Wearing Asexual clothing and having asexual accessories, makes you feel fantastic as an asexual because you are expressing your Asexual identity and showing you most definitely do exist.
Wearing Asexual clothing makes you feel empowered as an asexual and that you are truly living your asexual life and enjoying it. It makes you feel confident to be the wonderful and beautiful asexual you were always born to be!
Asexual Accessories can compliment your asexual clothes, and be as loud or as subtle as you wish them to be.
What’s Ace!
If you are not openly asexual, you can choose an asexual item that says ace on it, which is the slang term, or nickname word if you like, for being asexual, particularly when accompanied by the asexual flag colours, which are black, grey, white and purple.
What do the Asexual Pride Flag Colours Mean?
“The asexual pride flag consists of four horizontal stripes: black, grey, white, and purple from top to bottom. … The black stripe represents asexuality, the grey stripe representing the grey-area between sexual and asexual, the white stripe sexuality, and the purple stripe community.”
“The asexual pride flag consists of four horizontal stripes: black, grey, white, and purple from top to bottom.
In August 2010, after a process of getting the word out beyond the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) and to non-English speaking areas, a flag was chosen following a vote on a non-AVEN site. It has since been seen used on Tumblr in various LGBT areas, but had been seen alongside other sexual orientation flags previous to formal election. The black stripe represents asexuality, the grey stripe representing the grey-area between sexual and asexual, the white stripe sexuality, and the purple stripe community.
The AVEN logo is a triangle fading from white to black to symbolise the gradient between sexuals, gray-asexuals, demisexuals, and asexuals.
The ace of spades and ace of hearts are also used as asexual symbols as “ace” is a phonetic shortening of asexual. Similarly, “aro” is commonly another abbreviation of aromantic. Generally, romantic asexuals use the ace of hearts as their symbol, and aromantic asexuals use the ace of spades.
Another common symbol for the asexual community is a black ring worn on the middle finger of their right hand. The material and exact design of the ring are not important as long as it is primarily black. This symbol also found its start on AVEN in 2005.”
In my experience they cannot live happily forever without sex and I don’t like, need or want that, ever again in my life!The end!Okay, so I have some more reasons but they are linked to the first
Their thinking is different.
They cannot kiss for long periods of time without getting frustrated and pressurising to have sex with them.
They would view a cute pair of PJs as something that needs to be removed quickly for sex. And I like wearing cute PJs and I don’t want sex.
They may want to get their sexual needs met elsewhere and I am 100% a monogamous girl!
They will usually end up going off with someone else due to the lack of sex.
Incompatible needs and intentions.
Can’t make each other happy sexually and that will inevitably lead to other problems such as resentment, unsatisfaction and lack of fulfilment, feeling neglected or rejected and communication becomes lacking as the gap between us widens.
To sum it up, we are just not compatible and I am not prepared to put myself through that heartache ever again.
There is however, someone in my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book who is asexual and said they are with a bisexual person and the sex (or lack of it) was never an issue. I think this is extremely rare, especially if the relationship is monogamous, but nothing is completely impossible in all cases.
As I update this blog post in September 2018, I did try dating a sexual for 2 months in 2017, and I stopped dating him because he turned out to be a real psycho not because of the no sex aspect – but that was also a huge worry for me and he even understood it was better for me to be with an asexual. A mutual friend afterwards said he would have cheated on you.
I know of one sexual person that is married to an aromantic asexual in a monogamous married relationship but the lack of sex makes them unhappy in the relationship aspect of their life. I also met a married couple at the UK Asexuality Conference and she is asexual and he is sexual – hooray for a supportive husband!
I tend to attract the highly sexual guys, so yeah, it would be great if they could live without sex, but they can’t in my experience. And ‘highly’ sexual is the clue! Plus I love Passionate kissing but never want sex, and like I said in my point (2) above, it is just too frustrating for them to do that and not get sex as the ‘reward’ or ‘prize’ they crave.
What is your thoughts? As an asexual, would you date a sexual?
I JUST POSTED THIS ON MY PERSONAL TIMELINE – but it’s IMPORTANT YOU READ THIS TOO, as I have been reflecting a lot lately and making life decisions that MAY AFFECT YOU TOO.
