The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – Asexual Best Selling Author Sandra Bellamy Interviewed On Sense Of Soul Podcast

I was absolutely delighted to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding asexuality @senseofsoulpodcast

I was interviewed as best selling author of Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book –  on Shanna Vavra’s Sense Of Soul Podcast – About The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751 

GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO

You can also listen to my interview – The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual, on Shanna Vavra’s YouTube here https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=kqRloHwpkKfPSQ1U

And on my own YouTube Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=dtzYkn_TKjfteLxf

In this interview me and Shanna:

* Discuss my personal journey from thinking I was heterosexual for years and having sex, to discovering I’m asexual and I’ve now been sex free for years.

* Clarify what it means to be asexual, different types of asexuals – including grey asexual and pure asexual, and different types of relationships people might have if they’re asexual.

* Explore topics covered in my up and coming book: Asexual Guide To Sex book and why I chose to write this book.

* Why it’s so important to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe.

* Bust through myths of asexuality.

* And so much more….

Listen and download the episode here: on ITunes here https://lnkd.in/eRTtJ_iK

GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES BOOK HERE https://amzn.to/3PFIrUO

Watch an interview highlight here:

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Hi my ACE friend It’s that time of year when Black Friday deals are here again.

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And as Redbubble ship all over the world, there’s no excuse not to treat yourself.

So go now to https://redbubble.com/shop/asexualise and check out up to 60 of my very own unique, asexual designs.

There’s something for every ace!

As always, stay beautifully ACE Sandra xx

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

So, my friend Sandra, as well as writing Asexual Perspectives and other books, also has a YouTube channel, where she discusses, among other things, asexuality, relationships, self development and personal improvement. She often has livestreams on the channel. These can vary in duration from around 20-25 minutes up to a couple of hours, dependent on […]

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

When Disaster Strikes, My Asexual Story – How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup – Asexual Meetup Mastery! Don’t Miss This!

Hi my ACE friend,

I am so excited right now!

I can’t believe we’re finally at this moment, almost a year later, ASEXUAL MEETUP MASTERY is finally ready for you here https://courses.asexualiseacademy.com/course/details/asexual-meetup-mastery

I can’t believe I started filming for this course in September 2019, and now, we’re in August 2020. It’s insane how this project just took off and had a mind of its own, and I just couldn’t help adding more and more content to it. Including 3 incredible bonuses. More information about those, are coming up later in this email.

I have put so much time, energy, and effort, into creating this course for you, that now the creation of this course is finally done, I have mixed emotions. I feel both glee and joy in my heart, knowing the phenomenal amount of asexuals this course is going to bring together, and the lives it will change and profoundly impact, but also a sense of sadness, like I am losing an old friend I have known and worked with, so hard for a year right now!

It’s a BIG moment, because I know many of you have been waiting for this course to come out, and asking me when it’s going to be ready, because I know despite being very enthusiastic to get started, you have been stuck as to how to get people to come to your meetups, and commit to showing up, and following through. You have been worried about what to say, without scaring them away. And you have been scratching your head as to where and how to promote your meetups to best effect. You don’t want the pain of making embarrassing mistakes, and having no one show up, or no one even taking an interest in the first place.

I also know many of you are fed up with feeling lost, alone, and disconnected from others of our own kind. You want to be able to meet with other asexuals, in person, or at least face-to-face on video chat. But you have been too scared to take the plunge and do it, because you just didn’t have the right knowledge, know-how, tools, and resources, at your fingertips, to do it… But now, you do!

I know you are perfectly competent and able to do it, you just need someone to SHOW you the right way, HOW to do it. And also get that constant support by email, or live chat, that you need, when you have any further questions, or doubt yourself… for life. Priceless.

So if you’re done with struggling working out how to arrange a successful asexual meetup, either online, or in person, on your own. You feel you are not progressing and you know you need some help, because you don’t know what else to do, and you’re ready to say YES…

YES, to getting the help you need, arranging and holding your own online or in person meetups, for life.
YES, to ending going it alone, which hasn’t got you very far up until now.
YES, to living a more fulfilled, happy, and satisfying, asexual life, of your dreams.

Asexual Meetup Mastery, which took me over 6 months to create, with over 70, almost 80 videos, besides bonuses and resources to download, also includes a MEGA BONUS right now – The entire, How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup, course, as a FREE bonus.  So that is two courses, for the price of the Asexual Meetup Mastery course.

