Have you’ve ever wondered what does it mean to be asexual? How do I know if I’m asexual? How can I tell if I’m asexual? What is asexuality? And what is the asexual spectrum?
If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place.
Please watch this video below, which I created especially for you to explain more in-depth about what does it mean to be asexual.
This video also explains the asexual spectrum in a way which you should find easy to understand and be able to relate to in some way, including the Aro Ace spectrum within it.
To give you a starting point of what is means to be asexual and aromantic, you can read these Asexual Flag quotes below, but please watch the video above, for a more in-depth picture of what it truly means to be asexual and part of the asexual spectrum.
Watch the video below for the full explanation of what does it mean to be asexual and what is the asexual spectrum.
Have you every wondered what it’s like to hang out with asexual friends in person and what asexuals get up to with all the sex they’re not having? If so, you’re going to love this post.
Yes, not every asexual is sex repulsed, some asexuals do have sex, but for those of us who don’t, you might want to know what fun, non-sexual activities we get up to.
So in this post, I’m going to share with you, what I got up to with my bestest asexual friend Sammie for their 40th birthday and my close asexual friend Vanessa who is 21.
Both of these people are important to me and I am very thankful and grateful for them in my life.
Me and Sammie have known each other since 2017 and became best friends upon the first time of meeting in 2018, and Vanessa I met at an asexual meetup this year in my city, which I orgnanised. After my best friend Andy was too sick to meet up with me for my birthday in April, Vanessa came with me to the Aquarium for it, and I instantly got on really well with her and we became good friends and have since become even better friends, the more we have got to know each other. Because I reprogrammed my mind to be like 21 years old and I live like a teenager on purpose, I like going to a lot of the same places as Vanessa and as Sammie is really young too – they look like they are in their 20s, we like doing enjoyable, young, fun, things together too.
So on 28th October, for Sammie’s 40th Birthday:
* We went to a cafe in the morning.
* Then to a pub for a drink and gift giving (see photos).
* Then we ate in Nandos.
* Then we went to War Of The Worlds Immersive Experience, which was scary and fun. (See photo.)
* After that we drank in the bar and Sammie had a birthday cocktail (see photos below).
* We ate after then in East Street Thai Restaurant 😋
* It was an ACE day.
* And even more ACE as we are both asexual in sexual orientation. We are both sex repulsed and naked repulsed. And it was Asexual Awareness Week. Watch the video
On 30th October, I went to Vanessa to Brean theme park, rode some amazing rides and enjoyed eating delicious foods. Check out these photos.
Watch these videos to see more of Sammie’s 40th Birthday.
Watch these videos to see more behind the scenes footage of Brean Theme Park.
I really loved spending time with my asexual best and close friends for Asexual Awareness Week #aceweek2022 and having a lot of non-sexual asexual fun together. Which proves you can live a very happy life without sex, full of excitement and enjoyment. My life is never boring.
I was interviewed by Catana @TransformationalArtWithCatana about how Asexuality completely transformed my life! “I love kissing but not sex.”
It all started in 2014, when I went to see a counsellor, because I was worried that I wanted a relationship and liked kissing and romance, but I didn’t like sex, and she told me, “I’m worried about you, because if you want a good guy, you will need to have sex to keep him.”
I was absolutely horrified!
This was the worst thing I could have been told…
I thought to myself, how can any guy be good for me, if they want me to do something to me, that I don’t want to do?
To me, that’s like giving a guy a license to rape me – and that’s not happening.
It meant she was telling me I can’t get love without sex, and that my only value and worth of being in a relationship with a “good” guy, is based on if I have sex with him or not!
Not only is this sending a very dangerous message to me and anyone who is counselled by her…
… it’s the equivalent of saying that anyone who doesn’t have sex, cannot get a “good” guy, so they can’t have a “good” relationship, and aren’t worthy of love.
So what happens to all the people who are not asexual, but who can’t have sex because their disability or special needs, makes it impossible to do that and too painful???
What happens to all the impotent people in the world who can’t have sex???
Do these people also, not deserved to be loved without sex?
Do the they just end up with “bad” guys, because having sex, somehow changes a bad guy into a good guy???
I don’t think so. If they are a bad guy, having sex with them is not going to make them good.
What a load of bullshit.
And if people measure how much they are loved in a relationship by the amount of sex they are or are not having, they are valuing their own worth on how much contact they have with another person’s genitals, which they can’t control, – so there’s no wonder there are high divorced rates, broken relationships, and people feeling unloved and worthless.
