ASEXUAL AUTHOR BBC RADIO INTERVIEW WITH GRAHAM TORRINGTON!

On Monday 31st of July, I had an Asexual Author BBC Radio interview with Graham Torrington. My interview explored my own Asexual Perspectives book personal asexual story and went more in-depth into some of the issues I faced in my past heterosexual relationships. I got told my interview was “outstanding”, but it was only available online for 30 days on iPlayer here ://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p057whh1. And so I am very sorry if you are reading this well after that time and that link has now expired! BUT you can still hear my interview with Major from the Straight Up Gay Podcast on iTunes, here: https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-26-sandra-bellamy-from-the-u-k/id1191090742?i=1000391267315&mt=2 and it’s one of the most popular shows ever on his channel, which sadly is not running anymore but mine is the last show on there!

Please listen now and tell me what you think?

As always

Stay Ace

Sandra xx

 

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Awesome Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories 5 Star Book Review From Someone New To Asexuality!!!! #APAM

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES

5 STAR BOOK REVIEW

Kerry July 26, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

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ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES PAPERBACK UNBOXING VIDEO FROM A FAN #APAM

Asexual Perspectives Book

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES PAPERBACK UNBOXING VIDEO FROM A FAN #APAM

In the video, is probably my biggest YouTube fan, and he is unboxing a copy of my Asexual Perspectives book, watch this video as he comes alive with the joy of receiving it!

Finally, the print paperback version of my 560 page Asexual Perspectives book is now available to buy on Amazon here http://amzn.to/2u1wp0O. Or UK site http://amzn.to/2tw739A

The Kindle version of my Asexual Perspectives book, you can get here http://amzn.to/2szjNJQ Or UK site is http://amzn.to/2u6vps7. Please leave a review on Amazon to help other asexuals and to raise more awareness of asexuality.

To celebrate this book going into print, our diversity across the spectrum, and our individuality within it, I founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, 1st-31st of July 2017, #APAM. Like www.facebook.com/acexualise to join in the celebration fun and subscribe on www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to see a different video every day, for 31 days of #APAM, related to a topic from the book that matters to you and join in the conversation!!

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES Book Proof Arrives! #APAM

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It took me a year to interview for Asexual Perspectives book and write it, in the Kindle version, and a further 6 months to get it into print. I was super excited to receive my proof copies of Asexual Perspectives book this week!!

In time for #APAM, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH which started on 1st July and goes on until 31st of July. Don’t forget for this special month there will be a new video every day for 31 days. Subscribe to Asexualise My Asexual Life at www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife and like www.facebook.com/acexualise  to join in the fun.

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First Ever ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM: 1ST-31ST OF JULY 2017. ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity! Founded by Sandra Bellamy/Asexualise!

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First Ever: ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES AWARENESS MONTH #APAM JULY 1ST-JULY 31ST 2017! ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity!

In conjunction with the printed version of my Asexual Perspectives book being published in print, to celebrate our diversity across the asexual spectrum, and our individuality within it – A central core message from the book – I have founded Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month from 1st-31st of July 2017. (Please use #APAM in your Tweets and social media to join in the celebration.) Like www.facebook.com/acexualise and www.facebook.com/acexualisedating and follow me on Twitter, at www.twitter.com/asexualise to join in the celebration. There will be quotes from the book, fun challenges you will want to get involved in, videos, Facebook Lives, posts and more!! Also subscribe to www.youtube.com/c/asexualisemyasexuallife to watch a new video every day for 31 days!

I love www.asexuality.org as I have made some great friends on there, I think it is an amazing community and I organise asexual meet-ups in my city of Exeter in the UK too. However, after being told in a forum thread  by a member of the community, that I could not identify as a heteroromantic Grey A – because I did not fit the Grey A definition as they saw it, I felt rejected and singled out by that individual, and other people said in a PM that they had had similar experiences. I thought this can’t be right, we should be celebrating our diversity across the spectrum and our individuality within it, not tearing each other apart – and this is what sparked the idea for my Asexual Perspectives book. I wanted to show just how wonderful our diverse spectrum is and get different points of views from across the spectrum, on love, life and sex, and to also bust through the many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, to give better understanding towards one another. (More recently, I even got told I could not identify as an asexual cougar by someone in my own Asexual Friends www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus because they did not like the word cougar!!) I really hope this Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, and this book, can bring us together more as a community!!

The printed version will be available to buy on Amazon next month 560 pages of acesomeness!! Here is the link to the Kindle version! http://amzn.to/2tPxFAJ

Asexual Perspectives
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.

Asexual Perspectives Print Edition – More Book for Your Buck!

After painstaking months of working with the typesetter on my Asexual Perspectives book from January until around the end of March/beginning of April, and still having typesetting issues that needed to be sorted, and having spent another 3 nights last week, working on all those issues, I am relieved that I could finally print this final 560 page book proof, before I order a copy to check from Amazon, so I can finally hit the publish button to the world. Not long to go now… I cannot wait to hold this book in my hand!!