If you want to hold both in person and online meetups, you need to get Asexual Meetup Mastery, now.  💜 Order Asexual Meetup Mastery here 👉https://courses.asexualiseacademy.com/course/details/asexual-meetup-mastery and get, How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup course right now, as a FREE MEGA BONUS! 💜😍😍💜

If you only ever want to hold online meetups, you need to get, How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup, course. 👉 From my Asexualise Academy course page here – https://courses.asexualiseacademy.com/course/details/how-to-arrange-a-successful-online-asexual-meetup 😍

Don’t miss out 😢 on this opportunity of a lifetime and a lifeline.

Both of these courses also includes my 30 DAY ACE Satisfaction Guarantee, or your money back. So you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. 

There’s 20 parts to ASEXUAL MEETUP MASTERY. With 107 lessons in total. Which includes 79 videos in the main course, and 1 video in Bonus Part 18. As well as 15 videos in MEGA BONUS Part 20, as explained above. Making a total of 95 videos. It also includes 6 downloadable handouts in the main course, 1 download in Bonus Part 18, and 1 download in Bonus Part 19. And 4 downloads in MEGA BONUS Part 20, as explained above. Making 12 downloadable handouts in total.

When You Order Asexual Meetup Mastery Video Training Course, Here’s Exactly What You’ll Get Right Now!

PART 1 – Welcome – About Asexual Meetup Mastery Course

 Revealed to you… the one that can make all the difference!

PART 2 – How To Be A Master Without Disaster

 Unlock the magical ingredients you need to succeed, at organising and hosting your own asexual meetups.

 Discover the 4 keys to thrive and flourish as an asexual meetup organiser.

 Uncover the two key factors, that make or break your asexual meetup success.

 Discover the Fantastic 5 places you can find asexual attendees for your meetup. So you aren’t left hanging at the bar all alone, watching the clock tick by, thinking WTF is everyone?

PART 3 – Asexual Meetups And Your 5 Ways To Wellbeing

 Uncover your 5 ways to wellbeing.

 Discover how asexual meetups improve each of these 5 aspects of your life. Both for you and your attendees.

 Revealed… the confidence competence loop. How you can use it to get ahead, in your meetups and your life. And reduce any anxiety you may be feeling.

 Uncover the things you must take notice of, if you want to make sure your meetups are super successful.

 Discover the power of giving. And what it can do for you and your attendees.

PART 4 – Essential Qualities You Need As An Organiser And How To Get Started

 Revealed, the must know dos and don’t of asexual meetup mastery.

 Discover the best times and days, for your asexual meetups. To ensure people show up and want to be there.

 Uncover major date blunders, which could spell disaster for your meetups.

 Discover different types of meetups to hold and to avoid. The good, and the horrifying! Save yourself pain and time, with these ideas.

 Uncover the major differences between national and local meetups.

 Revealed… how to go that extra mile to ensure people show up and want to be at your meetup.

 Discover how to create a safe environment for those with anxiety. To prevent them from panicking, so they feel happy to come to your meetups, instead of dreading them.

PART 5 – Examples Of Previous Asexual Meetups And Things You Need To Know

 Revealed… the one embarrassing mistake to avoid, which could ruin your entire meetup..

 Uncover what you need to know about ‘different’ meetups.

 Revealed… which are the most popular types of meetups for asexuals.

 Uncover how to cater for introverts who attend your meetups.

 Learn how to cater for those with health conditions such as CFS, (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.)

 Discover how your attendees can get cheap train tickets and accommodation, to encourage them to attend.

 Learn how to cater for special dietary requirements to be fully inclusive.

PART 6 – How To Gain Commitment To Ensure People Show Up

 Revealed… the #1 thing you need to check, before you invite people to attend your meetup. Get this wrong, and it could spell disaster.

 Revealed… the #1 mistake other meetup organisers are making, which encourages non-commitment. If people aren’t showing up to your meetups, this is why!

 Discover the one thing you must always do, to ensure you gain commitment, and people show up to your meetups!

 Learn how to be inclusive when arranging your meetups.

PART 7 – How To Organise An Asexual Meetup – Asexual Meetup Walk Through In Real Time

 Uncover multiple must know mistakes to avoid when choosing the day, date and time for your meetup. This important information, is the difference between people showing up and enjoying themselves, or no one showing up at all.

 Discover why it’s important to book the venue in advance, and the problems of not doing so.

 Watch me book the venue for a real life meetup, in real time, to see how it’s done the right way.

 Learn how to create your ideal meetup script using a real life example, in real time.

 Discover meetup script tops tips for success, and a small detail to pay attention to, that can make all the difference. Miss this small detail out, and you could end up with asexuals going to the wrong venue and being extremely angry with you.

 Watch me uncover your ideal asexual meetup script checklist for success. And two embarrassing mistakes to avoid.

 Learn how to pre-empt objections, to solve problems BEFORE they even become one.

 Get my full Asexual Meetup Script Checklist With Template PDF download.

