What a lot of asexuals don’t realise, is there are dating sites specifically for asexuals, I am on ace-book.net and asexualitic.com, the first is free, the second I believe is £15 to upgrade to full membership for the year, but you can create a profile and put your email and other social media contact details on it, and just tell people to message you off there, and it would seem like no one stops you. When I joined, there were less than 5000 members, now there are over 21,000; and so it was free back then, and has remained free so far me for me – I have silver status! There are also at least a couple of asexual dating groups on Facebook Asexual Singles and Romantic Asexual Singles – although not everyone in those is looking for a date and some members may not actually be asexual. Although you may find a lot of romantic asexuals on these sites and in these groups, you will also find aromantic aces wanting platonic relationships or friendships too.
Aven, otherwise known as Asexuality.org, is not a dating site, and they have strict rules about not posting you are looking to date/have a relationship with anyone – their rule is – you are not allowed, and don’t, go to asexual dating sites for that! I was told off twice when I first joined! That does not mean to say that you cannot talk to someone in a private message who you get on well with, about a possible date or dating them, if you think it to be appropriate.
Asexual meet-ups are often organised through Asexuality.org by various people in different areas of the world – If there isn’t a meet-up, you could start one, watch my video on arranging a meet-up about that! Meet-ups are not normally used to find dates, but to meet other asexuals and make friends, however, one of those friends could turn into a future relationship for you, but don’t go with that intension.
If you do decide you would like to meet someone on your own, I would always recommend Skyping them first for your own safety and piece of mind. You need to know what they look like – a picture could be old, and if their behaviour while Skyping is in keeping with what they have told you about themselves. It’s also a great way of getting to know someone beforehand to check you are going to get on with them. If you have been messaging someone a lot of ace dating sites, you may want to give ‘Skype Dating’ a go before meeting them in person. This is different to Skyping someone just to get to know them for a one-to-one meet up or as a friend. Intentions should have been made clear before the Skype session, at to what purpose the Skyping is for. When you start chatting to a person as a meet-up potential one-to-one, it’s about making sure you will just get on and are comfortable to meet. When you are Skype dating, it is often because you have shown interest in each other romantically, or expressed an interest in a relationship with each other, and want to get to know each other on a more personal/intimate level, and will be asking each other questions to find out if you would be suitable to be in a relationship together, of course one day they may become more than your friend if asexy/romantic/platonic sparks fly, but the intention at this point is different.
For more information and tips about Asexual dating and Skype dating, you can watch my videos below: