asexuals in this manner and felt compelled to write a book that showed although we share a lack of asexual attraction, just how much we vary in our experiences, our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. I want our diversity to be embraced, not torn apart.

Asexual Perspectives came out on Kindle last month and the printed version will be available soon. It took me almost a year to write it and I hope it helps a lot of asexuals to understand that there are others just like us out there and that we can be ourselves and love without sex, live without sex and be happy without sex. I also wanted to find out just what sexual attraction means to different aces on the spectrum and why they feel that asexuality is not accepted as a form of sexual orientation in its own right by society and what they think can be done about this.

This is the link to it on http://amzn.to/2l8PaGu You can get it on Amazon stores across the globe, so you can just click the option in the top right of your screen to view it on your country’s site. It is free to read on Kindle Unlimited at the moment and you can read my own personal story just from the look inside preview. You can also read most of another personal story from a person in this group…

This is the description:

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book.
Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE! Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like!

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE

My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexuality Diversity book is now live and published on Amazon Kindle.

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and shop now, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like

This is the second part of my two-part Asexual Perspectives behind the scenes of my book video series. – What a writer’s life is really like!!

As you can see from this pile of manuscript, lots of sweat and tears went into this book!

I hope you enjoy reading the book and if you purchase a copy, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi please leave and honest review!!

Stay ace

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK: What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK

What is the hardest part of writing a book? BEHIND THE SCENES PART ONE. What is the hardest part of writing a book? Special Edition Video Series. In this video series I give you a behind the scenes look at what it is really like to be a writer and author. Part Two, in the next blog post, shows more of the making of the book and my daily routine.

UPDATE: This book is out now in both digital Kindle format as well as paperback here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Almost Done! Asexual Perspectives Book!

Next Asexual Perspectives story to be worked on.
Asexual Perspectives book final amendments.
Asexual Perspectives book manuscript almost complete.

Almost done! My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity book is almost finished and ready for publication. I am just doing the final amendments.

This book is around 442 pages at 16pt font size, with 46 asexual interviewees from around globe and across the asexual spectrum, sharing their own personal story to help you. Offering their unique perspective and advice!

I have puposefully kept the style and tone very conversational and informal, like you are having a conversation with a friend. I have allowed both English and American spelling of words in this book to maintain authenticity with minimal editing and colloqiualisms. All of this makes it a ‘quirky book’.

I have a philosophy in life – “Throw away the rule book and create your own!” – Sandra Bellamy Quote

It will be up to you to YOU to decide if you agree with each perspective in the book or not! – Out soon! Watch this space for more details!

In the meantime – stay ace!

UPDATE: Asexual Perspectives is out now to buy in both digital Kindle format and Paperback https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Donald Trump on women, sex, marriage and feminism – The Washington Post

Does Donald Trump acknowledge and recognise asexuality and what it is?

Acccording to this Washington Post article he does!! See the excerpt from his own book under the subtitle ‘Flirting’!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/book-party/wp/2015/08/05/donald-trump-on-women-sex-marriage-and-feminism/