 Learn how to instill confidence, to make your potential attendees far more likely to attend.

PART 8 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Facebook – Pages And Groups

 Learn best practices, for how to post about your asexual meetup on your personal Facebook profile.

 Explore asexual meetup groups, and best practice for preparing to create your own.

 Discover 3 ways how to create a Facebook Group for your meetup, and things you need to know to make it a success.

 Uncover the important features of a Facebook Group and how to best manage it.

 Get done for you, questions for asexual group admittance. This is a download for you to use, to help you avoid an unwanted guest.

 Learn how to promote your asexual meetup, the right way in your Facebook Group/s.

 Learn how to create a Get-Together in your group/s, for your meetup.

 Get Asexualise Academy editable WORD template download, for posting about your meetup to your Facebook profile, Facebook Groups and Pages, site groups and forums. Delete and amend as appropriate. It’s that simple.

 Discover how to create a Facebook page for your meetup.

 Learn how to sell tickets for your meetup, free or paid. If you want to.

 Discover important things you need to know about posting your meetup to a Facebook page, to avoid an unwanted guest.

 Learn how to create an event for your meetup, on your Facebook page.

 Revealed… an example of what a good asexual meetup facebook Page looks like, so you can learn what works.

 Discover how to ensure your meetup post gets noticed.

PART 9 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Asexualitic And Get People To Attend

 Learn about Asexualitic. And important things you need to know about the site, as a meetup organiser.

 Explore an asexual meetup group and what to do to gain commitment.

 Discover how to create a group for your meetup on Asexualitic, and a word of warning.

 Uncover an example of a good meetup group description.

 Learn how to add a post to a group forum.

 Discover how to private message forum group members, and exactly what to say, to encourage them to attend.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable WORD Templates For Asexualitic Private Messaging. Done for you download.

 Exploring Asexualitic profiles, and important things you need to know about them.

 Discover how to find members in your local area or country, to message to come to your meetups.

 Learn how to best promote your meetup on your Asexualitic profile, without full membership.

PART 10 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Twitter And Get More People To Attend

 Learn how to promote your meetup on Twitter. And important things you need to know.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable Word Template For Twitter. Done for you, download.

PART 11 – How To Maintain Commitment From Attendees

 Learn the right way to follow up with asexual meetup attendees before the meetup, to ensure they still attend.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable WORD Template Facebook Messenger Follow Up Script. Done for you, download.

PART 12 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Ace-book And Get People To Attend

 Explore features of an Ace-book profile.

 Learn how to create a blog post for your meetup.

 Learn how to create an Event for your meetup on Ace-book, and mistakes to avoid.

 Learn how to create a new topic in a forum on Ace-book, for your meetup.

 Discover the best way to message strangers on Ace-book to get them to attend your meetup.

 Get Asexual Meetup Mastery Editable WORD Template Script For Ace-book. Done for you, download.

 Uncover the power of messaging someone who wants to attend your meetup, and how to avoid spamming.

PART 13 – How To Promote Your Meetup On Asexuality.org (AVEN) And Get People To Attend

 Learn how to promote your meetup on AVEN for maximum impact.

 Discover how to check existing meetup threads for meetups already in your area, so you avoid holding yours at the same time.

 Explore further, how my first asexual meetup happened. So you can learn what to do and not to do.

 Discover what problems you can encounter when organising asexual meetups, so you know how to deal with them.

 Learn how to reply to posts on AVEN.

 Discover how to start a new forum topic for your meetup.

 Learn how to post your meetup on your personal profile for maximum exposure.

 Discover how to private message people on AVEN. And be proactive, for maximum attendance.

PART 14 – How To Promote Your Meetup on Meetup(.com) And Get People To Attend

 Explore the purpose of Meetup website, and a message of caution.

 Learn how to create an account on Meetup and important things you need to know.

 Discover how to create a profile on Meetup to best utilise its helpful features, for maximum meetup exposure.

 Explore the benefits of Meetup Pro and how it can benefit you and your meetups.

 Learn how to best manage your account, email updates, settings, and notifications. So you can keep track of all Meetup activity relevant to you and your meetups.

 Discover how to join existing asexual meetup groups and related groups. For your own personal benefit, and the benefit of your own meetups.

 Explore a different type of meetup group, as an example of an enticing group description. So you can get ideas for your own meetup, to encourage more people to attend.

 Explore an example of a good welcome message, which is especially encouraging to those who have anxiety or special needs. So you can be inclusive.

 Learn how to start your own meetup group on Meetup website, and important things you must know before you get started.

 Explore features of an existing asexual meetup group. So you can learn from the things they are doing right.

 Discover how to best use those features for your own meetup, with more ideas of the types of meetups you can hold.

 Learn how to get suggestions for future meetups, and how to best accommodate different needs.

 Uncover how to get group reviews and encourage attendance.

 Explore meetups for asexuals only, Vs including non-asexuals, so you can make an informed decision whether to include non-asexuals at your meetups, or not.

 Uncover a mistake to avoid, to stop missing out.

PART 15 – How To Promote Your Meetup On ACEapp And Get People To Attend

 Learn the purpose of ACEapp, and how to create the best profile.

 Discover how to find asexuals for your meetup and apply filters.

 Revealed… how to recognise and avoid, scammers and fakes. With a real life example.

 Uncover what other meetup organisers are getting wrong about national Vs local meetups, and what you need to do about it, to gain maximum attendance. If you don’t know what’s wrong, you won’t do what’s right.

 Discover the best techniques for approaching someone on ACEapp to encourage them to attend.

 Revealed… the best way to reply to someone who is autistic, and get them to attend. Using a real life example.

 Discover how and why, it’s important to be a pro organiser Vs passive organiser. And what this means for you.

PART 16 – How To Grow Your Asexual Meetup

 Revealed… how to find different places to go and things to do at your asexual meetups.

 Explore asexual merchandise for your meetups.

PART 17 – Next Steps

 Discover what you should do next, if you want to thrive and flourish as a pro meetup organiser.

PART 18 – BONUS UK Asexuality Conference 2018 – How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup Talk And Notes

 This video is a recording of my 49-minute talk, at the UK Asexuality Conference in London, July 2018. Which explains the what, when, where, how and why, for organising a successful asexual meetup, which ensures people show up!

 How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup, UK Asexuality Conference notes. The foundational roadmap for your meetup success, which makes organising and hosting your meetups, a piece of cake! (These notes were not available as a handout at the Conference; they are exclusive to those who take this course.)

PART 19 – BONUS 156 Places To Go And Things To Do At Asexual Meetups

 Get 156 Ideas For What To Do And Where To Go For Asexual Meetups, And How To Make It A Success. Never be stuck for ideas for asexual meetups ever again, with this done for you, PDF download.

PART 20 – MEGA BONUS

 How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup, The Entire Course FREE, Only With Asexual Meetup Mastery.

What You Need To Know About What You’re Getting Right Now, With This FREE MEGA BONUS

How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup

The Only Online Asexual Meetup Course With A Proven 7 Steps Success Blueprint, Which Can Be Used For Both Online And In Person Asexual Meetups

PART 1 – 3 Success Indicators You Need To Know To Be Super Successful

 Revealed to you… the 3 Success Indicators. Set yourself up for success from the start. Take the guesswork out of your success with these 3 must know Success Indicators.

PART 2 – Secret 7 Steps Formula For Online Asexual Meetup Success

 Unlock the secret 7 Steps Of Success. These simple steps make arranging and holding asexual meetups, hassle free, and as easy as 1,2,3,4,5,6,7. They may be simple, but not obvious.

 Discover the one question you need to ask yourself and focus on first, before you even start arranging your own asexual meetup. Miss this one question out, and it could spell disaster!

 Uncover must know mistakes, before you arrange your own asexual online meetup. These can be the difference between your success and failure.

 Discover the 3 main reasons why people hold asexual meetups, and explore which option is best for you.

 Discover the 3 main methods used to facilitate your online meetup, and identify which one’s best for you.

 Revealed to you… the 3 simple steps to structure your meetup to ensure it’s successful. Without a plan, you won’t reach your destination.

 Revealed… the one thing most people are not doing to gain commitment. Miss this one thing out, and it’s like betting on a horse you’ve never seen race.

 Discover the 3 powerful things you need to say to persuade people to show up. This is how you guarantee commitment and reduce your anxiety.

 What things to include in your online meetup description to ensure your online meetup runs smoothly and it’s super successful. Learn from my mistakes, to save you the embarrassment.

 Done for you, editable meetup description template download. Saving you time working it out on your own.

PART 3 – How To Promote Your Online Asexual Meetup To Ensure People Show Up Including Success Scripts

 Discover multiple ways to promote your online asexual meetup and identify which are best for you.

 Uncover a major mistake to avoid when promoting your asexual meetup. So you avoid an unwanted guest.

 What exact words to use, to persuade people to come to your meetup. Without scaring them away.

 Done for you, editable download script template to encourage attendance. Saving you time working it out on your own.

 Revealed… The little known secret to getting you maximum visibility for your meetup on Asexualitic. Use this powerful technique to gain maximum exposure.