?GIVING YOU A HEADS UP NOW! Been reflecting a lot lately and so glad I am finally going out dancing, and in a place where they have foreign music, foreign guys, and I can dance to foreign tunes and most people are in their 20s, which matches my soul interests and the dancing is such an amazing freeing feeling that finally my soul can achieve and be nourished. I plan to go out dancing in my city far more, as it is so healthy for my mind, body and soul, and I am not a ‘going to the gym’ or ‘routine exercise class’ person. I want to dance in the way I like to for hours on end, and be in an atmosphere that naturally matches my 21st mindset soul and inner being. I like to be around young guys, not around guys near my birth certificate age, and that piece of paper is not me and not true to who I am. I am very grateful and thankful to be born, but that age, is not one I choose to live or be, it’s really not me and makes me unhappy and even miserable sometimes if I let it get its way or in atmospheres or doing things that trigger that or provoke it into action!
I am also going back to focusing on my life purpose which is WRITING and to change lives through the written word – writing is my number one passion in my life and my life purpose – followed very closely by asexuality.
⚡️WARNING PLEASE READ ALL OF THE FOLLOWING!
I will write some books that you will love and adore, but I will also write books that you may not agree with or not like – that is okay, you don’t have to read them and you can go on your own life path and ignore those ones – but I have to write them before I die to be blunt. I want to help as many people as possible with my knowledge and worrying about what people think is not any good for me.
‼️WARNING There is a very controversial book I plan to write and there is a NEED for it, I started writing it a while ago after I got a PM from an Asexual friend, but it is for a very niche amount of people – So I am giving you a heads up right now that some of you will not like it – some asexuals want to have sex or try it for the sake of their partner and they keep coming for my help in PM, afraid and scared and not knowing what to do – and yes, I used to be in heterosexual relationships for half of my life before I discovered I am asexual – I had sex and am experienced in that – even though I no longer want it for me. I have never experienced a need, urged want for it, but yes, I could fully feel it and experience it, probably in part due to the fact I am very sensitive, emotional, and I have high arousal levels – which I cannot help and in the past mistook for sexual attraction. I am also sexual in behaviour with the way I like to kiss with my clothes on – it can feel extreme and scary even for me. I like to get naturally excited with my clothes on, but sex does not appeal to me in the slightest – and yes, my ex was good at sex, but I am not liking sex or wanting it ever again, passionate kissing is a much bigger excitement for me and more explosively pleasurable if you must know, and I do not want sex ever again. I would rather not have had sex in the past and just had the kissing and maybe some touching when in a relationship – that is my dream relationship now – to have love without any sex, but plenty of romance, deepest ever soulmate connection, and deepest ever best friendship, with tons of proactive consistent communication, and making me a priority in his life, a guy loving my for my personality and all of those things mentioned, more than anything else, and first and foremost, but yes, I also NEED close passionate kissing in a relationship, with the tongue, bodies intertwined with clothes on, with the right younger foreign asexual guy in his 20s (in the UK permanently – if I ever find one). So yeah, I will be writing a book about hetero-sex for asexuals who want to try it and have no clue what to do. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, not necessarily the lack of sexual behaviour, although the full definition is the “lack of sexual attraction AND/OR little to no interest in sexual activities” – notice the AND/OR. So if you have problem with that and no longer want to be my friend that is fine – you can go ahead and de-friend me and no hard feelings, but I will not live my life by other people’s mindset and rules – that is not my life, it is yours. I am glad for every asexual that is still a virgin – I think it’s good for you and you are not missing out at all. I am glad there are thousands of asexuals around the globe who have never had sex, that is amazing, and I am proud of you for doing that and staying that way and think it is very healthy for you. I am happy for every asexual who does not have any arousal or sexual behaviour whatsoever, that is fantastic – I am happy for you to be you and me to be me, naturally. I don’t think it is right for any asexuals who do feel aroused or who like doing some things that may be sexual in behaviour, to feel invalidated, guilty or wrong. We are all very different. I believe I was born to be a mixture of some parts of the asexual spectrum, through my life experience, in order to help others. So if you are not comfortable with me helping those asexuals who want to try sex, rather than having a go at me or being unhappy because I am doing that as well as all the no sex ever is fantastic videos and posts, – which in my opinion it is, then please go and be happy and leave my friends list as I do not want to be the cause of your upset or pain. I just need to help as many people as possible, regardless of what you think and believe, and I cannot please everyone.
?To all of my asexual friends who love and support me regardless – and of course all of my many very beautiful sexual friends, who I also love and adore, thank you so very, very much, for accepting me for who I am and caring about me for me. Thanks for continuing to support my mission, my life, my passion and my joys, and for also being and staying with me through those rough and tough times. I love you mountains and thanks for always being in my life, even if it is just silently at times. xxxxxxxx Hugs xxxxxxxx ? Celebrating being me.
If you didn’t know, every October is when Asexual Awareness Week occurs, and this year 2018, is no exception, (21st-27th of October 2018, is Asexual Awareness Week).
