Asexuality Know Better – Asexual Perspectives Author Interview With Sandra Bellamy

There’s nothing more exciting and rewarding for a writer/published Author, than changing people’s lives through your own written words.

When you add to that, the fact you are asexual, and you are interviewed about your book and asexual life journey, it’s just the icing on the cake.

I’m so proud to be featured in Loud and Out magazine, about my Asexual Perspectives book, and Author/asexual journey. And what a journey it’s been. I remember when I was scared to talk about sex with anyone else but a partner.  I remember a time I thought I had to have sex as part of a ‘normal’ relationship. And I remember how the word asexual turned me off from using it, because it has sexual as part of the word, and I feel I’m not sexual. I remember thinking if you have sexual behaviour, how can you be asexual? Not realising sexual behaviour is not the same as sexual attraction. Asexuals lack sexual attraction, they don’t all lack sexual behaviour.

Want to know more about why I chose to write Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life And Sex book?

Check out the article here https://loudandout.com/asexuality/?fbclid=IwAR0cvSXnB5wfFMV_n4yTUdImJBYxizPC7hLvegR3wkMew5QYLNb_-jKPXu4

As always, stay ACE

Sandra xx

ASEXUAL AUTHOR BBC RADIO INTERVIEW WITH GRAHAM TORRINGTON!

On Monday 31st of July, I had an Asexual Author BBC Radio interview with Graham Torrington. My interview explored my own Asexual Perspectives book personal asexual story and went more in-depth into some of the issues I faced in my past heterosexual relationships. I got told my interview was “outstanding”, but it was only available online for 30 days on iPlayer here ://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p057whh1. And so I am very sorry if you are reading this well after that time and that link has now expired! BUT you can still hear my interview with Major from the Straight Up Gay Podcast on iTunes, here: https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-26-sandra-bellamy-from-the-u-k/id1191090742?i=1000391267315&mt=2 and it’s one of the most popular shows ever on his channel, which sadly is not running anymore but mine is the last show on there!

Please listen now and tell me what you think?

As always

Stay Ace

Sandra xx

 

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WHY I WROTE ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES, LOVE, LIFE AND SEX, ACElebration OF ASEXUAL DIVERSITY BOOK!

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book and Author Sandra Bellamy

If you did not already know. I have written and published a book for Asexuals called Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity. I interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe for it about what they really think of love, life and sex, in order to create more understanding across the spectrum, and especially after I was told in a forum on Aven that I could not identify as I describe myself because I did not fit into the definition of Grey A as they saw it. Other asexuals approached me and said they too felt left out and that they were told they could not be who they are. As a minority group, I felt so appalled that some asexuals treat other asexuals in this manner and felt compelled to write a book that showed although we share a lack of asexual attraction, just how much we vary in our experiences, our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. I want our diversity to be embraced, not torn apart.

Asexual Perspectives came out on Kindle last month and the printed version will be available soon. It took me almost a year to write it and I hope it helps a lot of asexuals to understand that there are others just like us out there and that we can be ourselves and love without sex, live without sex and be happy without sex. I also wanted to find out just what sexual attraction means to different aces on the spectrum and why they feel that asexuality is not accepted as a form of sexual orientation in its own right by society and what they think can be done about this.

This is the link to it on http://amzn.to/2l8PaGu You can get it on Amazon stores across the globe, so you can just click the option in the top right of your screen to view it on your country’s site. It is free to read on Kindle Unlimited at the moment and you can read my own personal story just from the look inside preview. You can also read most of another personal story from a person in this group…

This is the description:

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book.
Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE! Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like!

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK OUT ON KINDLE

My Asexual Perspectives, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexuality Diversity book is now live and published on Amazon Kindle.

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and shop now, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

Behind The Scenes Of What A Writer’s Life Is Really Like

This is the second part of my two-part Asexual Perspectives behind the scenes of my book video series. – What a writer’s life is really like!!

As you can see from this pile of manuscript, lots of sweat and tears went into this book!

I hope you enjoy reading the book and if you purchase a copy, here https://amzn.to/2wsO8Oi please leave and honest review!!

Stay ace

Sandra xx