PART 4 – Creating A Skype Group For Your Online Meetup For Zero Cost And Maximum Impact

 Look over my shoulder at exactly how to set up and use a Skype group for your online meetup success. For zero cost and maximum impact.

 Discover the two ways people can join the group.

 Discover important things to say to your attendees, so they are not left speechless and in the dark.

 Revealed… the one embarrassing mistake to avoid, which could ruin your entire meetup.

PART 5 – Success For Life – Secret 7 Steps Of Success Blueprint

 Summarising the 7 Steps Of Success you’ve learnt, for life. These can also be used for an in person meetup, over and over again.

 7 Steps Of Success Blueprint download. Includes the 3 Success Indicators. Takes the guesswork out of any meetup you want to arrange. Keep these handy to ensure any meetup you organise and hold, is super successful.

What Else You Need To Know About What You’re Getting With This MEGA BONUS Right Now

♠ There’s 19 lessons. Which include 15 videos. And 4 downloadable handouts, which are just amazing, as they’re editable scripts. You’ll get my 7 Steps Of Success Blueprint, plus my 3 Success Indicators.

♠ You’ll learn how to promote your online asexual meetup and where to promote it. Including a really, really top tip, which most people don’t know. This top tip will show you how to promote your meetup and get hundreds of eyeballs on it, on a specific site.

♠ The downloads are easily downloadable at the click of a button. So you can print them off. But if privacy’s an issue I go through everything on the screen. So you can take your own notes and hand write your own scripts out, based on what I’m saying in the videos. Without even using the handouts. So everything that you need to know is in the videos.

♠ You’ll be learning an easy to understand step-by-step formula. And you’ll be able to look over my shoulder at how I arrange online asexual meetups for success.

♠ Many of the videos have important written reminders right underneath them. For your ease of understanding of key concepts, for how to make your own online asexual meetups, super successful.

♠ All you need to do is watch the videos as I hand hold you every step of the way, to your online meetup success. Just read the notes beneath the videos. Be able to copy and paste. It’s that simple.

What Else You Need To Know About What You’re Getting With Asexual Meetup Mastery Right Now

♠ You’re going to be learning from a successful and professional asexual meetup organiser. That’s been organising and hosting asexual meetups for over 5 years. That’s me. And asexuals return to my meetups time and time again. So I’m obviously doing something right.

♠ Asexual Meetup Mastery, which currently includes How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup course, as a MEGA BONUS, is a video training course, which you get to view in your own private members area on secure Amazon servers, so you can have complete peace of mind.

♠ Asexual Meetup Mastery is not based on theory, but uses a real life meetup example; my bestest friend Sam’s birthday meetup. This is what makes this course so special and unique. And super powerful in enabling you to take the right actions, and avoid the painful mistakes I have made along the way in arranging and holding my own asexual meetups, for the past 5 years.

♠ You get to look over my shoulder as I arrange their birthday meetup, in real time, step-by-step. So you can see exactly what works and what doesn’t. As I hold your hand every step of the way to your own asexual meetup success.

♠ Upon purchase, you get instant access to this course, and its 3 bonuses, for life. 365 days a year. 24/7.

♠ Any future updates for this particular Asexual Meetup Mastery course and its current bonuses, will be free, for you.

♠ Learn from the comfort of your own home, or wherever you can access the site, in your own time, making it really convenient for you.

♠ It’s a one-time investment payment, with access for life. No monthly fees. No yearly fees. Once you have these skills, you have them for life. So you can just continue to do more and more meetups, and be super successful.

♠ Email or chat support. Whilever you are taking the Asexual Meetup Mastery course, you can email me asexualise@gmail.com or message me in the chat bubble, about anything to do with this specific course, and any of its bonuses.

(Right now, if you get this Asexual Meetup Mastery course, you can ask me any questions associated with both in person and online asexual meetups.)

As Always, stay Ace
Sandra xx

P.S. If you missed my personal story about why I started asexual meets in the first place, watch the video on YouTube, called When Disaster Strikes, My Asexual Story, which I have included at the bottom of this blog post or check it out on YouTube here – https://youtu.be/bH5yKeE_ESI

The Earlybird offers advertised in this video have now gone. But at the moment, you can still  Order Asexual Meetup Mastery course here 👉https://courses.asexualiseacademy.com/course/details/asexual-meetup-mastery and get, How To Arrange A Successful Online Asexual Meetup course right now, as a FREE MEGA BONUS! 💜😍😍💜 So don’t delay, order now, before I change my mind about this bonus.

P.P.S. If you have any questions about these courses, just email me asexualise@gmail.com – I am only ever, an email away.

WATCH WHEN DISASTER STRIKES, MY ASEXUAL STORY, TO HEAR HOW ASEXUAL MEETUPS TRULY CHANGED MY LIFE

How To Boost Your Immune System And Use It To Help Prevent Coronavirus!

Asexual Ace Fibr Girl

If you didn’t already know, besides being a heteroromantic asexual, I have Fibromyalgia! Besides being known as – Asexualise, I am also known as ACE (Asexual) Fibro Girl. I know some other asexuals also have fibro and I mention Asexuality in my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook. Stress causes more Fibromyalgia pain and makes you more susceptible to viruses because it lowers your immune system! 😷

👉Which is why, with the Coronavirus, it’s more important than ever to decrease your stress levels and in this post I will explain exactly how to do this. Read this post, even if you don’t have fibromyalgia, because it’s so important to safeguard your immune system against this deadly virus! So read on 👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉👉

Stress causes more Fibromyalgia pain and makes you more susceptible to viruses because it lowers your immune system! 😷

👉Which is why, with the Coronavirus, it’s more important than ever to decrease your stress levels and in this post I will explain exactly how to do this. So read on 👉👉👉👉👉👉

👉This is my one top tip for today, and the days to come, especially for combatting getting Coronavirus.🤒😷

You must decrease your stress levels in multiple aspects of your life! If you want to decrease your fibro pain and decrease your likelihood of getting more sickness or disease.👇

So many people with fibro are looking for an outside cure.👀

So many people with fibro are looking for the next pill to pop to decrease their pain.👀

They don’t see that the answers are within their self. 👀🙄

And the more responsibility you take for your own life and pain, the less pain you keep locked within you! And the less pain you feel as a result! 🤗

Fibromyalgia is an autoimmune condition, which means now, with the Coronavirus, it’s more important than ever, to decrease our stress levels in multiple aspects of our life and focus on having fun, relaxation, and not going into panic overdrive mode! Otherwise we increase our chances of becoming sick 🤒😷

Stress is the ONE thing you really need to decrease, if you want to prevent getting more diseases, illnesses, sickness, infections. 🤧🤒

So make two lists.

One list with everything that makes you feel relaxed, happy, smiley. Such as:

🛀Taking a hot bath.

🧘‍♀️Doing meditation, or just closing your eyes to your favourite music.

👀Watching your favourite movies.

💃Dancing around your home to your favourite tunes.

💬Messaging a favourite friend.

💌Emailing a loved one.

👉Whatever it is, make your list now and make sure you are doing 1-3 of these things each and every day.

The more stress you feel you have in your life, the more of these things you should be doing to decrease your stress levels and boost your immune system back up. 3 per day minimum is what I recommend. Never go a day without doing one of them. You owe it to yourself to put your health first. The more you take care of yourself, the more you can look after others. So it’s a win, win! 🤩😍

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And a second list that focuses on each of these main aspects of your life, and the stress you feel within each of them!

👉 Relationships with yourself and with others.

💏 Love relationship.

👭 Friendships.

👨‍👩‍👧 Family.

👉 Health – not only with your fibro but other things you may have, what causes you to have the most stress with your health, be honest!

👇Is it putting others first?
👇Is it a lack of exercise?
👇Is it a toxic relationship?
👇Is it you need some extra help with your shopping, or cleaning your home?
👇Or do you just need a listening ear.👂
👇Do you need to find more things to help you relax?

👉 Finances.

Are your finances in good health or is a lack of money causing you stress?🤔😖

👉 Life mission, goals, ambitions and dreams!

As humans we need to feel like we are making progress in our life, if we are not, we feel like we are stagnating, we feel lifeless, we lack that fighting spirit and the reason we need to keep going!

Let me ask you a question… what are your life goals, ambitions and dreams right now? 🤔🤔

And don’t tell me you are in too much pain to have any, because if you are in that amount of pain, it’s exactly what you need to take your mind off your pain! You need to have a focus that is off your pain, and on what you love to do, what you want to do, and what you must do! 😍 This is essential to decrease your pain 😍

If you were to be at the end of your life right now and you wanted to know you had made your mark in the world, that you have left a lasting legacy, that you had lived your life doing everything you wanted to do, what would those things be that are a must for you? 🤔

Your fibro pain makes you know you can get through anything life throws at you, so why not use this pain to push yourself to achieve as many of your goals, ambitions and dreams, as much as possible?

👉 Your spirit and soul.

What are you doing to nourish your inner spirit and soul?

What is working for your soul? 🤔💥
And what are you doing in your life that is going against it? 😥
Have you tapped into your inner intuition lately? 🤔
Or are you not trusting your own judgement and purposefully going against your own intuition and gut feeling? And ultimately causing pain and stress to your own soul and inner being, thus increasing your fibro pain? 🤔😥

👉 Mindset.