Asexual Awareness Week gives each and every asexual the opportunity to promote Asexual Awareness and to ‘come out’ to others if you haven’t already. If you have any family or friends that want to help you to raise awareness too, this is the perfect time to get them to do just that.
We need more visibility, we need more education for others, and we need to get our voices heard – there is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual and I believe living life as an asexual can be one of the most positive and empowering experiences. However, I know the difficulties that crop up, the objections, those awkward moments, the lack of understanding and sensitivity. It’s also tough finding other aces to meet in person, to form strong relationships with, and to find a life partner/s should we wish to. That is why it is so very important for us to raise awareness as much as possible. Wearing an Asexualise Asexual T Shirt, is a great way of raising awareness and that is why I have spent more time learning more Photoshop skills so I can bring you more exclusive designs that are unique and stand out like this ‘Asexual Awareness’ T Shirt on my Redbubble shop.
If you live in an area where Amazon USA delivers, check out my shop on the home page of this site www.asexualise.com If not, Redbubble ship all over the world and you can find my shop here.
Welcome to Asexualise.com. It’s ace to have you here and I hope you can grab yourself a cup of your favourite drink and a slice of your favourite cake, and get settled in to making this your new asexual home.
A lot has happened since I first published this blog post on April 12th 2016. Over 2 years ago! And today is 26th of August 2018.
I run 5 asexual groups on Facebook. Including the Asexual Friends group here www.facebook.com/groups/acefriendsrus (If applying, please answer all questions.)
And now I have a shop on here in which I have gathered the best asexual products on Amazon for you in one place. Mostly they are from Amazon USA as currently they have more asexual products, so if they don’t ship to you, you can buy a range of products from my Redbubble shop.
Last month I also launched https://www.asexualiseacademy.com which is the world’s first online training centre and school for asexuals and asexuality. And I have a free 9 part video training series on there in asexuality basics for beginners! Which explains what asexuality is and what the asexual spectrum and aromatic spectrum is! So go there now and sign up and you will be taken to the Course Library page where you enter your details again to get the course for free.
I created this site especially for you, to empower and enhance your asexual life. Jammed packed with asexual products, social media resources, blog, and more; with more to come, I hope you will enjoy your stay. Enjoy the shop and resources here. If there is anything I can help you with, or any suggestions you have, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. Twitter http://www.twitter.com/acexualise or on my http://www.facebook.com/acexualise page or via the chat box on this site.
I aim to write more non-fiction books for asexuals in the future as well as in other niches. Writing is my hugest passion in life, although I have many others – including being quirky! And I love being asexual, it’s the best thing ever for me. I also plan to create paid for online training and coaching courses in the future; if you want more in-depth help with asexuality, such as increasing confidence and self-esteem, you will want to check those out when they appear on here. There will also be related courses too, such as “Power of One” How to supercharge your single life to feel happy and fulfilled forever. All of these are still yet to come, but they will be on my new www.asexualiseacademy.com
In order to maintain your asexual beauty and personal care, it is important to not only get the right products, but to also take action to boost your self-esteem and feel great.
10 Top Tips To BOOST Your Self-esteem And Feel Great!
Look good and feel great by taking care of the most important person in your life, YOU!
Whether it’s pampering yourself from head to toe, or taking a simple bubble bath, the most important person to take care of is you! Because once you feel good on the inside, it will be clearly visible on the outside!
It is so important to boost your self-esteem whenever possible, and there are many ways you can do this with taking ultra good care of your personal health and beauty being one of them! You can also:
Hobbies
1) Do hobbies that make you feel great!
Get Creative
2) Be creative. Creativity boosts your energy levels and makes you feel good.
Water Wellness
3) Drink plenty of water, keeping hydrated is essential to your health and wellbeing and can make you feel more alert and energetic.
Endorphin Hit!
4) Exercise whenever possible, every little bit helps to release endorphins, which is those feel good chemicals!
5) Laughing also releases endorphins – so make sure you do as much to make yourself laugh as possible and try to get friends who you feel comfortable around, who you can be yourself with, and who make you laugh too!
Exercise Your Brain!
6) Physical exercise is important, but exercising your brain is equally, if not more important, as once the brain goes dead you feel dead inside, whilst still very much being alive, so take personal and professional development courses, read books, watch educational programmes and YouTube videos that will grow you as a person!
7) Indulge your senses whenever possible; sight, smell, taste and touch. Get out into fresh air or eat some lovely smelling food, which also tastes good, and if meeting up with friends in person, give them a hug to greet them and say goodbye!