So I went back home and Googled “I love kissing but not sex” and this is what happened next…
Listen closely to this until the end, and I am sure you will see how being asexual can be the best thing you ever discover about yourself, and create so many amazing life transformations, to truly enhance and empower your asexual life xx
As asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.
Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.
People tend to discard what they don’t understand.
They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.
And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology.
But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice.
Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously.
Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal.
It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever.
Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not.
There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay.
The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be.
I am here to show you, you can.
That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.
That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.
Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…
I thought that I would do a review of a book written by Sandra Bellamy regarding asexuality. She has written a few books (I’ll likely review others) and is currently writing another as I write this, which should hopefully be available soon. The book I shall discuss today is “Asexual Perspectives, 47 Asexual Stories” with […]
In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on the lack of sexual attraction. This means we don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse.
Sexual attraction = being sexually attracted towards a specific person/people.
Sexual desire = desiring the sex itself.
Arousal = a feeling in your genitalia.
Asexuality is also a spectrum, ranging from those who experience zero sexual attraction, known as a “pure” asexual, to those do experience sexual attraction, only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experience it, but not enough to want to act on it – known as a “grey” asexual.
Some asexuals are sex repulsed and will never have sex and hate it, others are sex neutral and don’t care whether they have sex or not. Others are sex positive and will/do have sex.
Some asexuals hate porn and will never watch it.
Other asexuals do watch porn.
Some asexuals masturbate.
Others asexuals feel sick at the idea of masturbation and it makes them want to throw up – just like some sex repulsed asexuals want to throw up when they hear the word sex.
Some asexuals are into BDSM – even without sex.
Other asexuals can’t stand BDSM and they want to run mile even hearing those words.
So, my friend Sandra, as well as writing Asexual Perspectives and other books, also has a YouTube channel, where she discusses, among other things, asexuality, relationships, self development and personal improvement. She often has livestreams on the channel. These can vary in duration from around 20-25 minutes up to a couple of hours, dependent on […]
As I’m a personally sex repulsed asexual who also has nudity repulsion, I try to find movies to watch that have no sex in them and no nudity, and I am pleased to say that BEE MOVIE fits this criteria. (Warning spoilers to follow.)
Not only does it have no sex and no nudity, it also appears to have an asexual character who ends up choosing a relationship with a BEE over a “charming” human guy – who is far from charming but thinks he is, and is meant to be the type of guy who is popular with the women – but not this woman, who is a florist.
This no sex movie starts off with Barry the Bee graduating and about to get his first and last job for life, in the nectar/honey factory.
But when Barry realises he is expected to do the same job for life, alarms bells start ringing and Barry knows there must be more to life than just doing the same job over and over again for years. His dad used to be a stirrer and he stirred so much that he couldn’t stop stirring when he came home. Barry doesn’t want to end up like his dad and in what he sees is a dead end job for life. But his parents want and expect him to carry on the family Bee tradition and make them proud by working in the factory.
But it’s not long before Barry meets the pollen jocks whose job it is to go outside the factory to cross pollinate the flowers and one day he goes out with them to get some work experience and ends up flying into someone’s home by accident.
This is where he meets the florist who already appears to have this “charming” guy as her boyfriend – or he at least wants to be her boyfriend, and he wants to kill the bee, but she saves Barry’s life and then he goes back afterwards and commits a bee sin – he speaks to a human.
Then they end up dating. They understand each other, eat together, touch fingers, enjoy each other’s company, have great conversations, work well as a team and have lots in common and a great foundation of friendship. It’s an asexual match made in heaven. Their attraction is not of a sexual nature, but is a little romantic and platonic too. They have a deep fondness for each other and great animation chemistry.
Barry discovers that humans are stealing and selling honey and nectar for a profit and the bees are getting nothing for it, not even royalties, but are working like slaves to produce it. So he decides to sue the humans and to take them to court and wins.
He recalls all of the nectar and honey back to the factory and the factory has more than it knows what to do with, but with no where else for it to go, the factory has to stop producing any more and all the bees stop work and just don’t do much besides sun themselves.
Then… Barry admits to the florist he made a mistake when she points out that all the flowers are dying because there is no pollination or cross-pollination now the pollen jocks and the rest of the bees are no longer working, and the florist goes on her way to see the final flower show, before those last flowers die, and after she had to close her shop due to there being no more flowers.
Then Barry has an idea…
If they can bring some of those flowers back to the factory, they can cross-pollinate them and bring the other flowers back to life and start the cycle of plant and fruit life back up again.
So the florist and Barry steel the Princess and the Pea float at the festival, bust it out of the festival, go along the motorway and board a plane with the rose flowers from it.