🤔 Are you self-critical?
🤔 Hard on yourself when things don’t go right?
🤔 Don’t believe in yourself?
😥 Worst still, you don’t love, or even… like yourself!

These things will cause more stress and distress in your body and ultimately more fibro pain! This is what I mean by so many people look for an outside solution to fix an internal problem. You may not be able to cure yourself completely from fibro but you CAN still decrease your fibromyalgia pain and live a better quality of life! All these things will zap your happiness and energy too. Fibromyalgia is a result of trauma, how much ‘internal’ trauma, are you currently adding to your already inflaming volcano within you. Think about it! 🤔

Look at your own life and the multiple aspects of it, and which ones you have any stress in, then try to eliminate those stresses completely and as much as possible.🤗

You want a weapon against Coronavirus? Start by de-stressing and relaxing as a top priority in your life! Go to the top of this post and take action and do the work it takes to get you feeling better. Make a list of ways that you find relaxing and ensure you do 3 each day. Then work on your stresses in these aspects: relationships, health, finances, life mission, spirit/soul, and mindset. You need to work out what your stresses are, how to decrease them, usually by a process of eliminating them or reducing them, by taking action to do so. No excuses for not taking any action. Do your very best and then some more. If you give yourself excuses, you are keeping yourself in more pain than you need to be.

Your next weapon against Coronavirus, especially if you have #fibromyalgia, is working on what to eat and not to eat to boost your immune system and decrease your pain! 🤗

👉 Check out my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook here https://amzn.to/33iDOr2for more help with how to decrease your pain, including the full list of 25 internal/external environments, you need to examine and take action in, to decrease your pain! And HOW to do that!😍

👉 This book also covers the foods to eat and not to eat, to have less pain, more energy, feel happier, and to stop that, my-legs-feel-like-they-have-been-run-over-by-a-bus, feeling! You know the one I mean!

👉 To get your copy of this pain busting book, here is the link https://amzn.to/33iDOr2This will be the best investment you have ever made to decrease your Fibromyalgia pain, or Amazon will even give you your money back, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Just remember whenever you need results in life, you need to take action and do the work it takes, but the effort will be worth it. 😍💥

— with Sandra Bellamy Aka ACE Fibro Girl.

New Asexualise Asexual Merchandise Page Super Simple To Use New Asexual Merch Page Shop For Asexualise Merch On Asexualise.com

Asexualise Asexual Merch #asexuality

I have a new Asexualise Asexual Merchandise page that is super simple to use. It has separate links to every product category within my www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise/shop See all those categories on the left of the screenshot above; you can click through each one individually to find the product you want, super quickly. Or if you can click on those links below directly from this blog post!

Click on any of the individual product category links below to take you through to the relevant page for the designs of that item in my Asexualise Redbubble Shop.

Acrylic Blocks

Art Boards

Art Prints

Canvas Prints

Clocks

Drawstring Bags

Dresses

Duvet Covers

Framed Prints

Galaxy Cases & Skins

Greetings Cards

Hardcover Journals

iPad Cases & Skins

iPhone Cases & Covers

iPhone Wallets

Laptop Skins

Leggings

Metal Prints

Mini Skirts

Mugs

Photographic Prints

Pillows & Cushions

Postcards

Posters

Scarves

Spiral Notebooks

Stickers

Studio Pouches

Sweatshirts & Hoodies

T-Shirts

Tank Tops

Tote Bags

Wall Tapestries

Shop worldwide for Asexualise Asexual Merchandise at my Redbubble shop by clicking through the individual item labels above, or here https://www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise/shop

You can access this new asexual Asexualise “Merch” page here, or from the ‘Merch’ Tab at this site, or currently from the home page. Shop now for Asexualise Merch on www.asexualise.com

Happy Shopping.

Sandra xx

8 Reasons Why I Refuse To Date Sexuals!

asexual reasons for not dating sexuals

8 Reason why I refuse to date sexuals:

  1. In my experience they cannot live happily forever without sex and I don’t like, need or want that, ever again in my life!The end!Okay, so I have some more reasons but they are linked to the first
  2. Their thinking is different.
  3. They cannot kiss for long periods of time without getting frustrated and pressurising to have sex with them.
  4. They would view a cute pair of PJs as something that needs to be removed quickly for sex. And I like wearing cute PJs and I don’t want sex.
  5. They may want to get their sexual needs met elsewhere and I am 100% a monogamous girl!
  6. They will usually end up going off with someone else due to the lack of sex.
  7. Incompatible needs and intentions.
  8. Can’t make each other happy sexually and that will inevitably lead to other problems such as resentment, unsatisfaction and lack of fulfilment, feeling neglected or rejected and communication becomes lacking as the gap between us widens.