I must have edited it well over 15 times, considering all the editing I did prior to the typesetting, and it has gone through a final proof read and edit these past two days, and I am doing the typing up of those as we speak. I love writing but all the book formatting stuff is tough!!

Making a full-time living out of writing, is my dream, and my hugest passion is for asexuality, I really want to write more books for asexuals, as this is my huge specialist niche and I truly believe that I am born to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so that no asexual have to live in fear of ridicule ever again. The more people who buy, share, like, and give good reviews for this Asexual Perspectives book, the more that will help with this. I really need more amazing reviews, so when you get a copy, please could you leave one? It will really help me out!! Thank you!!

With 560 pages of insights into asexuality and how asexuals survive in a sexualised world; how they manage their relationships, and busting through many asexual myths and stereotypes about love, live and sex; including arousal and masturbation, it will be an intriguing read and answer many questions you may have about asexuality that are constantly on your mind, causing you confusion and frustration! It is told in the voices of 46 different asexuals around the globe, using their own language, dialects, slang and mannerisms! As well as my own. It took me almost a year to interview for it; write/edit it, so you are getting more book for your buck!! It is not only educational, but humorous too!!

Until next time, check out the Kindle Version and stay ace! xx


UPDATE: Asexual Perspectives Print Edition is out now and you can buy it here https://amzn.to/2Pl6aJd

Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book and Author Sandra Bellamy

10 Reasons Why Asexuals Are Beautiful!

1) Asexuals usually hold friendships in high regard, so you will feel valued if they are your friend.

2) Asexuals will focus on getting to know the inner you, so you will feel you are important to them.

3) Asexuals see the world in a way that other’s don’t, and that is a special gift.

4) Asexuals often like to keep busy with various activities and hobbies, which makes conversation with them, interesting and stimulating.

5) If an asexual invites you out for coffee to get to know you, they literally mean what they say, and they are not trying to get into your underwear!!

6) Asexuals will not be trying to constantly impress you based on their looks, so you want sex with them; as they ususually don’t want sex and don’t ‘need’ it.

7) Asexuals are often different and quirky, and therefore make interesting characters.

8) Asexuals know what it feels like to be in a minority, so are often empathetic to others who feel alone or singled out.

9) Many asexuals are kind; caring and friendly, and value those who share those traits.

10) Many asexuals are strong and tough, because they have often come up against resistance to being different.

What other things make asexuals beautiful? Share in the comments below and stay ace xx.

HOW TO GET YOUR ASEXUAL QUESTIONS ANSWERED AT THE FLICK OF A PAGE!

Asexual Perspectives
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity.

I get many asexuals asking me in private messages about various aspects of asexuality and there seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding what makes a person asexual. It would seem that the more questions I get asked, the more I keep referring to my book, and it would seem that maybe people just don’t realise how much valuable information and advice there is within my Asexual Perspectives book, or that pretty much most questions can be answered by reading this book!

Asexual Perspectives is no ordinary Asexual book. It is made up of real asexuals, who tell their very own thoughts and intimate personal details to help you. It is written in their language, in their dialect, and it explains what asexuals really think about sexual attraction and what it means to them. It explains what they believe is the difference between sexual attraction and sexual desire, and the difference between sexual attraction and arousal. It explains how aromantics feel that friendship is not valued enough, and how hard it can be when all of your friends are pairing off and having a family. It explains asexuals views on masturbation, BDSM, kinks and porn, and whether they take part or not. This is a book that already assumes you are asexual, or have a good idea of what asexuality is. It gets down to the nitty gritty of what causes the confusion about being asexual, about other asexuals on the spectrum and is educational, informative and even entertaining in parts!! It deals with serious ace issues, in a way that is relatable, with doses of humour here and there.

I interviewed Asexuals from across the spectrum and living in various places around the globe. From teenagers to the more mature aces, the age range is as diverse as the book. I read the reviews of other Asexual books on Amazon, before I started writing this one. The criticism was, there was not enough real life asexual stories – asexuals telling their own experiences, thoughts and feelings, about ace matters, and how it personally affects them. I was prompted to write this book because I was told I could not identify as a heteroromantic, Grey A, on AVEN, because I was not the text book Grey A definition, because I did not experience sexual attraction! I am not the only one who has been told they cannot identify like they do!! So in my book I address this and redefine Grey A as I see it. This book has asexuals offering advice to other asexuals, it explains other’s mistakes, to help you not to make the same ones. It really is an ace book!!

For those of you who need lots of asexual questions answered – the answers are in this book!! This book took me almost a whole year to write, it is a big book, that pacts an ace punch, I hope you will learn as much about asexuality across the spectrum, as I did writing it!

You can get Asexual Perspectives here: http://amzn.to/2qVfCeS

Until next time, stay ace!

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Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy?

Can An Asexual Still Be Sexy? This is a great question. There are many myths and stereotypes about asexuality, and just because someone is asexual, does not meant to say that someone cannot find you sexy. Sexy is a matter of perception by the person experiencing that feeling.

PLEASE SUBSCRIBE/SHARE/LIKE COMMENT/ SHOP FOR MY ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK HERE http://amzn.to/2l8kppt