But… the plane is going to be delayed by 2 hours due to bad weather and the roses are going to die and it’s their only hope to save the bee species and bring plant and fruit life back to the world.
So Barry goes to talk to the pilot about the delay… who then tries to kill him, and in the process the co-pilot gets knocked unconscious and then the pilot does too, and Barry has to get the florist to fly the plane while he tries to direct her with what to do…
Soon they realise the autopilot has been flying the plane, not the florist, and they feel hopeless…
But all the other bees come together – the Pollen Jocks fly up to the plane to manually take over landing it and the other bees create a flower target for landing the plane.
Once the plane has landed the Pollen Jocks promote Barry to be officially one of them and they cross pollinate the flowers and bring all the others flowers back to life and the factory starts up again, and Barry realises how important the work is of the bees and that small actions can lead to big results.
The florist reopens her shop with Barry and his name is on the shop signage, they sell bee approved nectar from it and Barry does legal services in the back of the shop as well as working as a pollen jock and using the factory to help fill shop orders.
And they live happily ever after… with the exception of the guy who wanted to be the florist’s boyfriend – but instead Barry bee won her heart for life.
And if you want to watch more movies without sex or nudity in them, watch my entire – no sex movie no sex film reviews playlist here https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6sdIToxIi4dKvfaZf_YFraYqEMyGEzLV or click through the video below and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and hit the bell icon, so you never miss an episode.
As always, stay ACE and BEE kind to yourself and others – BEEcause you’re ACE.
Even in the 21st century, asexuality is still not heard of by many heterosexuals, and is still deeply misunderstood.
In this post, we will discuss 5 misconceptions and misinformation about asexuality, and what the truth actually is.
Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 1:
Asexuals are people who want to be alone 😔
Whilst it is true that some asexuals like to spend time on their own, most likely because those asexuals are introverted and/or have social anxiety, other asexuals don’t like to be alone.
Saying a blanket statement that asexuals are people who want to be alone, is simply not true, asexuality is a sexual orientation. 🙄
Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 2:
Asexuals are people who have never had sex 😔
Whilst it’s true that some asexuals have never had sex and never will, this is not what makes someone asexual.
Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on a lack of sexual attraction, not a lack of action. 🙄
Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 3:
Asexuals are people who can’t get laid. 😔
Whilst I absolutely personally hate the term getting laid, what I hate more, is this statement implies people who are asexual are not able to get someone to have sex with them because they are unattractive. Because people associate not being able to get anyone to have sex with them (getting laid), as a sign of unattractiveness, which is utter bulls*it.
A person who is asexual, is not deemed to be so based on whether they can get someone to have sex with them or not, it’s based on if they experience little to no sexual attraction or not. Many asexuals have lots of offers of sex, but many are repulsed by the idea. Asexuals are still beautiful even if they don’t want sex. 🙄
Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 4:
Asexuals are people who abstain from sex. 😔
Whilst some asexuals abstain from sex, abstinence is not the same as asexuality.
Those who abstain from sex, are doing so out of choice.
Asexuality is not a choice, it’s a sexual orientation. 🙄
Misconception And Misinformation About Asexuality Number 5:
Asexuals are people who are celibate. 😔
Asexuality is not the same as celibacy.
Unlike those who are choosing to be celibate and are stop themselves from having sex as they try to resist their urges for it, asexuality is not a choice, and asexuals are not people who are forcing themselves to refrain from having sex. As they don’t experience the usual sexual attraction, they don’t usually have the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse in the first place, so they are not forcing themselves to not do something, which they have no need or ‘urge’ to do. 🙄
What is asexuality? What does it mean to be asexual? What is grey asexual? What’s a pure asexual? What is the asexual spectrum?
Watch the What Is Asexuality – YouTube #shorts video above and read the asexual flags below, to find out…
If you are new to asexuality, or you want more help understanding the asexual spectrum, and how to navigate dating, relationships, and life, as an asexual, in a highly sexualised world, I have been helping asexual for over 6 years now on my Asexualise channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife that you can subscribe to, which will help you with many aspects about asexuality, and especially dating and relationships. I usual live stream daily and you can ask me anything you want in chat there.
If you are still discovering about asexuality and more about the asexual spectrum, I have a Free Asexuality Basics For Beginners course that you can sign up to here that also shows you what the asexual spectrum is www.asexualiseacademy.com
I also wrote a book and interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe and across the asexual spectrum for it, https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3 What is good about this book, is it does not just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through their answers and the personal details they share. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!!
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