To sum it up, we are just not compatible and I am not prepared to put myself through that heartache ever again.

There is however, someone in my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book who is asexual and said they are with a bisexual person and the sex (or lack of it) was never an issue. I think this is extremely rare, especially if the relationship is monogamous, but nothing is completely impossible in all cases.

As I update this blog post in September 2018, I did try dating a sexual for 2 months in 2017, and I stopped dating him because he turned out to be a real psycho not because of the no sex aspect – but that was also a huge worry for me and he even understood it was better for me to be with an asexual. A mutual friend afterwards said he would have cheated on you.

I know of one sexual person that is married to an aromantic asexual in a monogamous married relationship but the lack of sex makes them unhappy in the relationship aspect of their life. I also met a married couple at the UK Asexuality Conference and she is asexual and he is sexual – hooray for a supportive husband!

I tend to attract the highly sexual guys, so yeah, it would be great if they could live without sex, but they can’t in my experience. And ‘highly’ sexual is the clue! Plus I love Passionate kissing but never want sex, and like I said in my point (2) above, it is just too frustrating for them to do that and not get sex as the ‘reward’ or ‘prize’ they crave.

What is your thoughts? As an asexual, would you date a sexual?

Until next time, stay ACE!

Sandra xx

 

ASEXUAL DATING – DON’T BE AFRAID TO BLOCK!! FACEBOOK BLOCKING

It is okay to block

In my vast asexual dating experience, and particularly in asexual dating groups on Facebook, there are so many people who get worried about Facebook blocking someone who is clearly from an outside point of view being emotional abusive, nasty, or hurtful.

They spend ages worried about what the other person will think, about if that person really is being horrible to them, about maybe they should just keep the relationship going, give them chance after chance and feeling like they have to continue the relationship for some reason, or worse, that if they don’t continue it something bad will happen to them, or they will be harassed forever, (due to emotional and mental blackmail by the other person).

They sometimes realise the person is being harmful and hurtful, but still continue the relationship. This can be because they have feelings for them, or they feel it is less hassle to, or they think that person may change and don’t want to lose that connection. I totally get this as I used to be that type of person, but I learnt in my life that how we are treated is how we allow ourself to be treated, so if we feel bad because someone’s actions and attitude is not nice, disrespectful, rude, or abusive, we need to remove ourself from that situation and free ourself, instead of wasting our time and allowing ourself to be abused. I also learnt that another person’s problems is not MY problem, and that it is okay to walk away out of self-respect, self-love and self-worth!

I hope you found that helpful? Would love to hear what you think?

Until next time, stay ace

Sandra xx

First Ever ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM: 1ST-31ST OF JULY 2017. ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity! Founded by Sandra Bellamy/Asexualise!

Ace Awareness Month
First Ever: ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM JULY 1ST-JULY 31ST 2017! ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity!

In conjunction with the printed version of my Asexual Perspectives book being published in print, to celebrate our diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our individuality within it – A central core message from the book – I have founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month from 1st-31st of July 2017. (Please use #APAM in your Tweets and social media to join in the celebration.) Like www.facebook.com/acexualise and www.facebook.com/acexualisedating and follow me on Twitter, at www.twitter.com/asexualise to join in the celebration. There will be quotes from the book, fun challenges you will want to get involved in, videos, Facebook Lives, posts and more!! Also subscribe to www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to watch a new video every day for 31 days!

I love www.asexuality.org as I have made some great friends on there, I think it is an amazing community and I organise asexual meet-ups in my city of Exeter in the UK too. However, after being told in a forum thread  by a member of the community, that I could not identify as a heteroromantic Grey A – because I did not fit the Grey A definition as they saw it, I felt rejected and singled out by that individual, and other people said in a PM that they had had similar experiences. I thought this can’t be right, we should be celebrating our diversity across the spectrum and our individuality within it, not tearing each other apart – and this is what sparked the idea for my Asexual Perspectives book. I wanted to show just how wonderful our diverse spectrum is and get different points of views from across the spectrum, on love, life and sex, and to also bust through the many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, to give better understanding towards one another. (More recently, I even got told I could not identify as an asexual cougar by someone in my own Asexual Friends www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus because they did not like the word cougar!!) I really hope this Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, and this book, can bring us together more as a community!!

The printed version will be available to buy on Amazon next month 560 pages of acesomeness!! Here is the link to the Kindle version! http://amzn.to/2tPxFAJ

Asexual Perspectives
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.

Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy?

Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy? This is a great question. There are many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, and just because someone is asexual, does not meant to say that someone cannot find you sexy. Sexy is a matter of perception by the person experiencing that feeling.

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