Find Your Tribe!
8) Join both online and offline groups to make friends and spend time with those friends. See them in person or on video chat.
9) Spend time with people who really understand you and who you can relate to! Many of our problems stem from being around others who are not like ourself and who don’t understand us. If you have prolonged exposure to these types of people, it can be very destructive for your personal wellbeing as you can feel there is something wrong with you when there isn’t and you are constantly looking to fix you, when instead you just need to fix your situation, by removing these people from your life, or spending less time with them! You need to find your tribe, those who understand you and who want to be around you and spend time with you, because they love and like you for who you are.
Make Change Happen For You Not To You!
10) Trying something new, can be a bit scary at first, but it is good to push yourself out of your comfort zone as much as possible, otherwise your life stagnates and you can become bored with it, without realising. Plus your brain needs stimulation, even if you don’t like change, you should make change happen for you, rather than to you, therefore it is not so scary and you can make good progress with your life!
I hope these personal care 10 top tips to boost your self-esteem have helped you to feel great on the inside, so then you will radiate more beauty on the outside! Because YOU are worth it! Believe it!
Show off your beautiful asexuality with amazing Beauty and Personal care asexual products right here on Asexualise.com
So if you were unable to attend the UK Asexuality Conference on 8th of July 2018, I was a speaker there and this was my “How To Arrange An Asexual Meetup” talk for beginners, those who are just starting out arranging asexual meetups and who have never arranged one in their life. I think you will enjoy this talk very much. Any questions, please posts them in the comments below.
You may have noticed something different about this site very recently! It now has an asexual shop that is currently under construction at the time of writing this post on July 31st 2018!
You may or may not remember, that this site used to have a shop previously incorporated within it? But now, it is an actual shop, rather than having one just incorporated within it. Well, almost, as I am still adding category images and still have some work to do on the aesthetics and certain pages, but 108 products are already in it. I never knew the immense amount of asexual products out there, until I went searching for them for YOU!
These asexual products are selected from Amazon.com and added to the shop here for you, so you have all the best asexual products in the one place! You can add multiple products to your shopping cart, just by clicking add to cart, and you will be automatically redirected to Amazon to checkout, but if the item is not available to be shipped to your country, for example, to the UK, it will not show in your shopping cart on Amazon to prevent any purchases that cannot be fulfilled and shipped to your country. Under each item it has a symbol of a USA flag or British flag, so you can see which items are available just in the USA – such as many of the Asexual T-Shirts you see, but things like the Asexual books you see, can mostly be got in both the USA and UK and globally!
No matter where you live around the world, you can always shop for many asexual products, including asexual T-Shirts, skirts, tops, leggings, and so much more, at my Asexualise Asexual shop on Redbubble, just take a look at the screenshot below and you can see to the left of (some of) my designs, all of the products I sell, from Asexualise Asexual Acrylic Blocks to Asexualise Asexual Wall Tapestries – by clicking here https://www.redbubble.com/people/asexualise Please note, that prices will vary from Amazon due to different manufacturers, and the prices viewed here are subject to change, so please check out my shop for up-to-date prices!
I am going to be honest with you, and let you know, that if you click through any link in my Asexual shop on this site and you do make a purchase, I may get some monetary compensation for it! This helps to keep this site running, and pay for web hosting and domain renewal (which increase in price every year) so I can continue to bring you ace Asexual resources, inspiration, help, advice and guidance, and keep this blog going! So you get Asexual products all in one place, saving you time trawling through them all on Amazon and I get to keep this site going for you – win/win!
So keep your eyes peeled for a blog post announcing the official launch of this Asexualise Asexual shop, in the meantime, I have tested the shop with the products I already have on it and the shopping cart and checkout, and they are working! So you should be able to go ahead and make your selections! Just remember if you live outside the USA, and you cannot get the item shipped to your country, it will not be added to your Amazon shopping cart and there is currently no way I can get a notice added to pop up on the Amazon site to say this, through the redirect link, it simply won’t add the item/s to your actual shopping cart! If you have problems with this or you have any queries or questions, you can always reach out to me on chat which is available on every page, if I am not there at the time, as I am away producing more content for you, please leave your email and I will get back to you! You can also email me asexualise@gmail.com I am also on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/acexualise
Here is the first video (Asexual Relationships) from the Asexuality Conference UK. I was in a team 3 for this panel discussion and it is interesting to hear the varying viewpoints, and my short talk about Asexual Relationships starts about 03.48. My friend recorded this for me, and edited it for me. The person who introduces us did not want to be filmed, so you can only hear their voice and they have been cut out of any visuals.
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